Do you go out in public as a woman?
If the answer is no, you’re not alone. Nearly 75% of my readers rarely or never leave the house en femme.
While going out en femme can be exciting and empowering, it’s not the only way to express your feminine side as a crossdresser or transgender woman.
Whether you choose to go out or keep it private, both options are valid!
This is an important topic, and I’d love to know what you think.
Where do YOU present yourself as a woman?
- Strictly in the privacy of your own home?
- At select places – like nightclubs, meetups, or conferences?
- Anywhere and everywhere as a full time woman?
Please take my poll and share your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I’m part time but don’t get to dress femme nearly as often as I’d like. I used to be terrified that someone would recognize me and out me to that part of my life that wouldn’t accept me. But as I went out more I became more comfortable as female I became more willing to go to more places en femme. When I do dress now I go out in public pretty much anywhere and everywhere. I recently flew cross country en femme. Initially I was terrified but in the end the airlines, TSA and everyone I interacted with gave me no problems and even made me feel more comfortable.
It’s got to the point where if I go out say shopping not as my true feminine self, I feel awkward and uncomfortable. But wonderful as a woman; just wish I had the courage to tell everyone and just live as a woman full time… Love the idea of travelling (flying) as “myself” but never thought possible, due to IDs etc. (btw it drives me crazy that I can’t click “female” when buying plane tickets…
Thanks Claire! I just hope I have the courage one day soon to go through with it. I love the idea of taking a trip – start to finish – as my true self. Inspiring. It’s especially important as I hope to start a full time transition soon and I travel lots for work, so was worried about that…
Just use your official ID, smile and act like nothing is out of place. One TSA guy smiled and joked that he loved how I’d changed my hair style. Another gate agent said she liked my new glasses. One thing I did learn was just wear the breast forms through the screening. I took mine off as I didn’t know how they would show up. It’s all good.
Over the last 20 year sojourn, I have gone from charity shops / dressing at home , to being confident enough to fly interstate here within Australia. although that can present some issues , especially when being ” metal scanned” i.e corset etc) Have no hesitation in catching public transport, shopping at department stores as well as boutiques. I must say also residing in a tolerant society does help., so overall I have to say I am fortunate.
As I have become more confident n my femme self, I go to more places dressed as a woman. I have lots of female friends who know and accept me as Claire and when out with CIS women people tend to assume you are all female and won”t scrutinise too much. I always feel good when someone I don’t know in public addresses me as Miss.
Hello Lucille, great to catcth up again. I dress en femme in the privacy of home. I also share CD experiences with other ‘girls’ on Cross Dresser Heaven (CDH) site. Made some Friends to share with too.
At night yes , trying to get courage for daytime. ❤️
Stacy;
Sweetie, you look fabulous, amazing!
At 73 ( October), I have been out in public since the 1960’s. Never, Ever has anyone given me anything else But Compliments…you would receive the same…TRUST me. Go your own way ( Lindsey Buckingham).
Few pics for your evaluation…
Dr. T.J
I agree
Stacy
As cute as you are a daytime outing would be no problem.
Jill
I will dress up as a woman go to the parks, beaches and shopping centers. I have even been to a couple of restaurants in one of my best outfits and did well.
1st thing I do each day is tuck. Feels feminine and right. Then massage my breasts (natural soft and modest but mine). Pinch and pull nipples and pretend I’m feeding baby. Then dress in androgynous clothes and do my thing as a woman. Tell myself a hundred times a day that I love being a woman.
I always worry that I’m not passable enough to present myself in public.
Hello my name is Susan and yes I think you are very passable you are very beautiful as a woman hope to talk to you soon hugs and kisses
I went to the supermarket the first time, wearing skinny jeans, floral top & ankle high suede boot. I liked the way I looked but I was terrified. I realized several things. 1. No one was staring at me. 2. I had the same right to be there as everyone else 3. Thousands of trans girls endured fear, shame & humiliation before I could even consider doing this. I owe them a debt of gratitude for the social changes they pioneered. If I truly felt I belonged as a trans female then I have to step into line and walk with my head high. That is what PRIDE is all about.
A girl must always be aware of her surroundings, for her own safety. Going out enabled me to express how I felt about myself and to compare my appearance with other women. I used that feedback to improve my mannerisms and select outfits that helped me blend in.
Don’t you worry Girlfriend, you pass.
So I don’t present en femme all the time but usually manage to get out at least once a week. Usually around town but also the cinema, supermarket whatever. I’ve never had any issue and people are normal and polite – as I try to be. I try to dress for the time and place and blend in a little as I know I don’t pass. I am me. Most people are fine with that. Pic is me out last Wednesday.
Jodie
Cute pic! Cute outfit! Love the shoes! You’re rockin’ it Girlfriend!
Jill
Thanks Jill. Lovely of you to say x
Hello there my name is Susan and oh my God you are beautiful and you should go out more and more as a woman because you are very passable hope to talk to you soon hugs and kisses
Thank you so much Susan 🙂 Well I get out when I can. It’s all money though, lol x
You look awesome Jodie !!thank you for posting ✌