Archive for July, 2011
Wow, last week’s blog post on feminine body language struck a nerve. Thanks for all the great comments and extra suggestions, girls!
Last week we talked about feminine posture. But there are 4 critical elements of body language:
- Facial expressions
- Eye contact
Remember, body language counts for over 50% of what you are communicating, so this is a huge part of your feminine image.
Here are DO’s and DON’Ts of mastering the other 3 elements of body language (plus some pics of me doing a little modeling for ya.):
Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice how women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
- DO use your hands to emphasize what you are saying, but don’t overdo it. Check out GG’s for the correct balance.
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Slowing down your gestures makes you look confident and in control. Keep your elbows in and practice slow, smooth movements.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or peeling the labels off your beer bottles.
|DON’T fidget nervously or twirl your hair||DO practice slow, smooth movements with elbows in
2. Facial expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, pleasant facial expressions put people at ease and help you blend in and get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others.
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned slightly up at all times.
- DO greet clerks, waiters, and people you meet with a smile – even if they’re strangers. Everybody loves a smile.
|DON’T look stoic||DO smile!|
3. Eye contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they are hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. You know that confidence is half the battle to passing – so look people in the eye and show them that you’re a confident women.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
So what do you think? What are YOUR secrets for feminine gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact? I’d love to hear your thoughts, so leave me your comments below!
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Hello, lovelies! This week’s hot topic is: BODY LANGUAGE. Body language counts for over 50% of what you are communicating, so this is a huge part of your feminine image.
Body language consists of:
- Facial expressions
- Eye contact
I’m going to talk about posture in Part 1 of my “Feminine Body Language Secrets” series.
Here are the 3 biggest differences between the way men and women hold their bodies:
1. Open vs. closed
The #1 posture rule you need to remember is that women take up less space than men. This might seem obvious, but I’m amazed at many girls forget to keep their legs together and their elbows in. (Genetic girls, too!)
Open body positions are associated with the display of power. Besides making you look more passive and feminine, a closed body position makes you appear physically smaller.
2. Straight vs. curved
Sexy women are all about the curves, including the way they hold their bodies.
Next time you’re standing in line somewhere, notice how many women put their weight onto one leg, thrusting their hip out. This creates an S-shaped curve in the body. Notice how men tend to stand with their weight evenly spread over both feet.
You can create this S-curve with your body when you are sitting, too. Either cross your legs or put your weight onto one hip.
3. Weight forward vs. weight neutral
Have you ever noticed how many men lean forward at the shoulders – particularly if they are trying to establish their dominance? Contrast this to women, who tend to keep their shoulders back and their weight neutral.
Keeping your weight evenly balanced can be tricky in heels, so you need to be especially careful not to lean forward when you are standing or walking. (You shouldn’t lean back either – so get out those stilettos and practice, practice, practice!)
I’ll discuss gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact in my next blog post. But in the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! What other subtle body language differences have you noticed between men and women?