Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
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I ‘ve felt myself completely confident after I’ve known in women’s restroom as a woman and many times I’ve corrected my make up before the mirror. So as female clothes shops.
As a Transgender Woman on HRT I do criticize my appearance, constantly worrying that I look or acting too male. I am very hard on myself, even when someone tells me that I look good on a particular day I find it hard to believe them. I realize that I’m at the awkward stage of Developement changing from a boy to a girl and eventually everything will come into place, but I know I am not 100% yet. It doesn’t stop me from living 24/7 as a female or going and doing what I want. I am a very confident person, I simply have very male features that will require surgery to change. I know my insecurity with the way I look is my worst enemy but I struggle with my feelings about myself. I simply wish I had more delicate, feminine facial features and a smaller torso.
Hormone definitely HELP!
I went out twice this week with my bra and breast forms on.It felt so good to be able to do it again. i loved it even though i was a bit scared at first.I wore them all week it feels fantastic to be able to do these things again.
The more you practice dressing en.femme the more confident you will become.
For example
Makeup is one thing that that is one of the hardest things to learn.
When I first tried to use makeup it took over a hour to get it so I looked passable.
After a lot of trial and error I found the right makeup and applying it was easier to do
The less I used the better it was
Now I can apply makeup in about fifteen minutes and.make it look like I’ve just had a makeover
So remember practice builds confidence
Thanks for the tips Lucille
Janine
If you was born a girl, but in the wrong body, your inner girl knows from the birth how to do make up, stand on heels and go without any training, stand or sit like a woman. It’s on subconscience level for girls. But do it more skillful and perfecting your abilities in more femine way really requires professional advices and our Goddess Lucille created for us, TG and TS girls this beautiful site. My morning express make up takes only 3 minutes: basic, eyebrow pencil, dark brown creamy soft eyepencil for lashes two instead mascara, smokie eyeshadows, lip pencil, red wine color lipstick and lip push up serum. Sometimes blush.
Preparation definitely leads to success.Hard work leads to success.Details matter and these tips and followup posts are educational and add to the details.Practice leads to confidence.Having the indispensable information on this sight increases the confidence and the other areas of one’s journey.Thank you.
I am finding that when I forced myself into certain social situation I am happy after that I did.
Hi ladies. A few tips. Be honest with some people. Sounds foreign right. Call your credit card company, tell them you are a TG girl and would like to get a separate card, different account, than your regular account with the name you use. My company issued me a Jamie card that I use. Gives you confidence and you don’t have to carry cash. Call some beauty shops, nail salons, hair salons, masseuse, etc. and ask them if they have a problem with TG’s. I’ve never found one that did. Treat yourself to some pampering and they will quickly be calling you hon and sweetie. Since other ladies will be in the shops you will quickly gain confidence. I live 24/7 as a woman and get a monthly massage and facial, nails every two weeks, hair every four to six weeks with a perm as needed, still go monthly for any stray hairs that may come in after having the beard removed, and have my brows tinted having had them shaped by electrolysis. When possible, take a trip to some TG friendly place like Palm Springs and let it all hang out. Have fun girls. Ta-ta.
Good day. I have embraced my feminity (and announced myself as transgendered) on numerous websites, and I have been accepted as such. This makes me very happy, and, in a way, has helped me correct the fact that I know that I was born in the wrong body.
In addition, I have had the confidence to build up a powerful outfit of black balconette bra, suspender belt, glossy stockings and a Rendezvous dress. I have worn this ensemble on a few occasions, and I shall upload a photo of myself in this rig-out in the next couple of weeks.