When you hear the word “ladylike,” what comes to mind?
For me, it’s grace, elegance, and femininity — qualities that many crossdressers and trans women aim for.
But here’s the question: How ladylike are YOU?
Take this fun 10-question transgender / crossdressing quiz to find out!
How ladylike are you?
You are %%PERCENTAGE%% ladylike.
Your answers are highlighted below.
Question 1 |
How do you greet people you know?
With a handshake | |
With a hug | |
With a kiss on the cheek |
Question 2 |
You’re at the bar with friends. What do you order?
Beer | |
Red wine | |
A girly cocktail |
Question 3 |
How sexily do you like to dress in public?
The more skin the better | |
I’m a total tomboy
| |
I like to show off my assets in a tasteful way |
Question 4 |
How often do you swear?
All the time | |
Occasionally | |
Almost never |
Question 5 |
What would you do if you accidentally burped in public?
Get really embarrassed and apologize profusely | |
Laugh and do it again | |
Say "excuse me" and forget about it |
Question 6 |
What do you like to wear to bed?
Pretty lingerie | |
Oversized sweats | |
Cute but comfy pajamas |
Question 7 |
You’re driving to lunch with the girls when somebody cuts you off in traffic. How do you respond?
Start tailgating them | |
Shout out loud and speed away | |
Ignore them and keep going |
Question 8 |
How often do you say “please” and “thank you”?
When I remember to - which isn’t often | |
As much as the average person | |
As often as possible |
Question 9 |
Which of the following shoes best suits your personal style?
Simple, elegant pumps | |
Over-the-knee patent leather stiletto boots | |
Sneakers or casual flats |
Question 10 |
Do you ever smoke or get drunk in public?
Often | |
Occasionally | |
Never |
Once you are finished, click the button below. Any items you have not completed will be marked incorrect.
There are 10 questions to complete.
So, how did you do? (Keep in mind that this quiz is just for fun – so don’t take it too seriously.)
Share your ladylike score below and let me know what you think!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucile, I scored a 63%. I know I need to improve and work daily on those changes I know need to happen.
Here are my comments on the questions:
How do I greet people. That’s a tough one I want very much to hug everyone. Tough I love her so it’s very unprofessional to hug your therapist. I would love to hug my back door neighbors, but they do not know I am transgender. I can’t hug my co-workers. We are service workers and they are all rough edged men. If you have ever watched Suzi the scarf girl you will know how I am with friends and even strangers and even when I am out shopping. I am speaking more and more successfully as a woman while in public. It is becoming my more natural mode of communicating and this helps greatly. My vocal coach has had a tremendous affect on my feminine conversion.
At the bar?
well, I can count on one hand how often I’ve been in a bar. I wish I had girlfriends to go out with. All I have now is my girlfriends in support group. We’ve only been out once together and that was for breakfast. I so much want to do more going out. I love Pina Coladas , but I don’t know much about mixed drinks.
How do I dress?
I love maxi skirts in colourful prints or of one colour. I always go to the effort to find matching tops in complementary colours. I don’t have the body to dress sexy. I am more concerned with pleasing colour combinations and clothes that drape nicely on me.
If I accidentally burp in public?
I always apologise profusely. It’s not something I am known for.
What do I wear to bed?
I really fall down on this one. Of the three items I would definitely favour the cute , but comfy pj’s. I usually sleep in my undies and socks. I better get those pajamas!
How often do I swear?
Ever since my beginning of my transition I have dramatically reduced my swearing. Control means a lot to me. As it is now, I do not swear in public. All my co-workers swear profusely and yet take no notice of my clean behaviour. I guess they don’t realise that they even do it. I do make the mistake of swearing in front of my spouse. I do apologise to her profusely and the occasions are coming less and less often. Given that I can control myself in public and with my fanmily and extended family I have no excuses.
Someone cuts me off while driving with the girls to lunch.
Being with my gf’s becomes a public arena and I would behave myself and retreat from the situation by either holding a safe speed within speed limit laws which I do on my own anyway. I play my girl music which really puts me in a charitable mindset. At night with the wife or even by myself is another matter. If it’s not too close i just shake my head in disbelief. If it’s really close I’ll use the horn, but no other actions. I am afraid of payback from someone who may be a bit crazed. Especially truckers. I try to read traffic and spot situations that would cause drivers to act carelessly and I leave even more room and do my best to not move from my lane that will take me most, if not all the way to my get off.
Saying please and thank you.
I say it a lot as I realise showing appreciation to others for their kindness is becoming a lost art. Especially when I dress as Susan and risk being read I need as much good will as I can create. It really seems to get people to be nicer. That means the world to me. I practice smiling more than ever before. Being outgoing is so much better than being self absorbed.
What kind of shoes do I favour?
During the summer I love low heeled sandals in white, tan or black. Now that it is winter I plan to get some comfy boots. they’ll be my first, so I don’t know what style I will pick. Modest heels for sure. I am so looking forward to having them. DSW is my favourite shoe source. I’m not shy about shopping for my clothes in retail outlets. I’m just having too much fun.
and lastly………..
Do I ever smoke or get drunk in public/
I’ve been drunk only three times in my entire life. The last time was in 1996. It was terrible and scared me straight. I promised myself that I would never do that again, ever, anywhere! I have not looked back.
I have never smoked a cigarette in my life. It will never happen. I’ve never done drugs or gotten any tattoos. My wife and I are thinking of going together to get our ears pierced. I did smoke a pipe way back in 1972. Tried one three times. Quit because It tasted like an ash tray. i love the smell of unburnt tobacco. I thought the smoke would have a nice taste to it. Not a bit of it.
Love your questionnaires!
All the best,
Susan
Nice details, I had 100%, Most C, 2 a
I don’t drink, even socially: it takes me two or three months to work my way through two ounces of my favorite liquor! I also don’t smoke.
That being said, 62% is close to how feminine I feel.
Cheers, and keep bringing to good stuff
Alexa-Marie,
I think we are possibly quite alike. I scored a 63. The drinking question is interesting. I’ve got all this liquor. Probably 15 wines, many delightful fruit wines from Oregon. Cabernet Sauvignon being my favourite. I also have the hard liquor to make my favourite drink, a Pina Colada . But, I never seem to get to trying them as I feel I need a special occasion or a social situation. We used to have a friend who would drink with us, she doesn’t want to any more. So, that ended that. It’s just not as much fun. I like the laughter and frolic that goes with it. I can’t do that by myself. When I was a child my father had a full liquor cabinet of all sorts of stuff. He let me smell some of it once and that turned me off for a long, long time. I tried getting drunk twice and got sick and threw up. Felt dizzy on and off for several days. It scared me straight and promised myself I would never do that again. That was in 1996. Mom and Dad smoked. I never liked the smell of the smoke, even though I love the smell of unburnt tobacco. So, I never started that habit. I’ve never done drugs. Had plenty of friends in high school who did. I only lived vicariously through them.
My biggest desire now as a woman? I terribly need to socialize and do things with other women, trans and cisgender. When I am talking with the girls I am in my element like no other time. Support group every other week is just not enough for me. Now that I’ve finally acquired my feminine voice I feel excited and revved up to party. The man I once was never knew such delights. I’ve recently read that gf’s are vital to our survival. We give and receive joy and are healthier for it because we can share all of ourselves. I’ve not really had any male bondings. Not Dad, not my brother or any other men. I had often found myself the only male in a group of women and I felt no discomfort. Just sweet friends. And you? Please tell me your experiences Alexa-Marie.
I scored 48% and am ok with that, as I definitely think I am half-and-half. These polls are always fun, please keep adding new ones Lucille!
Haha loved the fun quiz! Of course it’s not a ‘scientific study’ but it was nevertheless funny. I got 83%, which is not bad, since there are some ‘right answers’ that are clearly cultural. Here are two examples:
– What to drink at a bar with friends if you’re ladylike. My country is a wine country, where you get astonishingly good wine for a low price; an excellent wine in a glass can be got for less than a beer. As such, it would be very unusual for a lady to ask for a glass of wine at a bar to be considered ‘elegant’, because drinking red wine in a bar is something someone from the lower classes would drink. ‘Girly cocktails’ would also be out. A lady would probably ask for some Madeira or White Port, or possibly a very dry martini.
But obviously, on other countries, where wine is a luxury item, drinking red wine would be seen as sophisticated and elegant, even in a bar.
Note: of course, for dinner, wine would be a must, but not necessarily just red wine. In my country there are several major types of wine: red, white, green (i.e. not from mature grapes), which also comes in red and white colours, sparkling (not necessarily champagne; that’s another class by itself), and, of course, champagne. All of them would be appropriately elegant for dinner, depending on what you’re eating. As said, we are a wine country, and that means choices are varied, and wine is so cheap that it is regularly consumed everywhere, and not considered something very sophisticated.
– You lumped ‘smoking’ and ‘getting drunk in public’ in the same question. Because around here so many people are used to alcohol, getting drunk in public is actually relatively rare; of course we have alcoholism like any other country, but we are, on average, less prone to get drunk in public anyway — that comes from wine being a popular option that often gets consumed every day, so people are more used to alcohol and its effects and know how to stop. So, yes, no lady would get drunk in public.
Smoking, on the other hand, doesn’t have the social stigma that is popular on most (Western) countries. While the overall population of smokers is slowly decreasing, the number of women smoking has actually increased, especially in the under-40 population, and smoking has become a fashion accessory. The youth is also smoking much more than before, against all expectations and in spite of all the anti-smoking propaganda. And vaping — using e-cigarettes — is finally starting to catch up, and its use can only increase.
As a result of all the above, it is actually considered a very lady-like behaviour to smoke in public. Naturally enough, most private places (indoor public and private buildings, restaurants, entertainment areas, malls, etc.) strictly forbid smoking (but not vaping), the exception being a few bars, casinos, and a very small number of fancy restaurants who can afford the extra ventilation required by law for smoking areas. This mostly means that although it’s very lady-like to smoke in public, this happens mostly outdoors, in private environments (people’s homes), and a very few selected places.
This is just to give you a taste of different cultures, not meant as a criticism! The quiz idea was really great, and I hope you do some more in the future!
38%……..actually better than I expected,however, MY answer to some of the Qs was not listed, SO, my % could vary by >10%. I LUV little quizes like this tho, so keep doing them.
xoxoxo,
Janie Buttz
62 pct … better than I expected!!
I’d actually forgotten about the word “ladylike” until it came up in the “Reluctant Girlfriend” series somewhere. The protagonist — a high school student — was hoping to take Xmas break “off” from “being a girl,” and was plopped on his (sic) family’s couch in boy mode, including — while still wearing long pants — his legs spread wide like it didn’t matter. His mother took him to task for being unladylike, vs. everybody’s agreement (including his) for him to go about in girl mode for the whole school year.
The last time I’d ever heard the word, I was probably too young to realize it might have something to do with a girl or woman presenting sexually provocatively in a dangerous, or at least impolite/inconsiderate, manner. (Growing up with male privilege? even if just barely?!!) It gave me food for thought.
PS: Any chance we can glimpse the next chapter in her life? How about “The Reluctant Co-ed”? Followed by “The Reluctant Sorority Sister”? Finally “The Reluctant Transsexual.” Of course, she’s been less and less reluctant each time, but it’s become kind of a trademark! 😉
Hi Lucile, I scored a 72% and I enjoyed taking it. Thank you for all the information that you provide.
Rachel
I scored 69, probably well within the range of most women out there. I do smoke cigarettes and Virginia Slims 120s are the most feminine of all (IMHO). I know how PC smoking is but the facts remain that people do smoke and ladies do as well, but if you do smoke, why not smoke a cigarette that is most obviously for women/ladies. Do we all remember the ads for them? The beautiful models sure looked ladylike to me! I know Lucille doesn’t condone smoking and thats her prerogative. I love her anyway…..Dana