3 Tips for Feminizing Short Hair

Last week I wrote about the best hairstyles for transgender women. A lot of girls have been asking me to recommend cute, feminine styles for short hair and I promised to chat about that this week.

(Note: Keep reading even if you don’t have short hair because tips #2 and #3 apply to hair of all lengths.)

I generally prefer longer hair on transgender women, but it’s important to chose a style that works for YOU. Some TG women actually look prettier and more feminine with short hair vs. long hair. So have an open mind as you experiment with different styles!

That said, here are my top 3 tips for feminizing short hair:

1. Get a cute haircut

The first thing you need is a great haircut that can be styled in different ways. Choppy layered styles are very “in” right now and look great in both male and female mode.

Ask your hairstylist to show you different options for styling your hair. Layers that are swept towards the face are very feminine and flattering. Curls are another great, girly option.

Here are some short styles that would look great on a TG woman:


2. Try hair accessories

TG women with short hair look fantastic with barrettes and headbands, so this is an easy way to feminize a short haircut.

You can wear hair accessories at any age, but choose something appropriate. Stay away from girly bows or headbands after age 30. Instead, go for something sophisticated like a beautiful barrette or a pretty flower for your hair.


3. Wear a hat

Hats aren’t very popular with women these days, but thanks to Kate Middleton they’re on their way back. The soon-to-be Princess has been photographed in some incredible hats and is sparking a hat trend around the world.

Hats are the easiest way to feminize your hairstyle. In fact, you don’t even have to do your hair! Just throw on a pretty hat and you’re good to go.

Be sure to consider the season when selecting a hat. I know this sounds obvious, but I’ve seen girls wear knit hats in the summer and straw hats in the winter and it just looks ridiculous. Felt hats can be worn year round except for the hottest months.


Since so many girls have asked me about short hairstyles, I thought it would be fun to do a poll on hair length:

What length do you wear your hair en femme?

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Take the poll above and leave me your thoughts below! And be sure to share any other suggestions you have for our short haired girls!


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  1. When I am feeling girly I curl my short hair. I am letting it grow right now it is just long enough to put on a small curler.

  2. Some of the styles pictured above are nice, but those are also genetic females! For a tgirl who’s trying to “pass” it is not so easy to pull it off, esp. without long hair to frame your face. And in the back, my hair is just barely at chin level.

    • Don’t give up on the ladies pictured. Actually ISTM half of them, even Middleton, are “boyish” enuf in the face that they could totally play young-man roles (if they could do the rest of what being male takes — not that I have much clue about THAT, LOL!).

      Of course, this batch of photos also *totally* confirms my “thing” for what a friend once called “boyish-looking women” — and since, as a bi cis woman, she shared that attraction, she didn’t mean that in a bad way at all!

  3. I have naturally curly hair and I just want it to hurry up and grow long! I am loathe to get a hair CUT because I don’t have enough to spare!

    • Are you taking fenugreek for breast enlargement?
      If you are, it should help you with your hair. What’s the condition- Apolecia or something close.
      Lucille or Jennie may be able to clarify this!
      I had a good head of hair, now I have a good mop of hair.
      I am naturally wavy/curly hair >> blonde gone to fair.
      I am looking for a hairdresser to trim & shape my hair, till then I’ll stick with male mode.
      Real long hair wouldn’t suit me, look like a drag queen.

  4. Hi Lucille,
    Over the last year I have been searching for a hair style to make me feel better about myself. I love the style in the photo on the top row on the right end. Can you tell me where I can get information on it and how to get my hair to eventually look something like it.

  5. I totally agree, I have a short pixie cut with highlights and love the look. I want to get some low lights to finish it off and give it a really nice pretty look! Thank you

  6. Before I understood that I was trans, I had really long hair. Fell into almost perfect ringlets and naturally grew blond tips, when straightened it was well past the shoulder, then I started trying to act more manly after social pressures and the desire to conform crushed me. I shaved my hair short down to a milimeter grew a beard and staye dlike this for a couple of years. Now I’m trying to grow it back but because I cut so short it is going to take forever! Another year I’d say before my hair is long enough to do a nice female short style :S

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