Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I am having a rough go at this.
I have been dressing in private since I was 9 and I have now been with my wife for 12 years. I told her about my dressing from the get go and she wasn’t very supportive of it. It has been about 6 months since I finally admitted to myself that I wanted to transition (knowing in my heart that I always wanted to) and my wife isn’t happy with my decision. She has been a little more compliant with my crossdressing but is not prepared to let her “husband” go. I am not sure how I can be happy as becoming a woman is all that occupies my mind now. We have 3 children and have not told any of this to them yet but I’m afraid that if I do go through with transitioning it will end my partnership with my wife and I will lose my kids. I want this so much and I am willing to sacrifice a lot but I just don’t know if I should.
Thanks for the tips Lucille.
Keep them coming.
I am 51 and I am starting to come out more and more and hopefully start on this road I wanted so much but couldn’t do it for societal and workplace reasons. I love dressing like a woman and enjoying feeling that way and expressing it. I am looking for breast enlargement, I do drink a lot of soy milk, but I am approaching my counselor with the topic.
I am having a rough go at this.
I have been dressing in private since I was 9 and I have now been with my wife for 12 years. I told her about my dressing from the get go and she wasn’t very supportive of it. It has been about 6 months since I finally admitted to myself that I wanted to transition (
I love the fact this question of age has come up. I knew all my life I was interested in being a female. When I was young I wasn’t sure why I felt this way. Fast forward to the year 2000. I started seriously cross dressing at least I thought that is what I was doing. 2004 I decided I would work my way to being a full female. By then I had nearly 100 pairs of shoes and a full closet of clothes.
Since 2004 I have been getting all my hair removed. I was out to select friends. Last year 2013 I decided to make it official, I closed my old FB account and opened my new one. To my surprise I had almost all of my family and life long friends supporting me. It was thrilling.
Now after 15 years of working on my transformation everywhere I go I am addressed as female.
This year I will change my name. I’m on HRT with a nice development going on. My therapist is working with me to finalize my transformation legally.
My past fears are just that, past. I am blown away at all the acceptance and encouragement I get from everyone I know.
I finally feel at home. Age? I turn 59 in March!
I will be able to enjoy my final years in the body and the confidence I’ve always wanted.
My advice to others, take a deep breath and go for it. You may be terribly surprised at how many people you feared will support you. All my fear has now been erased and I so happy now.
Good luck to everyone!
Thanks to you Luclle
On Jan 1, 2013 I made the decision to finally come out to someone …that I am and have been for most of my life TG. I was 63 then. So for the past 13 months I have been buying a new wardrobe, learning more about cosmetics and learning more about the woman inside me. I go out in public quite often (to movies, restaurants, supermarket, the mall, etc) dressed in a very nice outfit and makeup. I feel so happy doing this that I now know for certain what the rest of my life’s trajectory will be like. 6 days ago I began Lucille’s FlattoFem breast growth program and am committed to continue for however long it takes. Now all my neighbors know that I am TG, my 23 old daughter is very supportive but I have not told my work group (I have 1 more yr to go before retirement and won’t jeapordize my job). I absolutely cannot wait until I can live 24/7 as a woman! I simply refuse to go into my later stages of life as a graying, grizzled, grumpy old man. I am an attractive, slender, cheerful woman in appearance. I embrace it, I love it and I am confidant. Thanks to Lucille for her many many tips and advice over the years. Without her and all of you girls who comment this transformation would not have been possible.
Love you all…..Dana
As I scrolled through all the stories I was surprised to find this post from 2014! Now, 3 years later I am so much further along in my transition that I can honestly say that I am a woman even though I may never get SRS. Through Lucille’s FlattoFemme breast enhancement program I have very nice B cup breasts and need not grow them any larger. I have come out to everyone I know and they are very supportive (for the most part….some are lukewarm). I am sooo happy!
I didn’t discover (know) I was transgender until 63 although I had had lots of wondering moments. It’s so strange how I learned. Three failed marriages, and two gay relationships taught me that I was something else, but what. Then I started reading stories, nonfiction, fiction, and erotic, about transgender persons, and I just saw myself there. I went into counseling for a year to be sure and started trying some changes–building a wardrobe, starting hormones, finding a partner (in this I was very lucky to find a woman who was attracted to me initially as a man, but who was just thrilled when she found out that I was transgender/bigender, which I told her as soon as things got serious. Together we are looking forward towards a long, slow transition. I will finish out my career as a man (I don’t resent that part of my history), but I do so enjoy the constant thrill of discovery with the expanding feminine part of my life. She has helped me tremendously in my presentation and just overall confidence and ability to accept myself as I am. We just got married and are planning on about a five-year plan towards partial genital surgery. For now we are both just enjoying one day at a time with mutually heightened excitement.
Hi Colleen,
I so much appreciated your comment on the subject “is one too old” post. Your words rang especially perceptive to me. I am likely going to begin transitioning at age 65 in three weeks.
Love,
Michelle
I was tagged as feminine by a female school teacher as early as 5. As I grew up, there were of course, the numerous harassing comments. I began cross dressing at 14 and imagined myself being a woman by 15/16. Numerous men made advances, including a teacher and an alcoholic parent, but I was always too scared to act on them. In the end, I chose the safe route and married a loving and compassionate woman. I had children with her. She knew from the beginning what I was. I told her. She neither condemns nor condones it. She’s been a good companion, and mother to our children and I’m happy enough.
I’ve thought about transitioning since I was a teenager, but as a 50 something, I’m not sure. Why? Firstly, my wife and children don’t deserve the hassle. I willingly signed up for the job of husband and father. Seems to me that I don’t have the right to back out, regardless of my needs, real or imagined. Secondly, transitioning is a lot of work and requires a boat load of patience, dedication and money to see it through properly. In my opinion, it’s enough that I can dress as I want in the privacy of my own home. Sure, I’m not passable, and I could become more passable, but it’s comforting enough, for my situation. Synthetic hormones are also dangerous, and yes, I’ve taken them in the past. Thirdly, if I was to fully transition, my current marriage would likely end, and needing companionship, I would likely experiment with men as a trans woman. To be honest, I’m not sure if I could successfully fulfil the role of a girlfriend or wife. It would be a lot of work to unlearn one role and learn the opposite one. Perhaps this is just an excuse. Finally, I occasionally go to church and I do worry about God’s opinion. Maybe I will get a bad judgement after I die, but a borderline condition of autogynephilia (my own diagnosis), is hard to overcome. In any case, for now, I’m just not sure that putting my needs ahead of everything else is the way to go. Perhaps one day I’ll change my mind.
Regards
Hi Janet , I discovered recently that I fall into the category of an autogynephiliac as well . I didn’t even know there was a term for it . I discovered this by viewing a post by a transwomen on YouTube . Here is the link . I hope it helps . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6a5L0VKrDBc . She talks about research done by a women called Lyn Conway who has a lot of interesting things to say about the subject and many other links regarding it . It is very interesting and made me relieved that I am not alone and also enticed me to consider transitioning and at the very least grow my own breasts . I am sixty three and have been dressing since I was about ten . Anyway as I said I hope it helps . Love Jodi . x
I don’y yhink we are ever too old to dress. I am 81 and have never tired of a nice skirt and blouse.