Stepping out into the word as your female self can be incredibly empowering. It’s powerful validation for crossdressers and transgender women alike.
In this blog post, I want to dive into this topic and hear about your own experiences. How often do you present yourself as a woman in public?
Do you live as a woman full time? Do you crossdress regularly or on occasion? Or is the answer, sadly, “never”?
Please take my transgender / crossdressing survey and share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I try not to go female in front of my 11 years old son so as not to confuse him or to draw ridicule toward him from his friends. I absolutely love being a wo.an but sadly I have few opportunities for this beyond wearing my pajamas or nightgowns. Occasionally I will wear full female attire when I take my wife to work (she is the BEST…totally supportive), but only if I know I don’t have to make any stops. Totally chicken, I know, but I have yet to perfect the illusion of passing and don’t want or need the ridicule were I to be discovered. Perhaps in the future I will have the nerve to go out as Lindsey, but for now will have to settle for bringing her out at home.
I am an occasional visitor to your site and am always impressed by the positivity shown by your contributors. This is a real credit to you Lucille.
Although I am pre-surgery I have lived and worked 24/7 as a woman for over 3 years – but it took me 10 years to get to the point of finally switching my gender full-time. My early mistakes centred around under-estimating how feminine I looked – and therefore being far less confident in public than I needed. I was my own hardest critic, which is the same for several of my femme friends. My top ten tips for being accepted as a woman:
1. Don’t try to look sexy – try to look nice … there’s a big difference and other women will be more accepting if you look ‘nice’.
2. Get a colour analysis – understand what colours optimise your natural tones.
3. Get a body image / shape analysis … expensive but it will stop you buying skirts and dresses that aren’t right for you.
4. Don’t wear any underwear that a woman wouldn’t wear. It’s important to know your are wearing what other women wear – and these days there are loads of pretty shaping knickers to make you look and feel good.
5. Get professional make up advice, practice like mad, love your make up bag, learn to use a little bit of a lot of things and aim for a natural look.
6. Unless you are balding, grow your hair and get it styled into a feminine shape that you can tie back in an elastic band when you are presenting as a guy.
7. Bum in, boobs out!
8. Float and swagger with small strides when you walk. Don’t rush anywhere. Imagine your knees are tied together with a six inch string!
9. Go for small boobs (at least initially) not large ones. I am 5’8 and a size 14 and before I had my own boobs I padded out to a 38a (I am now a 38aa, but at least it’s all me!)
10. Believe in yourself – and others will believe in you!
Love
Kath xx
I love all that you said. I to waited to long to be the true person that I am. I am 65 now and for the last four years I am living as a women full time and very very happy.
“Dawn”…Very Sexy Legs and I LOVE YOU and YOUR NYLONS !!!
They’re a great pair of legs Dawn.
Lucille,
what a wonderful site. You are a great helper both practically and spiritually. Thank you! 🙂
Now, I am a crossdresser in it’s full meaning. A 50+ old being content in my male role with wonderful family and intensive business life.
I wear almost exclusively underwear purchased at ladies’ department, although (sadly) not lacy and frilly and not in purple, pink and other wonderful colors. During winter I ware nylons daily under my trousers. Most of my body hair (and there was a lot of it) is gone. My nail and toenails are manicured, sometimes also with clear polish. My eyebrows are shaped in a neutral way.
Most women I meet are nice to me and show interest which is a wonderful thing I enjoy very much.
However, I do also have urge to wear skirts, nylons and heels and occasional makeup. I am very sorry I cannot do it in my male role.
Thus, when occasion arises (traveling) I dress and try to pass. It seams that I’m about 85% successful in this since I had not a single incident. The only annoying came from teenage girls in two or three occasions. My last adventure was to fly dressed and was checked by a (female) security officer. When she did the body search she at first couldn’t figure out what was hidden under my skirt: a clip of my suspender belt 🙂
In last years I am working on my passability by going out dressed in a broad daylight. New efforts are directed to get dressed for situations with close contact with other people (only a feet or two of distance).
Another wonderful thing that I gained is my heightened awareness of my clothes and movements, of myself, when being in drab (male) mode. The different feeling of shoes, suits, ties. Sometimes I imagine I am a girl who crossdresses as a male and explores the sensations. I extend this awareness to movements and interaction with other people.
I enjoy watching women move and interact and I try to mimic that.
Finally, I started experimenting adding makeup, and items of ladies’ fashion to my male image. I study other peoples’ awareness and reactions.
In one sentence: crossdressing is a wonderful hobby, stress relief, (scientific) study topic and personal development activity.
dusty
Hi everyone,
I myself would have to say, that I’m just at the beginning of my journey of transition. I have been a closet cd for most of my life. I finally came out to family this past year. Since then, all my dream and wishes to be a woman have now came to the front. Thankfully, with full support. Now I’m in the slow process of changing the various daily life things. This past year, halfway through my LGBT bowling league, I made the switch. The boost in personal confidence was amazing. I now dress full-time at home. Work will take awhile, but I truly believe it is very possible. This coming September, I will play two bowling leagues, and maybe some baseball next summer.
Lovs all, Jessica.
I know this sounds a bit silly but being born in the early 50’s had more barriers to cross than today, the has been a lot of times, when I was in my early teens that I could have lived as a girl, if I had, had somewhere to live, but I didn’t, and could only used the small time I had on my own to dress and make up, I also had relationships with older men that let me dress at their homes, but as I’ve got older, I still like to dress as a woman, and still feel comfortable when I do, the Web page has given me a lot more insight to what I would LOVE,to have known years ago x.x.x I
“keith”…It’s Great To Dress Up and Have Sex With Other Men !!!
I thought I had already posted here but I could never find it; so here it is again, written slightly different. I am not a crossdresser nor have I ever wanted to be. I have always thought of myself as a female since before I was knee-high to a puppy dog’s tail. If it hadn’t been for my wife wanting a divorce once I came out to her, perhaps I would be marry to her for another 28 years without daring to be true to myself. My wife did however decide to divorce and today and I can say unequivocally that since going full-time as a woman, I couldn’t be happier; well, I probably will be happier but I’m pretty darn stoked right now! 🙂
Sophia–You are extremely passable, very attractive and sexy! No wonder you are stoked!
Thank you so much Donna! That compliment does wonders for my confidence.
Lucille,
I am a women living my life full time, surgery done, name change done, all legal documents done including birth cirtificate. Life is good no need to hide anything anymore. I do dear appreciate all the help and advice that you have provided. It doesn’t get any better than this. Thanks again for all your help. Lots of Luv