Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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I enjoy doing my best to pass as a woman, I have been on the hormone treatment since August 2014 I had a book published 2months before that my family was 1000% against my journey until a death in the family made my family realise that no one knows what life holds, I had my big brother tell me he wishes me dead and that he never ever seen me as his brother so in true spirit I with a smile as I leaned forward and said in reply “Well our dad always told me that as far as he’s concerned I’m not his son so it’s a good job I’m becoming your sister ” then I sat back in my seat as my family and friends all sat gobsmacked, I still get people who make the odd comments and in return I just and smile because as a woman I’m better than those petty people who make horrible comments, but one night on a girls night out a guy with all his friends sat taking the piss out of me just trying to get a rise out of me so instead of ignoring their behaviour I happily while looking at all of them asked the ring leader (we’ll call him Joe) ” Joe how does what I’m going through effect you?” his friends no longer had anything more to say infact they all moved back from him and waited to hear his next comment he sat for a moment pondering that answer as my friends clapped and then he finally replied “It doesn’t ” and I then replied back exactly just like whatever is going on in your marriage or life has nothing to do with me,so unless you have an actual you really want the answer to get lost grow up and come back to speak to me when you have something you really want to know ” Joe never bothered me again not to my face but with being able to lip read I know he speaks about me behind my back or so he thinks but it doesn’t hurt me as I have made many new friends, in 2015 I was hit with news from the neurologist that they were washing their hands of my case involving my seizures and since June 2015 I have been left with no help/no support/ no follow up appointments even ignoring my gp when they reported a seizure I had whilst in the Dr’s surgery (my gp did believe me about the seizure’s but had never witnessed one until November 2015) but in reply the neurologist was very rude in their reply even telling my gp there views on my seizure’s aren’t as dangerous as epilepsy since then they ignored all requests from my gp and another even though being told there happening in the street aswell as in my home then last year I was found stuck between a parked car and pavement kerb when I was taken to A & E the nurse who was taking my information had requested a Dr come through but instead that dr spoke to me through a phone consoltation and the nuerologist Dr’s have said that they point blank refuse to reopen my case and as far as they are concerned they are blaming all my seizures aswell as past/present and future health problems on my going through gender reassignment and they point blank refuse to reopen my case, I have dealt with a lot of hard thing’s in my life and dealing with constant dizziness aswell as the seizure’s makes life hard but my journey as a woman has been the greatest journey I’ve ever been on and people still tell me today how they see so much happiness in me and that’s down to living and dressing as the woman I was meant to be
Hi , I’m transgender and back on HRT , for 14 months, yes been on Hrt before and couldn’t complete transitioning, being a women is all I ever wanted from a child, as early as 3 I dressed myself as female, I’m 57 , people say I don’t look it but it’s much harder as you age to transition, don’t give up girls be yourself, I work as man go out as women, hope to be full time woman in future, making a living is my biggest issue. Love love ya ,DaniLisa ‘
After 40 years of thinking i would never pass so kept my crossdressing in private a number of circumstances happened and my choice was to transition or end my life. Thankfully i have a wonderful supportive partner who has guided me and still threatens to not let me out of the house if i am dressed inappropriately. Two years on and I don’t give it a second thought, no one questions me or even gives me a second look. In my eyes i still have work to do but i am proud of who and what i am. More so, I’m proud of what I’ve achieved, medically my transition has been a bit of a disappointment but again I’ve had the most wonderful support here in country Western Australia to try and put right the mess made in my surgery.
To me, passing is everything, to walk into a shop with my partner and be greeted by “can i help you ladies” gives me such a buzz, to walk down the Main Street of our town in a dress and heels makes me feel amazing. I probably overdress for things such as doing the weekly shopping or going to the doctors but always look as classy as possible. I wear very little makeup, I’m lucky that i have fine features and no Adam’s apple to give me away, the one thing which does sometimes hurt me is my strong English accent or to be more precise, Yorkshire but my pitch is ambiguous which helps. The other big thing is that the world is much more accepting than it was twenty years ago, I don’t mind that people know that I’m trans and I’m very happy to talk about my journey, it is a very compelling story about a childhood of deceit after being born intersex and modified at birth. A small point which my parents forgot to mention and caused untold abuse in my early years.
I am a maternity crossdresser,I enjoy going out in maternity,I have female friends who are pregnant,that lives me.We go shopping we get our feet and nails done.
Hi Lucille, i love dressing as a woman, i not ventured outside my home as yet but would love to
I love been felling feminine and all that goes with it.
Love Patricia Honey xxx
When I first when out en femme it was very important to me to pass as a woman, but as time goes by I really care less and less. I now feel like I am just presenting me and the funny thing is, I no longer get the stares from people since my attitude has changed. Also, I have found most people that do make me when out are actually very nice to me, but a big smile always helps!!
I went and got my hair done today and then went shopping the clerk looked at me thought i was a very tall woman until I spoke and she is very nice I got a new outfit and I’m going out tonight I’m ecstatic this place is good and I love everything about it how are you girls out there keep striving
I’m proud to be me ; but I Care About “Passing” as a Woman , could you please give your opinion , if I could ?
Trying you’re best to pass is important, as even if you fail, people will notice that you made some effort and that could just be enough for acceptance. Which is really the key issue for me personally; as having came out locally (in a small town which is really a holiday escape for city people), I’ve been blessed that most local people have accepted me as a future fully transitioning trans gyrl and they’re okay with that.
The litmus test in passing would be with complete strangers who know nothing about me, as everyone else in my area knows I wasn’t born a girl. Though I’ve still to go out fully en femme, I hope for the day some tourist says that i’m hot or to get wolf whistled. That’s a non-disputable passing moment right there, even if it’s not ‘pc’.