Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
If so, I think you’re making a mistake.
Instead of worrying about passing vs. not passing, my advice has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead.
But lately, I’ve been wondering…
Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal?
After all, what’s the point of wearing cute clothes, having a fabulous hairstyle, or doing your makeup if nobody notices?
I believe it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out.
Does your femme self share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, so I’d love to hear your thoughts…
Do you enjoy attracting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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1st and foremost.
Thank you for all you do. It is a joy to see and read others post.
And the help you offer. Is always dead on.
But like others it can be both for me.
Blending in. Can be the best at times.
But standing out. Can always lead to a unbelievable experience.
So its all on my mood.
I think ‘standing out’ or ‘blending in’ depends hugely on the way I carry myself, as much as what I’m wearing. And also, understanding the difference between ‘blending in’ and ‘hiding’ is critical. I’ve been out a fair bit and done a lot of different things presenting as a woman. In the early days my crippling fear of being read made me stand out purely because it was obvious I was trying to hide – hunched, glaring, looking down, avoiding all contact. With experience, I learned that a smile at someone staring is a powerful weapon; that when I walk, going at a normal pace, and using feminine sized steps, is much less revealing then trying to hurry through a crowd. And of course, wear shoes that you are 100% confident with. When occasionally I pass, it’s such a thrill and a confidence boost. But also, when I don’t pass but someone smiles at me, calls me madam, that’s also hugely liberating. Also, blending in v standing out can depend on the situation. If I’m in a restaurant or at a club, someone complementing me on my dress, my legs or similar is gorgeous. But if I’m on the street in the daytime going shopping, I just want to be one of the women in the shop, not some special case that everyone’s taking notice of! And of course in this situation, both what I’m wearing and how I’m carrying myself makes a big difference.