5 Hairstyle Mistakes that Prevent You From Passing as a Woman
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Did you realize that your HAIR is one of the first things people notice about you?
Unfortunately, there are some common hairstyle mistakes that could be preventing you from passing or blending in as a woman …
Here are the top 5 CD/TG hairstyle mistakes – and how to fix them!
1. Choosing the wrong hair color
If you wear a wig or dye your hair, choosing the right hair color is key. The wrong shade will wash you out and highlight the harsh angles of your face.
Rule #1 is to stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color. Most girls can’t pull off extreme shades like “Barbie” blonde or jet black.
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| Only Barbie can pull off this shade of blonde! | Jet black is too harsh for most people’s skin tones | Stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color |
Rule #2 is to choose a hair color that compliments your skin tone.
First, identify whether you have a WARM or a COOL skin tone. (Hint: If the veins on your inner wrist appear blue, you have a cool skin tone. If they look green, you have a warm skin tone.)
If you have a cool skin tone, choose hair colors with a cool tone – like coffee brown, burgundy, or ash blonde. If you have a warm skin tone, opt for golden shades such as chestnut, auburn, or honey blonde.
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| COOL hair colors compliment cool skin tones | WARM hair colors compliment warm skin tones |
2. Wearing the wrong hairstyle
The wrong hair hairstyle can throw off your entire appearance. Hairstyles that are too short, too long, or too angular have a masculinizing effect on your face.
Shoulder length cuts with soft waves or layers are most feminine and flattering. Soft bangs are also a must if you have a high forehead.
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| Long, straight, center-parted hair is too severe | Angular bobs emphasize the angles of your face | Soft waves and bangs are feminine and flattering |
3. Showing off thinning hair or a receding hairline
While it’s great to grow out your own hair, make sure you have enough of it to show off!
I often see crossdressers and transgender women with thinning hair or receding hairlines. Slight hair loss might not be noticeable in guy mode, but it instantly reads as masculine in girl mode.
Hair loss treatments and hormones can help with hair regrowth, but in the meantime, wear a wig or hair piece. You could also rock a cute hat!
4. Wearing cheap or worn out wigs
If you’re going to wear a wig, invest in the best one you can afford. High quality human hair wigs cost hundreds (or even thousands) of dollars, but you can find synthetic wigs for much less.
No matter how much you spend, you want to look for SHINE and SOFTNESS. Wigs with dull, rough hair fibers scream “fake” from a mile away.
Also keep in mind that wigs have a limited life span. As soon as your wig starts to look dull or frizzy, it’s time to shop for a new one.
5. Wearing a wig too high or too low on your forehead
If you are new to wigs, it’s normal to be scared your wig is going to fall off. Your instinct might be to push the wig down, but the low-forehead look is NOT flattering. (Hello, Neanderthal!)
On the other hand, if the wig isn’t properly secured, it can creep up your forehead. That’s not pretty either.
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| Wig worn too low | Wig worn too high | Wig worn at natural hairline |
To avoid slippage (and paranoia about your wig falling off), I suggest sewing wig clips to the inside of the wig. Wearing a wig cap or a wig grip can also help keep your wig in place.
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| Wig clips | Wig cap | Wig grip |
Now let’s hear YOUR thoughts on this topic! I’d love to hear your best hairstyle tips and tricks, so upload a photo of your femme hairstyle and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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My personal preference are lace front wigs. The synthetic ones are not as expensive as they were when they first came out, many you can add heat to, and a good one will give you a natural hairline. I prefer mine with a part so that it looks realistic. Lace wigs give me the ability to wear my hair down or up, and to the back, in natural looking styles <3
I am quite timid but growing my hair out was my way of taking the first step. I’m a free spirit and people simply take my long, flowing hair as a reflection of who I am. The bonus is getting compliments on my hair from complete strangers–I became friends with a woman who accosted me on the elevator, saying I had pretty hair and to wear it down more. It was one of the first times I felt affirmed, and I wasn’t even dressed up!
This seems to work for me…
I get complements on my hair all the time…
…and other assets
You look fab!
I look more passable with a medium length, more like a hippie if it’s long. Has to cover my neck and sides of my face.
I’ve been scared to go out in femme until I made the decision on July 19th 2012, to live my life my way. and on that day, I went and got my hair done, Went to Eye Dr. to get my eye’s checked, I got my woman’s eye glasses, from there I’ve gone out many times, including to the movies all on my own, getting called Ma’am everywhere I go, why did I wait so long? I’m loving myself and life. I hope everyone can do what I’ve done. Bravery? I don’t know!
Hi Tammi, when I read this I at first said, ‘easier said than done’, but then realized–hey! she’s in the same position I am in, and just said ‘F-it I’m gonna do this!’ Thank you so much more motivating me. When it comes down to it, who cares what people think!
I wish i am as brave as u. i am a male to female trans just waiting to be put on hormones and i am very shy. i wear female clothing all the time just not go out like it, i am just very shy.
one more thing about hair color – if you were much lighter as a child, you can usually go that color or one shade darker as an adult (any age) and trust it will still look good …
Thankx for…..
Lucille, as ever a very helpful set of reminders and advice. Thank you. I am now thin on top, as befits my age (!) and grey but in my heyday I was a darkish blond. So I think a slightly grey colour is ok now with a tendency to blond. I recently tried to get (in UK) one of those hair enhancers which is a kind of wig with holes in. It is attached by pulling selected bunches of your own hair through. Theoretically it gives the effect of highlights, assuming you go for a similar texture to your own with, as you say, only a couple of shades away from your own. Hopefully something affordable like that will come up.
Gen XX
Thankfully my hair is the least of my worries in my male to female journey.
you are so right about the right lenth of the hair and soft bangs. Being an older gurl i realy do want to be attractive and yet that sexy soft fem look
When my hair looks good i feel wonderful and alive!
joie
Lucille
I love the useful reminder about staying within 2 shades of my natural hair colour. I have a warm skin tone, and I know that chestnut brown is the perfect tone for myself.
I consider that the idea about the hair grips is a lifesaver.
Richard X
What skin color is within two shades of GRAY? Just teasing, my hair is not yet gray, but my natural blonde is getting a little ashier every year. The color seems to look ok with me, though. I certainly want to avoid dying, although one of my girl mentors sez dye adds volume, which I would love more of. I wear it longish, but not too. That’s a bit of a nuisance, but I like it, and it provides more options. Even though my hair is a bit receded in front, I can usually fake it. I have been using generic Rogaine, with slow results. Women’s Rogaine is 2% minoxidyl, and men’s is 5%, for the same price. The women’s is weaker because thay say it’s to avoid encouraging facial hair growth. But if it’s weaker they should charge less. So buy men’s, and use less, or dilute it with 2.5 to 1 water to Rogaine. Bottom line: I just LOVE it when my hair looks good and I even get an occasional complement. It helps make up for those bad hair days.
Love your comments and videos and content for all the wonderful things we need to know as blossoming women…Been at it a while myself so here is a picture of me in a new short wig which I don’t usually wear and on a cruise no less so what do you think comments and constructive criticism desired…Thanks…Felicia