Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
If so, I think you’re making a mistake.
Instead of worrying about passing vs. not passing, my advice has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead.
But lately, I’ve been wondering…
Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal?
As a cisgender (genetic) woman, the last thing I want to do is blend in!
After all, what’s the point of wearing cute clothes, having a fabulous hairstyle, or doing your makeup if nobody notices?
I believe it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out.
Does your femme self share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, so I’d love to hear your thoughts…
Do you enjoy attracting positive attention when en femme?
Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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The notion that we have to pass as a woman has kept many of us from stepping out and exploring our feminine side. Of course we want to look our best and try to blend in and nothing is nicer if it happens because it builds confidence. But even in the perfect outfit, best make over and feminine mannerisms it is no guarantee we’ll pass. For one we are taller than the average woman and in our high heels we stand out even more. What it boils down to is ignoring the glares and stares that sometimes happen and enjoy being yourself and as long as all goes well who cares if you get figured out?
The plan is a bit of a work-in-progress at the moment. As a crossdresser with no intention of transitioning, my aim is to make my day-to-day appearance as neutral as possible [by growing my hair, adjusting body language and actually remembering to shave] and to make my “en-femme” look as close to this day-to-day look as possible [by using my own hair, rather than a wig]. Hopefully I’ll be able to combine these two sides to make a more fulfilled whole; this would probably involve a combination of blending in and standing out where appropriate [ie. not appearing too vain/flamboyant, but not coming across as dull].
I am a gender fluid M2F trans woman. I do most things as male. I do have my *safe places* where I can go shopping, like Ulta Beauty, and the local nail salon. They have been very supportive and helpful. When going to the store and other such errands, I prefer to blend in. When going out to the club I want to stand out. However, there are those days when I’m really *feeling it* that I want to go to Wal-mart in a cute dress, heels and full makeup, LOL … but then, of course I get all the dang looks and whispers
I go out every day dressed as a woman with full makeup on. I go to all the stores and resturants. I am about to start taking the necessary steps to start the transition. I live as a woman and I don’t take what people think.
prefer to blend in, but its nice to get a compliment from Women and other “girls”…CDS or TGS. 2 Women i “club” and date with always show me how to better carry myself as a woma…walking , sitting, talking…it really helps .
I don’t want to be identified as a male, I do what to be noticed as female. When I am with my wife, she gets a thrill when some guy asks me out or at a club to dance.
I love the feeling of being femm, my girlfriend is a model so I got the hook up in the cute cloths apartment. But she doesn’t treat me like I’m a girl in public no matter how cute I look. I was wondering how u and ur wife act in public. I need advice.
Go to private parties and gay bars on Halloween.