There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille honey I think I do need to ask more questions maybe I don’t know for sure being stuck in male mode doesn’t help much I think I do ask quite a few questions but I just don’t know it’s hard to be objective about the way we our selves talk I do want to get the voice feminization program as well as a tuner to see where my voice is in frequency hopefully close to 250mhz I really have no clue but I’ve been called mam over the phone many times as well as in person until I look up at them and they see I’ve got a beard at least recently it happens all too often of course I do have long hair but that isn’t really the reason I don’t think one of these days my check will arrive I wonder at times if you think I’m just telling you that and there is no check on its way I wonder myself sometimes if it will ever show up it should be here any day now but everyday that goes by the mail runs and still no check lets see its now the 2nd of August 2015 in 2 days it will be 2 months exactly the 4th of June was my hearing and I was awarded my disability my lawyer said it would be about 2 months on the paperwork and kind of expected the check sooner so it should be here soon I really need it just to keep going period Love M.J.
Hi Lucille sorry I went off on Christina like that I guess she just pissed me off challenging my femininity maybe she’s entitled to her opinion but that’s all she’s got like all of us I do like coming in here where I can be a woman even if for now its just between my ears I really am sorry I said some of that but we women if you piss us off we tell you how we feel too after all this is voice feminization is it not okay once again thank you Lucille for giving me the place to be a woman and even at times a Beach to put it nicely Love M.J.
about the people who think they are transgenderd or trans sex..or cross dressers…if u truely have a female brain .u will do what females do..like the way they walk and speak..oh and DO WE LOVE TO SHOP …LIKE EVERY DAY ..IM A GIRL THATS MY RETAIL THARAPY….THATS WHATS MAKE ME HAPPY WHEN IM NOT MAKEING LOVE TO MY BOYRFRIEND…JUST LEAVEING MY REPLY…THANKS..
Hi Lucille,
A very interesting warming view of famine talking verse male.This is
helpful. Thank you.Its a great help to know we have your support on these issues.Love Adrienne
Typo alert “Kind of place my feelings”
Hi Lucille I’m not sure where to voice some comments so I think this is a good spot to ind of place my feelings I’m trying to feminize my thinking which hopefully will feminize my vocabulary and the way I communicate I’m used to being male for the most part there are some arts of my thinking which are already feminine having grown up with women and then later having to adapt to the male role and now trying to reclaim my femininity I’m very interested in your program “Unleash your inner woman” and most likely will be making a purchase soon as I know she’s in there having taken your inner gender quiz and at 92%-100%-92% the three times I’ve taken it just for fun I’m pretty sure she’s closer to the surface than ever before I feel very blessed to have found your site Lucille the secrets you are revealing to me help me so much I’ve needed guidance such as this for a long time and thanks to you I’ve finally found it as of yet I’m still without pics or even the ability to dress as I desire but soon that will change and as soon as I can I will send you some pics I hope to make you proud of me as I know you already are but I want you to see me as I wish to be seen currently I haven’t any pics period at least nothing recent and nothing en femme Lucille you are the girlfriend I’ve wanted for so long just girlfriend to girlfriend Love M.J.
Hi Lucille I’m trying to maybe quit being so formal I just think your special so I like to respect you maybe that’s silly but then so am I at least I feel silly talking to you your pretty much an expert on my type I didn’t get much beauty sleep today so I may slightly be a little out of my head right now I’m trying to make it to dinner after that I’ll probably fall out I know I shouldn’t eat and then go to bed but it wasn’t planned that way it’s really breakfast for me I’m trying to cut way back on my intake to lose some of this excess baggage I’m pretty sure I’ve lost a little maybe Love M.J.
Hello Lucille I’m considering maybe taking a course in hair styling and or cosmetology in order to better learn how to do my own hair and makeup I don’t really have any other motive well maybe that’s not true either I wouldn’t be opposed to getting my eyebrows shaped and maybe a makeover and getting my hair styled really pretty maybe and I guess finding a girl who likes me as feminine as I do would be okay too at least in all honesty I’m a little bit lonely for sure I love girls, their clothes, their makeup, pretty much everything to simplify it but you probably already knew that huh! lol Love M.J.