Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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Passing is only a small part of the joy of going out dressed as a woman. There is a marvellous, delicious freedom when wearing a dress or skirt. And the added delight of the cooling wind on legs, the click of heels on the pavement (sidewalk) and the extraordinary revelation which comes when you glipmse your reflection in a shop window. Of course there are dangers: here in the UK there are still some severely retrograde types (all too often imports from some of our east European neighbours). So one has to become streetwise. I rarely go out alone: having a friend to ‘hold your hand’ is so liberating: but then I am so lucky in having found JJ and her Dress Me Up crossdressing service who really looks out for me, guiding me on these nervous but exhilarating steps towards full femininity, and so honest with her advice. The bonus of Lucille’s wisdom and understanding, albeit at a distance, has been unexpectedly wonderful.
You have just described something I have attempted to make friends understand for a long time. To be out and about. To feel the wind between your legs, to see yourself in reflection, to go about just being seen as a woman is everything to me. I don’t think about the danger and I know it exist I just know that in that moment there are few as happy as me.
Jennie J.
I am very lucky, I have the looks in which I have no problem being very passable. When I started dressing, I really didn’t see a passable woman in the mirror. Clothes weren’t right, nor makeup, and mostly a bad wig. I guess like any young woman growing up and experimenting, I finally got the found the look to make me very passable.
K.D.;
This picture demonstrates what it takes to look and act like a woman. No need to worry about “passing “, you are what you demonstrate. You were born with that physical appearance. Not everyone starts this process with the same advantages.
You are Pretty in Pink, lady . Just gorgeous!
I do it for me ,its not the end all and be all I have learnt that what ever you do, it will not please every one and some one will bring you down saying that it does not mean I don’t try my best but its more to do with me and how I feel and that’s feminine and I would not give that up for the world
Passing is everything to me and no one is harder on me than me. I have never had anyone look at me and laugh or say look at that man. I have never had a heavy voice although there are times when I think I’m fat. I have always been blessed with hips considered a bit wide for a man. It’s enough to make people just wonder in male mode and close enough when I’m the right thin in female mode. Today at 65 I still go and come unchallenged but now I feel more, think more, dress more as the woman I have always longed to be. Passing is everything to me but feeling it on the inside, if that makes any sense to you, is the best.
Jennie, you are an inspiration. African-American and around your age, I am so fearful to express the “inner lady.” I’ll think of your example and be bolder. Thank you!
been as a schoolgirl too long now need to be more femm as possible and pass in public especially when I can go to events in different towns and cities with tgirlfriends
I know I am transgender since before 3 yrs old but was bullied and terrorised by my parents and others. I decided to be as feminine as I like a few years ago. I don’t pass at all well as my body was ‘poisoned’ by testosterone. I have decided to be a modest person but this is my journey, nobody else’s.
I will go as far and as fast as I am comfortable with or as the hormones etc will take me.
To me I am always me but to others I try and be as passable as possible.
I have had laser on face and voice lessons with Kathe Perez.
All this helps a lot when you are 6ft 3.
Which there was a operation to reduce height.
C xx
Carolyne, Irish composer and singer Enya much more higher than you. And her sister Moire Brennan too. The most important is the right proportions between height and weight. I am 5ft and 8 and the weight 58 kg ( don’t know in lbs) and feel myself fine. Maybe who much higher than my height don’t wear heels more 3 inches and as for me I always wear 2 or 3 and it’s very comfortable. In area where I live the most genetic women can’t walk in heels higher than 3 inches and wear midi or even maxi as a national tradition.
I have to say there was a time that I believed “Passing” is the goal but now I don’t worrying what people think or say because I am secure as the woman I am. I now blend in with others and no one even takes a second look other than men… lol. So for me I dress for the season or the area whether I am out for fun, a walk in the sunshine or snowfall or shopping in the mall. I have come to believe that if they don’t like what they see then don’t look and if they have a problem with who I am then its their loss not mine cuz I am moving on.