Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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My first time was October 2022 I went to a Halloween party as a pin up girl. I went out shopping just for the occasion. New heels new stockings and all the accessories. The dress I got for the thrift store for $8. I was so nervous and freaking out. Got to the party and everyone loved it I felt so natural. At the party one friend said he had a small panic attack because he forgot I was a man. It felt so good I didn’t want it to end.
In my mid 30s I got myself all dolled up and drove to a well known trans/gay bar which was downtown. I can remember driving in my heels, it wasn’t easy at first. I remember it was summer had the windows down. As I approached the first stop light I suddenly got terrified. Yea a care pulled right next to me at the light windows down and of course there were 3 guys in the car. I can’t remember what flirty things they were saying (nothing vulgar) but it sent such a rush of YES sexual excitement through me I will never forget. I got to the club parked and just sat in the car. I would get out and lean against my car and smoke a cigarette. Legs crossed, short skirt and high heel sandals summer blouse and makeup to the nines. I really felt like a women, a gentleman walked passed and invited me in. again the ultimate rush ran through me but I’m sad to say I just couldn’t do it alone. I was very passable then. Never been close to it again. If I had a mutual friend I could probably do it now. Who knows. Kisses to you all.
The first time I went out fully dressed as my true self. Me and my dad went to my therapy session. My therapist at the time. He had me start dressing as my true self at my therapy sessions. He mentioned that I should get jewelry, spicificly earrings. He mentioned several places to go to, so after my therapy appointment. Me and my dad went to Tj MAx. Couldn’t really find anything so we went home. I sat down agenst the tree in the front yard, and took a picture of myself while using my laptop. I stayed dressed the rest of the day tell I went to bed.
The picture is what I currently look like now as of this year. Seance transitioning and gender confirming surgery and revision last month on December 13, 2022.
I am a 67 years young lady who dresses as often as possible, the first time I went out en femme was 32 years ago to Ron Storms club in east London, I was excited, nervous and petrified as I drove to the club , BUT I was encouraged by other girls to go out more often, so I carried on to the point that I told my fiancé back then and with relief she has supported me all the way , to the point that she joins me for a girls night out to a local “vanilla” bar within walking distance or to TV clubs .
Now I present as male only a few hours a week. I started by walking my dog in public, then going grocery shopping. I delight when I hear “Oh ma’am…”.
My first appearance in public as tg female was at a bar of a hotel, it was pretty crowded with people enjoying music and drinks.
A transgender friend had encouraged me to be there that night as female with her.
That experience was really wonderful, I can’t forget the waitress treating me with such delicate touch, holding my purse as I take a sit, and being so kind.
I felt exposing myself to world just as I really am, as I have always been.
That first time is an experience might never forget;)
My first time out I got dolled up and went just driving around town.
It was so much fun, eventually I got low on gas.
Went in to pay and the guy behind counter, I’m pretty sure was flirting with me.
He sly smiled and asked me how my night was going and a few other make conversation questions.
It was definitely exciting and I go out en’ fem every chance I get.
I can’t wait to come out to everyone and I won’t have to keep it a secret anymore!
P.S. Thanks again for all your help miss Lucille
I first started dressing in girls clothes a age 7, first boy experience at age 9, mom kind me out at age 14 n I was takrn in by a man who made me grow my hair long and dresd me as a little sissy girl n did my make up n took me out as a girl n introduced me to everyone as his daughter. Unfortunately it ended horribly wen he got drunk n started using drugs n tied me up n him n his friends took turns torturing me for about 4 days. 2nd Dom was abusive, 3rd Dom pasd from kidney disease n we signed papers stating he owned Me til one us if pasd away. Was the best relationship I’ve ever had with a guy except fir my first boy experience. Now my current spouse has edited my wardrobe to b 98% Feminine clothes as well as under garments, lingerie, bras, n silicone breasts. We’re both bisexual n she told me to get a man to b with alongside her to complete my sissy feminization transformation I’m truly blessed to hav a love like hers. Just too bad it took me 47yrs to find her.