A common mistake some crossdressers and transgender women make is dressing too sexy. This often looks ridiculous – ESPECIALLY as you get older.
Does that mean you need to turn down your sex appeal after a certain age?
Absolutely not!
Instead, simply follow these 3 rules for dressing sexy at any age:
Rule #1: Show some skin (just not too much)
Short skirts and low cut tops are undeniably sexy, but you shouldn’t go too far with this. Here are a couple guidelines to keep in mind:
- Your skirt should be no shorter than fingertip length when you stand with your arms to your sides.
- Your top should show no more than 40% of your bust.
At the same time, you shouldn’t be TOO covered up since that just screams “old lady.” Show off your feminine assets, but do so in a tasteful and classy way.
Rule #2: Find the right proportions
Proportion refers to the way your clothes work together in length, width, size and volume.
For example:
- A short skirt paired with a short top tends to look slutty.
- A long skirt paired with a long top looks dowdy.
- A full skirt paired with a full top makes you look heavy.
- A tight skirt paired with a tight top can make you look like a sausage (unless you have a perfect body!).
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You should never go too far in any one direction. That means if you wear something tight or skimpy, you should balance things out with the rest of your outfit.
For example:
- A short skirt should be paired with a more covered top.
- A skimpy top should be paired with a more covered bottom.
- A tight skirt should be paired with a fuller top.
- A tight top should be paired with a fuller skirt.
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Rule #3: Wear luxurious fabrics
The final piece of the sexy puzzle is the fabrics you wear.
Think slutty and what comes to mind? A spandex skirt, barely there glittery top, and patent leather stripper boots, right?
Sexy, on the other hand, is associated with luxurious fabrics like silk, velvet, lace, and cashmere.
When shopping for clothes, look for fabrics that are rich and sensuous – rather than cheap and tacky.
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Final thoughts …
The bottom line is that you are NEVER too old to be your sexy femme self. Just be sure to keep it classy.
As always, I’ve love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please leave me your comments below!
And if you’re already mastered the art of sexy ageless dressing, don’t forget to include a photo. 🙂
Love,
Lucille
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Hi thank you for your site, it has helped me in my transition. I’m 62 and started over two years ago, I have 5 inch light metalic gold open toe pumps I like to wear with a contour red dress or a black pencil skirt. Being trans can be a bummer, I bought a fluttery purple skirt from The Loft made of very good material but it was to short on me, I wore it once and decided it was too short for my age, I gave it to a woman who loved it. thanks for your help Tiffany
Lucille,
Always great tips..I agree you are never too old if you dress with class. I am in my 60’s and have learned so much from you about fashion, dressing my age and not going over the top. I dress to blend in and have had great fun going out.
Have fun,
Barbara
Barbara the above outfit is simple yet elegant and perfect for a lady in her 60s. Bravo!
Skirt might be a little too short? Seems I did combine a looser top with a tighter skirt as Lucille has suggested. What do you think girl friends?
I think it looks great to be honest and don’t feel your skirt is to short but in proportion,lovely pic
Hi sweetie just to let you know I think you look very hot and in very good taste
Estás maravillosamente linda amiga, esa ropa te hace elegante y distinguida, te ves una gran mujer, felicidades.
Hi
Thank you very much for your advice to crossdressing .l like to wear high neck collar such as peter pan collar to cover my neck and i like bink colour dresses.
Dear Lucille.
I turned 60 but I buy from catalogs
Such as: Chadwick’s, Benus, North Style, Dress Barn for women. Winter or Fall I was wondering how others as well as yourself feel about sweater dresses as I live on the Esst Coast? Also purchased Leather leggings, wear nylons ( thigh hi or pantyhose. I wear size 14 dress, & pants / slacks. I weigh 180 so would love “feedback” about where I shop (good or bad/ too conservative? Lucille I know you are genetic woman, so your opinion definitely counts & you are sexy & I try not to compare to genetic but Trans ladies I identify with. Ok love gotta go take care.
Love…… Robin Jennifer
Lucille, I have the same “problem” as Robin Jennifer with the clothing. However, the only way I purchase my clothes is going to places that will allow people to try things on while in the store.
Online shopping is a “risk taker” because some online companies send the WRONG SIZE products that one has ordered. (First hand knowledge but the dress fits really well on me regardless.)
I am sorry I speck only in french I an sit Paris I have 60 years i love love love XXXXX love transformer in woman i have all beautiful lingeries
years 60/ 80 rétro and vintage all girldes with satin pic i like big contact with crossdresser américain spek FRENCH please Tank you
jacques / Brigitte
Great ideas and excellent images to underline message. Than you so much.
Best wishes
Melinda
Thank you for the tips, I had no idea about the finger tip thing, very helpful,
Like to be told, like everyone else, that I look “sexy “, having no plans at 71 yo to “use ” the appeal for more than compliments!
You all decide if you think, at my age, I’m pulling it off!
Very nice. I like the red hair look. The black lace is very tasteful. The pink sweater and flowered dress make you look very lady lime and very sexy
Very classy, not at all “overpowering” or “understated” in any way. Great job!
You totally look the part, dear. Very flattering for your age, with a touch of class. I like your looks very much.
Love,
Cynthia