I’ve observed that many crossdressers and transgender women recognize their gender identity at a young age. For some, it’s an early realization, while for others, it unfolds later in life.
I’m curious about your experience…
When did you first realize you were female or had a feminine side? Was this something you felt as a child, or did it develop over time?
I’d love to hear your story! Feel free share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
I knew I had a feminine side since I was 7 years old. I was never much into masculine activities, and at that young age, I “borrowed” my mother’s lipstick and applied it correctly due to years of watching her apply her make up every morning before work.
I’m now 27 years old, and I finally feel like the beautiful, confident, sexy woman that I have always been… Though, only a few people (some family members included) know that I cross-dress. I still do not feel confident enough to walk out in public completely cross-dressed, but I’m hoping to break out of that shell soon. I have started wearing lingerie underneath my clothing and I have also been practicing on doing my makeup for several months.
Thanks to Lucille, I picked up a lot of feminization techniques, and I apply those techniques every time I do my makeup or cross-dress, and lately, I have been passing a lot as a woman.
I have known since the age of four that I was different and that I wanted to wear mommies clothes and be more like Mommy.
You can wear what ever you want, and with your looks you can wear it proudly and pass
I LOVE the fact that when people post a picture everyone automatically assumes it’s them! This is actually Kate Hudson’s wedding dress picture….
I know for sure by 12 years old I want to be a girl I believe I first know I was different at the age of 8 and would pray to wake up as her every day since- only now am I becoming the woman I am- 47 years old and lots of lessons later!!! But my prayers are finally be answered by me…
At age 4 I knew I had a feminine side.
I certainly knew that I was female at 4 however I suspect that I knew earlier than that but can’t remember it
My mum was a seamstress and naturally made undies with elastic seams at top of legs and tummy. They made me feel safe and secure. I started my childhood in girls’ scanties. Eventually, I asked mum whether they were girls or boys panties. She replied that what others don’t see won’t bother them. Thankyou mum for giving me permission to be the girl I was and the female I’ve always been. Mum gave me courage through her strong example. I miss her honesty and guidance, but she lives on in my DNA and HOW!
When I was about 4 or 5. Just started to wear my sisters things because I knew the hand me downs from my brothers weren’t right for me. I was a girl and shouldn’t be wearing boys clothes!!
I knew I was a girl when I was talking with my mom concerning sex at the age of nine. I kept choosing the female picture to describe myself and not the male. It wasn’t until the song “Girls just wanna have fun” did my mother fully understand me and asked me why I believed I am a girl. I explained to her that I am a woman inside and out. My gential’s does not define my sexuality but my heart and character as a woman define me as a woman.
Love,
Kendall
I suppose I’ve always known, to some degree. Looking back, I never really identified as boy, crying bloody murder when taken to the barbershop – short hair was just wrong! My ‘peers’ never accepted me as one of them. Being the quiet kid who hated sports, I always got taunted. Though, this may have helped develop the inner toughness and defiance of convention that I have. The only ‘boy’ things I liked were mechanics and electronics (not really gender-exclusive things – just ask Danica Patrick or Jeri Ellsworth!). I preferred to play Barbies with my childhood girl-friend to baseball with the boys. I remember wishing I was a girl “down there” and trying on ladies’ panties (didn’t we all?). I now recognize that I couldn’t really relate well to the world as a male, that the only way I can reach out and shine is as a female personality. I don’t have the shyness as a ‘female’! I was 18 or so when the transgender/androgyny concept came fully home to me, when I saw my first Ziggy Stardust video. I also loved “The Avengers” (the British series) – but I idolized Diana Rigg, not Patrick Macnee. I’d worn long hair since I was 17 (when my mother and the school hair code finally relented) with rare exception, such as when a girlfriend marched me to the barber – she thought I was too “feminine”. Gee, ya think? Though, I really wasn’t trying to be fem in that relationship, she had a sense of it. That one didn’t last long, though the sex was great…I felt strangled. There was also a part of me that felt I was at the “wrong end of the dick”. While I was always attracted to girls, I consider myself Bi at this point.
In my fifties now I have been married for more than a decade, though I don’t consider my wife to be one of the more accepting types, if she really knew, if I really ‘came out’. I do my best now as fem/androgyne with shaving/Tria laser and wigs (on the encroaching baldness pretense). Since I always wore long hair the transition to wigs was easier, and it’s so liberating! For 50-80 bucks I can have the hair I really want! I also prefer womens’ panties/shorts/jeans to the horrid things they force men to wear. I don’t really try to ‘pass’, though wait staff will sometimes refer to me as one of the ladies! If I were still single I might venture into the world of makeup, shoes & skirts but at this point it would mean giving up too much, and it seems to me that ‘passing’ is just another form of conformity. I’ve also been on the F2F herb program…possibly some improved fullness, but nowhere near bra status. And, there is only so far I can go before it raises questions.
I appreciate all of my T-Sisters’ stories here, you are all an inspiration. Love you…
Tara Lynn