I’ve observed that many crossdressers and transgender women recognize their gender identity at a young age. For some, it’s an early realization, while for others, it unfolds later in life.
I’m curious about your experience…
When did you first realize you were female or had a feminine side? Was this something you felt as a child, or did it develop over time?
I’d love to hear your story! Feel free share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi Lucille,
Loads of love to all the members from the UK. This is my first time on this forum and its pretty special.
Now that my Mother knows all about my gender dysphoria she says she could see a “difference” in me at 5 years old. I used to cross-dress my action man dolls (GI Joe) with clothes from my sisters dolls aged 6. At 7 years old I became quite obsessed with a fantasy super hero I invented called “Tight Girl”, I’ll leave the details to your imagination!!
I began to feel I was different at 8 years old and through extensive research at the university library in my town I knew what that difference was aged 13.
I completed the hormone treatment and both genital surgeries 21 years ago and had feminizing facial surgery 14 years ago and have never looked back.
Now I’ve found you here I’m sure I’ll be back to see you all. You all have a lovely day.
Regards Heather Anne Exley (43)
I really knew I was a girl in my late teens and early 20s.but there were signs before then.i took risks crossdressing hoping to be discovered and in my inmature mind mabey I would be accepted for who I really was.i was later outcast by so called friends ,some family members .it was a terrible time in my life and even attempted suicide.i buried those memeries and eventually led a “normal male life”,even marrying to a wonderfull woman with two beautifull children.i still secretely cross dressed and come out to her as a crossdresser.she was confused but accepted that part of me.now at 48 I want more.i want to let the woman inside me completely out !i know I have a right to be happy ,and be me ,but at the same time im worried about causeing her pain .i don’t want her to feel anything like the pain I’ve felt,having to go through life ,pretending to be something your not.I KNOW IM A WOMAN INSIDE!
Hi to answer you I new I was meant to be born female scenic for ever I just came out but off and on in the past I have dressed as a female
I guess it really started at about 17, when I started performing in Rocky Horror. I played Frank, so I got to wear lingerie every weekend.
After my sons were older, and I was with my second wife, we went to see Rocky (the live version) and I dressed for that. I started looking for clothes for that, and soon, regular outfits. I knew then that it wasn’t a phase for me. My wife is not only supportive, but helps me find clothes, makeup, etc.
I consider myself very fortunate, and I spend about half my time ‘en femme’ now. I also use many of the tips I’ve found here, and I hope to get the full program soon!
Thank you SO much, Lucille!
Tracy Leigh
I can’t remember when I didn’t know that I was different then boys. I have always known who I was, but back then you were considered “queer”. I am not attracted by men and would probably have been a lesbian if my outside matched my inside. I do not know why we are even classified with the group we are in.
But on the other hand, my life long prayer has been to be able to experience life as who I really am. In order to do that, I would have had to have had a husband to make everything possible.
i started dressing since 13 at first it was guilty….i use to wear my sisters dresses…but now i am used to being a girl i am…accepted myself…and proud to be a girl
Gosh – i would say when i was about 10 years old and we were at a friends house and the girls decided to dress the boys up in dresses when the reality hit home that i loved girls things. From that day forward i used to secretly wear my mom’s skirts and dresses at very opportunity. As i got older i became more daring and used to dress in my mom’s clothes and then jump over our fence and walk towards the shops up the street but would never go in 🙁 . I am so surprised i never got caught. Then as i got older i used to fantasize about being a girl. Eventually got married and started to wear my wives clothes in secret and if she was away buy my own clothes for the week which i would discard the day my wife returned home. We eventually got divorced and i thought nows my chance …so started to build up my feminine wardrobe which was so much fun …yay ! Then got remarried ..one night during an intimate moment my wife took off her panties and made me put them on …yippeeee….well the moment i had always being waiting for …i exploded ..hehehehe.. eventually she bought us matching nighties …i was in heaven …:-) . After a couple of months she decided that i preferred being dressed up having sex with her …and so it all came to a unfortunate stop…so now i am back to dressing in secret. Funny thing my wife and i talk about fashion like girl friends ..hehehe…and i tell her don’t you think this dress is stunning …or look at that women’s shoes aren’t they gorgeous …so i think she knows ..hehehehe. But i am still in the closet .so too speak ..although i have gone out dressed and found a dressmaker who helps me with my outfits ….but i have them well hidden…what scares me most is i die and my wife finds my stash of feminine things …..i feel sad writing this article .
Love to all ..Elaine
Elanie,
it sounds like my stash is incomparably smaller than yours, but there’s a lot of similarities in what i would write, and what you have. # 1 being “what scares me most is i die and my wife finds my stash of feminine things…”
i’ve thought about keeping it all in one tote with a note, for anyone who finds it – “if i’m dead and you find this, toss the whole thing without opening this.”
I guess I have nothing completely profound to say, but I hear what you’re saying.
Molly
Hi there to answer when did I know , age 45 prior to that I was scared straight but now I’m at the point I’d rather kill myself than keep living a lie I’ve been shaving legs armpits arms chest for several years wife thinks I’m losing it and is all because I’m a pothead and I am but I quit I started smoking when i was 15 to numb the pain caused by not knowing myself not having the courage to be me not until now I was called a little fag by my dad so many times gosh it still makes me cry even now as I’m writing this I’m crying I am a little fag you should have named Josephine I always felt cheated that I didn’t have girl parts life was unfair four sisters and me the little fag always sentimental always easy to make me cry but honestly not until about 3 months ago did I put all the pieces together now sharing my lovely newz with my 4 daughters and wife yeah me I need to be strong one thing is certain I’m alone and need to be strong for myself just wish I had a friend hate being so lonely anyone out there?
you are not alone.
Xoxo
I’m 47 Good time to you love
Tammy