Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And why not? There’s nothing like indulging your feminine self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind.
Are you following “the rules?”
Find out by reviewing my top 7 lingerie rules – specifically for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know thy bra size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly, especially if you call ahead.) I also wrote an entire post on finding your bra size here.
Rule #2: Avoid visible panty lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up.
Rule #3: Coordinate your bra and panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set. Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose high quality fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer. Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know when to say goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately. It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own more than one bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy lingerie that fits your lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces. Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
Out of fear of embarrassment/humiliation, I used to purchase my bras and panties online, but since getting up the courage to go to Lane Bryant fro a proper bra fitting, I now understand the comfort of a perfectly fitting bra and, as a side benefit, go to talk openly with a woman about the various styles and what each should be worn with. It was such a great experience! I would encourage everybody to go for a fitting. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. Our money spends just that same!
I wear bras, and panties all the time. Whether in guy mode,or girl mode. I like Walcol bras, and panties because they are so soft. I prefer to be in girl mode all the time. A lady hugged me one time, and asked , do you have a corset on, and while she was hugging me she went up on my backhand felt the bra. She said what are you doing, and I told her I love wearing these, and she said O.K. sometimes guys have to be girls too.
Hi Lucille It has been 13 months now, since I started crossdressing on a daily basis. I wear panties/shape-wear briefs every day at work. As I work in a warm environment, I was prone to heat/sweat rash when wearing men’s briefs. (the elastic is thicker). Since wearing ladies briefs at work, it no longer happens. That’s a positive. I just purchased another pair of breast forms, (a size larger), than the pair I have. Once I get home, off with the male clothes, on with bra/breast-forms, pantyhose and dress. It’s relaxing and has a calming effect.
Thank You Lucille, for your SUPPORT. XX
I’m definitely a boy shorts girl
My bra size is 36 dd panty 6 I’m an average sized gal and everything u say is helped me so much in my life as a q8 year old woman thanks xoxoxoxoxoxo
Hi friends..let me tell you all that, do not throw your inner wear until its fabric is tornout.. We can modify our own old bra with different style and patterns..only we have to spare some time at weekend. Its chip.
Love you all
I have a band width = 40 Bust size (without inserts) = 42; with inserts = 44 so difference with inserts = 4 or C or D cup but for me D cup makes me look “natural” & flatters the clothes I wear. I love Macy’s for panties like Bali & Vanity Fair oh I wear size 6/7 also look for sales like buy 3 for $38.00 or $11.00 – $11.50 per pair. PS Bali “diamond shape”panties help tuck in a roll under your belly button & above your “private parts”
I know my bra size you were saying don’t buy or get cotton pantys that’s only kind i can afford others r too expensive or don’t fit right i do have others you mentioned thanks for tips lucille/zena