Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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I have received compliments from ladies at medical appointments or clerks when checking out at a sales counter. Last Halloween I was out to get some fabric paint (purple) for the pleather boots I was going to wear to a party later that day. When I entered the store I was fully dressed in feminine clothing with my hair and makeup done ready for a party I was attending earlier that same day. The customer in front of me took a few minutes to make her purchase and I noticed the sales clerk glanced over at me a few times and I assumed she was attempting to see if I was getting impatient. When I approached the counter the clerk told me she thought I was very beautiful and she complimented me several times. I thanked her and said that I was done up for a company party in a few minutes and would be attending another party later on in a different female costume. she asked me to come back and show her photos from both parties which I did later that week. Frequently shopping for makeup at a beauty supply store fully dressed the ladies commonly tell me they are amazed at how nice I look and compliment me on my appearance. I’ve become friends with the store manager who manages two large beauty supply stores in my area towns. On one occasion while returning home from my medical appointment I stopped at the beauty store in the larger town near where I live and purchased some makeup. My friend was working at that location that day however she was not on the sales floor so I asked the sales lady if she would tell her Boss that Cynthia said hello. The next time I saw my friend she was outside the store in my hometown on break and she said that a clerk at the other store told her a beautiful tall blonde woman had asked her to say hello I guess she didn’t remember my name? My friend however knew that the clerk was referring to me and added that her staff was shocked when they learned who I was. My transition therapist has told me numerous times she is slightly jealous of my fashion choices and appearance. When asked how much time it takes for me to get ready I told her two or sometimes three hours. She chuckled and said no way could she take that long. When I arrived for my session in 5 inch high heels she was amazed at how well I could walk in them and commented that she would have twisted her ankle in the first few steps.
I do enjoy the positive feedback and I suppose that is being passable. I’m just very grateful for the opportunity to share my femininity and how well received it has been.
When my female presentation goal is complete. I hope to pass as a woman 100% or close to 100%.
Im Bobbie and i love to dress and act like a lady.
i see myself as a woman.
BOBBie
Although I’ve known since very young, way back in the day in the coal mining regions in the 50’s I learned to hide it REALLY well. Either that or end up in the bottom of some quarry. So my entire life I lived a very well kept secret, and have only recently come out. Living and developing as a male (Army basic and Advanced Infantry Training have a tendency to change skinny young men into MEN), with a physically active life, I have the voice of a strangling bull and the skeletal structure of an ape and I have to accept that there is only so much that makeup and clothes can hide. So I accept that I’ll never be “passable” no matter what I do. so I’m quite content to make myself as presentable as possible and go with it. Except in those occasions where I’m doing male work around the house I’m full time Jennifer, but that doesn’t mean I always have to be completely made up. Many times I go to the store more as a feminized male, women’s clothes, 3″ wedge shoes, jewelry, earrings, a women’s hat but no wig or makeup. When I go out, like to a club or dinner or a movie, I go all the way, and although I’m not passable I am known as a very sharp dresser. Women come up and ask me all the time how I walk around all night in 4 or 5″ stilettos. At my age, I’ve finally given up what others think of me any more, I will look however I want to look, wherever I want, whenever I want, as long as I know, I’m going to look the best I can. And I’ve found that people don’t particularly expect us to look passable, we’re so hard on ourselves. If we’re confident, courteous, smile, have patience and answer curious peoples questions, (we’re all learning) treat others like we want to be treated, nobody cares, and they accept us just as they do anyone else who passes by them.
Well, since I have been old enough to drive, 3 out of 5 times going thru a drive-thru window ai get “thank you maa’m!,or miss. Always had long hair & a pretty face, which when I was young took it as a curse, but now that I’m older I’m thankful! Things like being mistaken for a woman my whole life, is one of the things that made me try crossdressing.. Now I know I’m very lucky because I really don’t have to t have hard to pass, but that also makes it easier for people I know to spot me out & around & that Terrifies me!!
I also present as who I am, Kristine, at the office. I live and work as Kristine and my co-workers address me as Kristine. I don’t make demands, I just explain who I am and how I came to be, they respect me and I them. I am so glad we have made such strides in society where we are totally free to be who we are.
I present as female at work, 4 days out of 5, sometimes 5 out of 5. Everyone still calls me by my male name because it’s just easier. When I’m dressed I try to present as best I can as female. I have been out with two female friends for dinner and the waiter addressed us as ladies, which was lovely. I went into town after work one night and had a few curious looks but otherwise no problem. The shop assistant gave me a big smile which made me feel good.