Your voice is an important part of your feminine image.
Even if you rarely go out in public as a woman, there’s bound to come a time when you’ll need to open your mouth and speak to someone.
You want to be the whole pretty package, right? Having a voice that’s congruent with your image is a big part of that.
The first step towards achieving a passable feminine voice is to avoid these 5 common mistakes:
1. Speaking too deeply
No surprise here, but if your voice is too deep you’re going to be read as male.
How do you know if your voice is too deep? Your best bet is to use a frequency tuner to measure the pitch of your voice:
- Male voices typically range from 100-150 Hz
- Female voices typically range from 175-250 Hz
Here are a couple free frequency tuner apps you can use on your phone to start measuring your voice:
2. Speaking in falsetto
Trying to mask a deep voice by speaking in an unnaturally high voice – otherwise known as falsetto – isn’t good, either.
Speaking this way doesn’t make you sound like a woman – it makes you sound like Minnie Mouse.
While you do want to raise the pitch of your voice, you never want to go too high. Again, a frequency tuner can help you find your correct range.
3. Whispering
If you are self conscious about your voice, then you might try to compensate by speaking more softly.
However, lowering the volume of your voice doesn’t make you sound more feminine – it just makes it impossible to hear you.
4. Upswinging your sentences
Women naturally have more “melodic intonation” to their voices. In other words, they are more animated when they speak.
Some crossdressers and transgender women make the mistake of trying to imitate this by “upswinging” their voices at the end of every sentence.
“Upswinging” can make each sentence sound like a question. All this does is make you sound like a stereotypical Valley Girl – probably not the type of woman you want to emulate.
5. Pinching your voice
One of the reasons that men have deeper, richer voices than women is because they have a larger “throat space.”
If you try to compensate for your deeper voice by constricting your throat, the result will sound pinched. Think Pee Wee Herman or Kermit the Frog – again, not who you want to emulate!
Avoiding these mistakes is the first step towards achieving a passable feminine voice
It’s easy to go wrong in your attempts to feminize your voice.
The good news is that you CAN achieve a passable feminine if you use the right techniques.
I’ll be talking more about voice feminization in future posts. Before I do that, I’d love to understand how important this issue is for you.
Please take my poll below. And as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. Are you ready to feminize your voice in the next 30 days? I highly recommend speech pathologist Kathe Perez’s 30 Day Crash Course Voice. This guided voice feminization program will give you the tools and training you need to achieve your goals.
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I think sometimes I’ve passed visually and upon speaking to someone, they were startled. I don’t want to fake a voice. That would just make me more self focused, increasing my anxiety. I would rather want to feel more natural and relaxed. So though my voice is a concern, feeling comfortable is more important. I am contemplating voice surgery. Maybe in the future.
My voice is very important to me… i need every little bit of info i can get. I had to learn to pitch my voice by myself and its important to learn how to speak in a conversation, But i didn’t know everything and i have am glad to know how to do my voice proper.
As a crossdresser, how can I learn to make my voice more feminine is a way that allows me to change back when I’m not Crissy.
There are some feminine voices that are so hot. I would love to sound like that.
I highly recommend training with Kathe Perez. I did one-on-one personal training with Kathe via Skype and she was really excited for me and the progress I made. When speaking to her during the course of each session, if my voice would go too low, she would put up her hand as if to say “STOP!” She said either you speak like a woman or don’t speak at all. It was great training. On a recent stay at a hotel, I had three different women address me as “ma’am.” That felt so awesome!
Thank you Lucille for these great tips. But it is so freaking tough to monitor yourself while speaking
Heard that you can get your vocal cords shaved is it safe operation
How do I know if I sound female I have record myself and I think it sounds good but I just don’t know, I’m pre hormones too
I’m gonna need help applying makeup as I’ve never done it before. Anyone?
Go to a make up place like euphoria and pay to have make up put on, they will tell you what their doing and why,so u might want to have a recorder on,them have them take a picture of you when their done