Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Rule 8: Buy the most expensive lingere that you can afford. Once you’ve worn sn expensive, well-fitting piece, you’ll never go back to those “bargain specials”.
Rule 9: If you find a bra that fits properly and is comfortable, immediately buy at least one more. Bra manufacturers are notorious for changing fit, style and materials, and for discontinuinnng that style you love. (Usually it is discontinued and out of stock in your suze the day before you decide to replace the old worn out one.) 🙂
…and buy at least three matching panties that fit well. Accidents can happen at the most inopportune moment.
100% agree, Dorothy! 🙂
Love the tips – One of my co workers noticed that my bra was too small – I told her that it was my favorite but she insisted on taking me out to buy a new bra at lunch…. then she made me buy her lunch…lol
Wonder what it was like
Ohhhhhh that sounds like sooooooo much fun!
All great points, and excellent information,
getting Lingerie to fit right and look good,
is not so easy, sometimes, i have to buy several
just to get a fit that seems good to me.
But its fun,,,hehe…
You look pretty sexy to me Mary Jane!
Thanks for the tips ,Ma chere 🙂
Love the tips and I love to coordinate my lingerie
You look very coordinated there Kimberly! 🙂
All excellent points, Lucille, particularly your points on avoiding that dreaded visible panty line. Your readers might also enjoy some history of the bra and our section on Bra Secrets at Sister House https://www.sisterhouse.net/library/category/all-about/bras/?numtoshow=3&archive=yes
Oh, fun article! Thanks Tasi!
excellent advise.. i learned.
“Cris”…Very Sexy !!!…I love the color Green.
I love lingerie Thanks for the advice