Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? This is something a lot of crossdressers and transgender women think about.
Is passing really a goal worth pursuing?
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether or not I think passing matters in this blog post. (Spoiler alert: It doesn’t.)
But now, I’m curious to know what YOU think:
Do you care about passing as a woman? Or are you proud to be seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are?
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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i have been cross dressing for a long time and have really gone by the tips provided by lucille and her website. i have got the courage to go out because what i see in the mirror is a pretty woman whom i wont have mind falling in live with as a man. these are some of the pics from my first photo shoot by professional makeup artist and photographers. i have used a bridal wear, ethnic indian saree, a lehenga and a western attire, your views are welcome..
My goal is not to get noticed, and when I am out it is the best feeling to be shopping and in the mall with no attention or even a second glance. I am not perfect, but dress modestly and favour an office attire look as if I am on way to or from work. I have the opinion that people see what they are shown, and I try to project a well dressed woman behaving normally. Still have a lot to learn and sti to frightened to speak, but this will come.
I chose yes but “sort of” also rings true for me. I would love to look so very much “girl” that no one would ever know otherwise but that’s just not realistic.
When I’m all prettied up I like what I see. I love what I see. My hair and makeup are not perfect – I’m still learning. My clothes are not cutting edge but I have grown out of the “too small and too tight” phase of clothes shopping. I am tall and have big shoulders. My voice is a dead giveaway but surprisingly most people I talk to just don’t seem to mind my masculine voice. I know that I’m not passable upon close scrutiny but I pass more than I ever thought I would.
I pass not so much because of my looks but because of my attitude and my being comfortable in my own skin in the way I want to present to the world. I pass because I like me and I like that girl in the mirror. I pass because I act like there’s nothing more normal in the world for me to be doing.
I still wish I could be more feminine looking but I am OK with the fact that I get to be feminine as much as I do and that I’ll be even more feminine as I progress.
I must be doing something right. As I was unloading my stuff from car at school the other day two men in a passing car whistled and said something about “good lookin”. Sure, I understand the crass remarks that often just serve to objectify a woman. I know that these types of remarks are rude and should not be something a woman has to put up with. But I also know that while I was slightly afraid I was happy that someone noticed.
Have a great day girls! HUGZ for all of you.
Katie
Hi Katie – I think yours is a well thought out and reasoned response to the question asked. I ask myself, in all seriousness, how many women like us are going to pass as “real women” – not that many I would guess. As you say, it’s about being realistic and enjoying every moment as we best can. Take care – Diane x
Thank you Diane.
About your comment – if we feel in our heart and soul that we are women then we are women. Whatever you are wearing, however your hair looks, whatever your voice sounds like, makes no difference in who you are. We are real women or we would not be here discussing this. HUGZ!
This is an area, I think, where some (possibly most) girls spend much of their time, energy and thought on. I certainly do – and have done for all of my long time as a TV/CD/(or whatever label you like to use).
From the moment I first actually went out, during the day, shopping etc. dressed as Charlotte I have enjoyed every minute of every time since. I am so pleased, though, that it didn’t all happen at once but, rather, that it was a series of events – each building on the last until I could do, or go, anywhere or anything I want to as a women.
There are so many ‘first times’. First time at the hairdresser having my wig styled; First time on the London Underground; First time walking around Soho at night in very high heels, short skirt and seamed stockings! And so on and so on.
Do I pass? – Well what do we mean by passing? I have no doubt that most women have me sussed reasonably quickly. Most men? May be less so. For me, I try to make the absolute, feminine best of myself; always! No half measures. Then I enjoy every moment of being out and if I get ‘clocked’ I get ‘clocked’. It is fabulous fun and what I have wanted to do all my life!
When I get dressed up en femme and enter the world as a woman the thoughts that run through my mind are, “Can I blend in? Am I passable? Will I be publicly called out and humiliated?” Don’t get me wrong, I love it when I get the chance to go out in public en femme but since I so seldom get the opportunity I have not yet fully developed my makeup skills or more importantly, my confidence. However, that won’t stop me from going out, and yes, I truly want to be a female and passable,
Yea, I would like to be a complete women for the rest of the life. I love to the way women dress up and want to wear all that Jewels, makeup’s and different cloths and it is really nice to feel as well.
I WOULD LIKE TO BE WOMAN IN FULL. I LIKE WEAR SAREES,BANGLES EAR-RINGS,BINDI,LIPSTICK,AND ANGLETS ETC.
I just love to be a woman, so why wouldn’t I want to be as beautiful as possible. I want hot men to look at me with lust.