Did you know you only have 7 seconds to make a first impression?
After that, a person’s judgments have been made and are almost impossible to change.
So how can you be sure people see you as the fabulous female that you are?
I won’t lie… good looks help. But it’s often the little details that make or break a first impression.
Here are my top 5 ways to make a feminine first impression:
1. Know what you want to project
First, you have to know what you want to project:
- Is your goal to blend in as an everyday girl?
- Or do you want to stick out as a gender-bending fashion diva?
- Do you want to be recognized for your style and sophistication?
- Or do you simply want people to notice your great legs? 🙂
When you know what you want to project, you can then determine if your appearance and attitude get the message across.
2. Be aware of your body language
Body language is critical to first impressions. You never want to look nervous, ashamed, or on the opposite end of the spectrum, arrogant.
Your posture and body language should tell the world that you’re a classy, confident woman who deserves respect.
Here are 27 body language mistakes that can detract from a feminine first impression. Avoid them at all costs!
3. Wear the right color
Did you know that 50% of all non-verbal messages come from color? Amazing but true!
The color you wear has a strong subconscious impact on how people perceive you – especially when you present yourself as a woman.
Different colors have different meanings (more on that here), so consider what the colors that you wear communicate.
Even more importantly, you should wear colors that flatter you and make you feel great.
4. Check your grooming habits
Studies show that physical attractiveness is mostly based on “self care” – that is, good grooming, neat hair, and nice clothes.
That’s great news because presentation is something you can control! After all, most of us weren’t born supermodels, but anyone can take the time to look the part.
Grooming can make or break a first impression, so be sure your standards are up to par. Here are 5 feminine grooming habits that should be part of your regular routine.
5. Make eye contact
Your eyes reveal more about you than you probably realize. Avoiding eye contact gives the impression that you have low self-esteem or have something to hide.
Confident eye contact puts people at ease and wins respect. That’s definitely a plus for a positive first impression.
So be bold, look people in the eye, and don’t forget to smile!
What kind of impression do YOU want to make?
There’s a lot to be said about this topic, but I’ve highlighted the most important areas you should consider.
Now I’d like to hear from you!
What’s the first impression YOU want to make? Do you have any tips to add to this list?
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
transformation tips?
“PASS” as a woman in public can be a very different experience to each of us.
I am transgender so I only hope to speak to those like myself, for which “Passing in public” is not an option, goal, or choice…it means nothing.
It is “nothing” because of “who” we are not “what” we are
Examples, so many of us are here for many of our own reasons and to “Pass” for our own reason
The Cross Dresser may just dress as a woman for fun, pleasure, or adventure…”passing” for him/her may take on a smaller meaning. “Pass” or not, the wig and makeup comes off till the next time and the CD is off to live and work as the man he is the next day
The Tranvestite may dress as a woman for excitment or sexual reasons. “Passing” may take on a greater importance as the more woman they appear, the greater the sensation of the act…but once again, the wig and makeup come off till next weekend or the urge returns
For the transgender, like myself, it is different. I take injections, pills, therapy, and live this reality every minute of my life…my hair, body, face, and life, stay the same “Pass” or not.
To “Pass” is to seek acceptance from others…society if you would. For the transgender community we seek acceptance from withing…”Passing” is for ourselves. If no one accepted us as women no matter how much effort we put in, that does not change the motivation we have to be “Who” we are. The next day we face the same world as we are, “Passing” or not…we have no choices, options, or goals, about it we are “who” we are
My words to the transgender community are this. Look in the mirror when you are ready to leave your home…if you “Pass” for youself, then go out in the world and do not concern yourself with “Passing” for others. It is not about others…it is about YOU 🙂
Cristina
I really agree with you on what you have said here. It is so very true for all of us
I was just about to say something like that, but you say it so very well. True;)
So well written and very well thought out. So refreshing to hear from someone who has done their inner work… is connected to who they really are (that has nothing to do with gender) and understands themselves! Awesome!!!!! You ROCK!
Very Well written.
Hi. I have often wanted to email you but
did not know how. There is a person
called Jamie who has a site selling
crossdresser stuff. “Flat to Fem” is
One of them. Is he associated with
you or just ripping you off?
My main point was and is DO NOT fall into thinking that just because you were not born with the right cover aka body that you are not a woman. My being, my essence, my life force, my soul what every one wants to call it is 1,000,000% woman. If you believe that all it takes to be a woman is Breasts and a Vagina then you will never acheive your dream, your goal.
First and formost just because someone is born with Breasts and a Vagina does not make them a woman it makes them female, being a woman is far more than that, it is a state of mind, it is attitude, it is confidence, it is pride, it is knowing who you are.
I am NOT a MTF Transsexual, I am a woman and because I know that I am a woman I project that. Everything I do is that any woman does in living her life. My life is dedicated to being a woman, there are no compromises.
When you are 100% confident in yourself in being a woman then you will be and are a woman, when you project woman that is what others see and accept. Never waiver in yourself, never waiver in knowing that you are a woman.
I am as much if not more of a woman as any natural born, I project that and they accept that.
First impressions are the most important and when you project that you are a woman that is your most important impression.
Hold your head up and be proud that you are a woman.
The subject of pride and showing it has been touched on but I picked up a phrase some years back at a T convention, ESPRIT, I reminds all my girls in my support group, and that is simply put HUTO, or Head up Tits out. Show pride in who and what you are and displaying and living it!
Vicki Rae
Hey gang have a great weekend! A lot of great ideas on here that I had to figure out for myself..wish Lucille was around 10 years ago *giggles Have a Sexy lady like weekend! ~ Jen : )
You go girl!! You look very fab!!
I LIKE THE WAY YOU PRESENT YOU NICE BODY.. I LOVE IT
Lucille, I need your help,
I have felt like their is a woman inside me for years, and I’m only 21. I been listening to feminazation hypnosis and learning how to make myself more like a woman, but I’m scared. I never told anybody about this except anounsmly on the net. I want to become a woman, I want to undergo the surgery’s to get a set of perky little breast and remove all my unwanted hair, but I’m afraid of what my family may think. I always deamed I could find a guy that would see me as a woman and who would help me to undergo the surgeries and be there for me. i also picture myself having lots of female friends that were once physically male. I need some people that I can talk to on somewhat a regular basis and who can help me. Are their guys out there that would be willing to except me for who I am on the inside as i change my outside?
I pose this not to just you Luicelle, but also anyone who can offer me advice. Please.
P.S. I know I am horrible with spelling, so I hope you will forgive me for that.
Chris, I do understand how you feel. Because I always tried my best to push my feeling down and live how society said I should live. Well that was fine until I reached a point where I had two choices stay the same and die or transision. I would strongly suggest that you try to find out how strong your feelings of being a woman really are and go find a therapist. Try and take the COGIATI at http://transsexual.org/TEST0.html and find out the results. Print out the questions with your answers when you see a Therapist. I know the family pressure very well as I have been married for 25 years I was afraid to hurt my wife. Now that I am lucky she is still with me and supports me. Most spouses tend to run away at the drop of a hat. But usually the sooner you come out the better it will be for you.
Thanks Lucille, for another great post! I have another suggestion, that relates to the last one. For goodness sake, be confident! I once had a lady at a makeup store tease me about how whenever they would work on me I would look so good (or so I think) that I would strut out of the store! I checked myself the next time and realized she was right. Whenever I feel a little low in confidence I remind myself to strut. It seems to work every time.