Do you go out in public as a woman?
If the answer is no, you’re not alone. Nearly 75% of my readers rarely or never leave the house en femme.
While going out en femme can be exciting and empowering, it’s not the only way to express your feminine side as a crossdresser or transgender woman.
Whether you choose to go out or keep it private, both options are valid!
This is an important topic, and I’d love to know what you think.
Where do YOU present yourself as a woman?
- Strictly in the privacy of your own home?
- At select places – like nightclubs, meetups, or conferences?
- Anywhere and everywhere as a full time woman?
Please take my poll and share your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I do dress up with my wife at home. She does not like it but she never puts herself out to fix up for me as a lady.
Glad you have settled into your new home :-). Moving is one of the top 10 stressors in our lives, so take it easy and soak up the ambience of San Francisco.
I only now present in a male mode at work and that is mainly to protect my elderly parents (88 and 85) from the possible shock. They are not well and it is too late in their lives now to have to deal with mt Transgenderism.
Retirement approaches and then I will be free of my evil twin and live finally as myself.
Best wishes to all
ps the picture was taken on a trip to Birmingham to relax, do some shopping and enjoy a little of the night-life.
I would like to do that before then and find a job where I can do that when I complete the work.
Hi Lucille, welcome to California I’m in southern Cal but I lived in San Fran. for 2 years and love it enjoy, i can’t believe i lived in N.Y.C for ten years also I think you are stalking me lol just don’t show up in Redondo Beach or you will totaly freak me out.Again welcome west babe have a great time,
love
Evelyn xxxx
Do you ever go to the Artesia Bar?
Hi Evelyn, I’m near LAX. I’d love to meet you and have a girls night out.
Perhaps one of the options should have been “At home, alone and with Partner/Wife” because ‘coming out’ the ones Partner or Wife is going to be the first step that any married/partnered TV/CD/TS is going to take. A (small) percentage of wives and partners seem to accept their SO as being en-femme. So wouldn’t having a category for “At home alone and with Partner” make sense? My Partner accepts me, although after nearly half a century I’m just not used to being ‘allowed’ to dress as a woman, and I still get mighty embarrassed. I am also hesitant because I am scared her acceptance will change into ‘loss of respect’ for me over time as she is attracted to the man in me, and not the woman. I wouldn’t want to let anyone else in my family see because it would confuse them, and upset them. I would be happy in a TG/TV-friendly bar, and I would be happy being outdoors for a short while in the dark with my partner going to and from the bar/club as well.
Hi Lucille, I have been living my role for the last forty years. In the early years it cost me everything I had? Back then we where ridiculed and could have been locked up for how we felt. I am glad to say things are better now and I now spend my time helping others come to terms with how they feel. Here in the UK things take time and admitting you don’t feel right would have got you committed into a hospital for electrical treatment. I don’t go out of my way to say look at me, I just like to blend in and try and live my life as normally as I can. It is good that things have opened up now and people like yourself are prepared to talk about it without being judgementle keep the good work going. I am not your everyday transsexual being retired and getting over a stroke and not remembering much of my youth things now are bliss.
It’s very hard to even go en femme at home. My partner can’t deal with my feelings of being in the wrong body and our relationship is in tatters as a result. My family can’t handle it either and just trying to mention it throws Mum and my brother into towering rages.
What makes it hurt all the more is that my biological girl friends tell me that I make a better woman than I do man.
hi… iam priya.
I get estrogen and want to be a fulltime women in my life… i am from india and too shy from my nature.
Hi Lucille, congratulations on your relocation and I wish you tons of love and happiness in you new home. Yes, for me anyway, your blog “Feminisation Secrets” says it all. Although all I get is resistance totally in my home from my very “anti” wife I still dress and behave femininely at every opportunity that I possibly can. This unfortunately only means every night alone in my own bedroom and of course throughout the house when everyone else is away. Not knowing exactly when they will be back is sometimes quite traumatic for me especially when they come back unexpectedly early or something, but sadly, at the moment, that’s my life.
I would give anything to look more feminine (although I’m small and quite slim) because I don’t think that I look like a girl enough yet. If I did I would probably venture outside as a girl and I wouldn’t be quite so scared.
Living here in Cape Town, South Africa means that I don’t have access to any support groups or other TV/TGs as I would like so being able to chat to you is a lifeline that you would not believe.
Take care and good luck and lots of love to you and all the other “girls” out there in the world.
Christine.
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