Embracing your true feminine self is about more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup…
From feeling confident in your womanly presentation to perfecting your voice and movements, there’s a LOT to consider on this journey.
That’s why I’m excited to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the surface.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 essential dos and don’ts to help make your male to female transformation or transition a little smoother. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women is a misery-inducing habit.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
While you shouldn’t be a copycat, it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Depending on your body goals, you may want to purchase the following:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While a perfect voice isn’t necessary, working on a congruent voice will have a big impact on your image.
Check out EvaF online voice feminization training for guidance.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
Dressing appropriately for your age is wise, but that doesn’t mean you have to look boring or frumpy above a certain age.
Choose clothing and accessories that make you look your best without appearing too young or too mature.
To learn more, see my blog post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
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Oh, the Lucille tips are SO right on, as usual! Of course, a little personal adjustment might be in order, depending on your role in the universe, or on your circumstances. No. 10, “Have fun”, could sometimes conflict with Nos. 5 and 6, “Dress age-appropriately”, and “Dont overdo it”. Sometimes age-appropriate doesn’t apply, as long as you don’t gross anyone out. And sometimes ya just gotta overdo it a wee bit, just to make yer statement at the moment. Of course, it helps to be among friends at those times, who are used to yer shenannigans! And, is it OK, Lucille darlin ‘, my hero, to take YOU as a role model?
Find some trusted female friends that you have come out to. I have two lovely ladies who i meet with regularly.They are very honest, they tell me when i look great, or have made a mistake.I’m so lucky to have them.