“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Although I crossdress mainly at home, I do try to look passable, although some efforts are better than others(!) Seriously though, due to feet problems (long story!), I am unable to be completely passable as I can’t wear heels. Tend to drift towards slippers!! However, how we present, surely we are the ones who should be critical of ourselves, never mind what other people think. Really interesting article
I would like to be passable but I only dress in private with my tg friend who helps me with my make up.
No, it doesn’t matter. Because “passing” would depend on everyone else’s opinion. I really don’t give a flying fart what their opinion of me is. 🙂
Interesting article, as I’m looking to make my public debut soon. I worry about “passing” or even “blending in” quite frequesting. Since I’m a tall CD (6’2″) heels aren’t really an option without drawing unwanted attention to myself. I feel like I’m getting a lot better with makeup, but my biggest fear is the attention I’ll get. Everyone says the first step is the hardest. And that was certainly true when I started shaving year round, but no one has noticed or said anything.