Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I’M 57 1/2 and have felt female inside for as long as I can remember. Growing up, I was always more comfortable playing with the girls in the neighborhood, especially playing with dolls. I asked my mom for a barbie one year at christmas and told, as you can imagine, “Dolls are for girls. how about a football?”
I am finally beginning to let Michelle out. I went for my first appointment with a gender therapist this past week…it was fantastic and she was such a lovely, accepting person. For now I’m in full on male mode but it wont be long before that changes.
Hi, Michelle! I’ve been dressing since i was at least a pre-teen. this was in spite of my parents and everything they could come up with to “cure’ It. This forced me to create a somewhat reasonable male persona that was good enough to get away with, and saw me through Viet Nam without getting splattered. After that, I realized i would need to do whatever it takes to earn a decent living and also let “Michelle” live. Remember…. This was at a time when the word “transgender” did not exist. It’s not easy to seriously develop two separate personalities, but I proved that it can be done. Sometimes it’s like walking a tightrope over a minefield, but I’ve never NOT been up to the challenge. There are people in my community who only know me as “Michelle” and others who only know me as *******. You know, the more you do something, the better you get. I know I don’t look like any movie star, but at the very least everyone seems to give me the benefit of the doubt. Now for the record, don’t tell anyone, but I’m seventy-three. I’ll probably do this till I’m pushing up daises.
Michelle, feelings we all have and store….growing up and playing with dolls and being happy. Looking back, it was easy and now making the change it isn’t easy but you know what you want. Calming and wonderful to have a such a lovely therapist. Make the change.. I wish it was easy for all of us.
Should anyone want to contact me, please do.
petro@bloomingr8. South Africa…
Regards
I do hope I don’t violate any rules of the site…
Hi Ronique,
I discovered my love for Crossdressing only very late in my life. I so wish I could have started way sooner, but alas, I enjoy every moment of it. I must concur on the calming effect, It is so soothing to dress up and carry on with normal tasks and look at the world through different eyes. I must admit though that it can become very lonely in our own part of the world.
Regards Petro…
Just want to add to part of Jessica’s comment just previous. She said she was in a women’s group that was supportive of her. I am so warmed by the support I have received from so many sisters, genetic women. Almost all women have no reservations in welcoming me to their ranks. Their love, regard, and help are a firm foundation to build my own woman on. It’s another way I’m so sorry for men, who have a certain bonding, but nothing like the women do.
Of course, there are some women who don’t exactly approve of me but they are SO in the minority!
Oh Joan ai am so glad you can relate and if you come across any of my new comments you will see the trouble I am having is really more with the people who have known me in a mans role. It’s sometimes overwhelmingly difficult to go on. I’m either dancing with Shakti and getting praises from all sorts of wonderful supportive people or being told I am confused and threatened by those closest to me Some people tell me I am so brave and others call me a liar and self centered. I’m so confused
I am fifty. I have been this way my whole life. It’s not just about clothes it’s about the way I see the world. I don’t feel like Onam a man or a woman. I just feel like a person. I love things related to being female. I feel so much better female. More chance to dialogue and express myself and feel friendship. I feel like my heart is more open since I started to admit this to myself. However, my age and my family prevent me from coming out totally. I have a 12 year old son. He is going through enough stuff already than to have to deal with learning that his father is a girl. I have a wife who knows how I feel but we don’t talk about it When she sees things that are more feminine she calls it gay. She is a kind accepting person but not with me. She says I need to take the male role and doesn’t want to discuss anything else. Everything that is important to me is secret or shared with friends more distant. I am even a part of a woman’s study group with a kind group of people who have similar parts. At the moment all of them were born female. They support me. They even call me by my female name. It’s very sad. The only thing Ai can tell others is that. If you feel something and that something is part of your creative authentic self. Then express that thing. Do it when your young. Tell your parents. Go to school dressed however you feel. If your a boy and you are attracted to female things don’t be afraid to show it. The majority of people will love you and accept you as yourself. If you hide it it will only get worse and you will loose moments in your life. Love Live celebrate Study Dance live to the fullest. I’m okay but ai wish I had done it differently.
Hi Jessica.
I have been a man my whole life. Did all the manly things and I truly enjoyed being a man. I only discovered my feminine side after I married my current Wife, but never really acted on it. She had me shave all my body hair and then proceed to dress me up and we when out for dinner with me dressed. It was truly exited. Then it sort of fizzled out. I did the purge thing and threw out all my clothes and shoes (I regret that the most). About a year ago then feeling started coming back and the need to dress became much stronger than before. I started dressing up in private and sort of kept it from my Wife as I did not know how she would react if I initiated the transformation and not She. Turned out that She was more confused and uncertain that I expected this time around. I suspect that this time around I sort off dived into it with more energy than I should have. The reason for this might be the fact that my children had emigrated and I could safely shave and dress without them turning up unexpectedly and cause embarrassment. They would never in their wildest dreams imagine that their manly father they grew up with is now suddenly wearing dresses and makeup and paints his nails. With a very long story, what I only want to say and reiterate your sentiment that there is enough problem in the lives of the people we love to create more. Further, I do not identify as a certain gender group either way. When i am not dressed I fully enjoy being a man and when I am dressed I fully enjoy being a woman. I just love the change that it bring and most of all I enjoy the whole transformation, dress up and make up. I think that is where the excitement lies, for me that is. I am 58 years old and sometime I wish that I had discovered crossdressing much earlier in life.
Regards
Petro…
I am happy that at least now you are able to feel okay with it. I am not sure when I made my comment here but I am happy now that I am fully transitioning. I also identify as they them and she her, but I am really meant to live as Jessica from now on!
I am 50 and starting electrolysis tomorrow evening, I am so excited! I was in the closet for over 35 years, only my spouses knew, and they kept a tight leash on it. No more! I have been out for many years now and am having the time of my life. Meeting the most fascinating people all the time. Life is no longer boring and repetitive. I am wanted for my body and mind and not just my assets and cash. Soon Hormones and then implants. I dedicated most of my life to the welfare of others, now it is time to be dedicated to myself, and my goal of becoming the worlds first over 50 supermodel! Gotta go now and finish these 200 sit-ups …….
Started dressing when I was about 7, but due to marriage, kids, “life”, I more or less gave it up after my early 20s, and here I am at 58 getting back into it full force after months of agonizing over it, counseling, and marriage counseling. I finally decided to just be myself, rebuild my relationship with my wife, and let the chips fall where they may. Went out in public en femme for the first time yesterday; went to the salon, the mall, and out to eat, and it was awesome, even though I’m pretty darn sure I don’t pass these days. I really don’t care all that much what others think anymore, but I felt at peace, had a great time and that’s what really matters.
I have started crossdressing for about 2 years and love it I’m 58 and wish I would have started sooner.I love going to womens stores for clothes and to salons for makeup it is the best thing I have done for me I don’t care what people think,and Luccile I want to get your hippnossis program sometime
Right on Charlotte.
I’ve been confused for about 18 yrs of my sexual identity. Just last yr I did some research why I did the things that I do when I’m home alone or at night. I’m 34 now & turning 35 on April 15th. It turns out I have gender dysphoria. Now I’m seeing a therapist to start my transition , cause I’m tired of not living as my true self.