There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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i like this blog but im not interested in that the people feel like talk with a girl when talk with me, because i am only interested in the visual part not feelings part , so i hate to drone or be redundant in a subject , this part of be feminine its complety goin against miself
thanks for reading XD
Hi everyone.
I am a good listner, i actually have a hard time getting a word in with my girl fiends, I dont enjoy a majority of the conversations that go on in our all male smoko room. as for a good idea of how woman talk i fine the tv series Gilmore Girls very intesting. As Noeleena I’m from NZ a kiwi girl from the bay of plenty
xoxoxo Sharon
I don’t think I have a problem in this regard. I love to be descriptive and I think I have always been this way. I have not been so good in speaking for forming relationships as I have had many preconceived notions about how someone should be. So I am not all that sure how well I speak as a woman. I do have one good girlfriend and we do communicate about all sorts of things almost every day and sometimes more than once a day. I would have to conclude that in terms of how many words I use per day orally or in written form I am up in the feminine range. I am also frequently correcting someone on how they speak which is probably not feminine but I love language so this is part of my nature.
Hi,
Differences between men & women is very great reguardlees of what some think .
I worked under men for a long time yet never related to them or had many of the thoughts they have, im 64 so have a few years experiance , im not a trans woman. i was born both male / female , or intersexed, so saw & see things very differently.
one issue i had was going to dresser’s & trans meeting’s what i was doing was heading straight back in to a male dominated world that i tryed to keep out of ,
Dont get me wrong i tryed to get on with them & help them , it was yes car’s work & many male things okay i learned that along the way so yes can talk thier langage , to keep company with them , yet , try talking about womens issue’s , stone walled because they did & do not have the mind of a woman so can not disscuse issue’s concerning woman . or mine for that matter,
when your wired both male / female you understand ,
More so when for 37 years what happens to a person youv lived with who has depression & you need to work with her , meds different ones & the hell of liveing with it, first hand i know what it’s like so can relate ,& it covers all the issue’s ,
when you think as a woman inter act & live as one & accepted then you dont have to think oh i should be doing this or talking in a certin way, for my self i may not have the looks because im a masculine looking woman whos accepted ,
i did not have to change who i am , so for my self i belong in a womans world yet can slip into the male world as i need to just not in every detail. & no i dont act differently , this is who i am i dont need to act as in a play, because my life is real & works,
Being different gives me more oppitunitys in life, & more acceptance over all, by both male & female because im not a threat ,
& when your well known that helps as well.
& im known as the Waimo girl from Waimate in N Z a kiwi,
…noeleena…
Hi Noeleena
Mail me sharon3@xtra.co.nz
Sharon
I am working on this issue, too. The worse thing is that I don’t have real female experiences to talk about, on some issues I just can’t relate on without talking nonsense. I rather stay quiet than make myself ridiculous and I am afraid that I reveal myself that I am not a real woman if I talk to much nonsense about women’s issues of I never can have the knowledge of such as reproductive women have. I will never have a fully functional vagina and I can’t become pregnant either. The positive thing about me is that I talk a lot more than a masculine man will ever do, both on phone(also tending to send a lot of long textmessages), talking in general and I also remember most of the conversations cause I think that I am a good listener. Most of the men I know hate making long phonecalls and they don’t usually remember anything. Still I think that I am slowly going to lose my feminine skills cause I don’t have any female friends in real life, with whom I could have real “girl” talk.
that is such an interesting post! some things about everyday life that are so obviously true, but yet as a sissy you never think of them. thanks for the perspective!
I say that one should not think act like other women. This is a classic mistake..
I think this is a wonderful idea. Thanks again for all you do for us. LOL Fancy