Archive for Transgender Body Language
What’s the secret to being a super hot woman?
In my opinion, it’s all about mastering your MOVEMENTS!
Maybe you’ve seen it for yourself: the plain Jane woman whose sexy walk turns heads vs. the beautiful girl whose dude-like swagger kills her looks.
How feminine are YOUR movements? Do you project femininity when you walk or have you gone overboard into drag queen territory?
Here are 3 feminine movement mistakes every crossdresser and transgender woman needs to avoid:
1. Over exaggerating your hip movements
Everybody knows that women sway their hips when they walk, but the biggest tipoff of an amateur is overexaggerated hip movements.
Don’t swing your hips around – instead, put on a pair of high heels. Heels cause your hips to sway without you having to force the movement. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Being too stiff
Genetic males naturally have tenser bodies than women do. If your body is tense, your movements are going to look stiff and masculine.
The secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body. Be careful not to tense your shoulders or lower back when you are “en femme”. It’s also super helpful to stretch and get massages to release built up tension.
3. Arching your back
Arching your back and sticking your chest out might look sexy, but real women don’t walk around like that.
Instead, keep your back straight and pull your shoulders down and back. This makes you look confident and feminine, without looking ridiculous.
Now that you know what not to do, here’s a video demonstrating the RIGHT way to walk. Notice the straight posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed movements:
How feminine are YOUR movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful? Leave me your comments below!
P.S. Want more advanced feminine movement training? My Stepping Out Secrets Program will show you how to REPROGRAM your movements so you can walk like a naturally graceful woman. Go here for all the details!
Putting on a dress and some lipstick aren’t the only ways to get into girl mode. (We women are more complex than that!) That’s why I wanted to go beyond the obvious and share 3 surprising ways to feel more feminine:
1. Lean back
I recently attended a teleclass hosted by my friend, relationship and intimacy coach Annie Lalla. One of the participants asked how she could feel more connected with her femininity. (Yes, genetic girls struggle with this, too! A lot of women have too much masculine energy and it drives guys away.)
Annie’s advice was to “lean back”. I LOVED this and thought it was also great advice for transgender women …
First, check your body. Are you leaning forward or leaning back? Leaning forward like you are poised for action is very masculine. Get into the habit of leaning back. When you are sitting down, imagine you are a queen leaning back in her throne. Feels good, doesn’t it?
Then, check your behavior. Are you one of those girls who pushes her way through life? If so, you need to “lean back” in your actions and in your conversations with others. Try less muscling and more allowing. “Leaning back” is a great metaphor for living from your feminine.
2. Try a different perfume
The right fragrance can connect you with your femininity like nothing else.
While it’s great to have a “signature scent,” don’t get stuck to an old perfume. Since scent is strongly linked to memories, your current perfume might be bringing you back to a time that doesn’t represent who you are now.
If so, it’s time to go shopping! Look for a perfume that matches the qualities you want to express. Think floral scents if you want to express your romantic side and oriental or woody scents if you want to bring out your inner seductress.
Ok, hear me out before you dismiss this last tip as a cheesy platitude. There are loads of reasons why smiling is a fabulous beauty and femininity booster:
- Smiling releases endorphins in the brain that boost your mood.
- Smiling lifts your cheeks and gives you a natural facelift.
- Smiling makes other people happy.
- Smiling makes you look more feminine.
The last point is especially interesting. According to a Japanese study, smiling faces are rated as more feminine than serious faces. That’s because women and girls smile more frequently than boys and men.
There is an art to smiling, so practice in front of a mirror until you find your best smile. (Try big and small smiles and smiling with your mouth open and closed.) Then work that feminine smile as often as you can!
So, girlfriend, what are YOUR favorite ways to feel more feminine? You know I love a good discussion, so leave me your comments below!