Are you someone who doesn’t fit traditional gender norms?
Whether you’re a crossdresser, transgender woman, or embrace a different gender identity, it’s clear that society still has a lot to learn about gender non-conforming people.
Do you agree?
If so, let’s shed some light!
What do you wish people understood about you?
Whether it’s the people closest to you or the world at large, what message would you like to share?
The more voices and perspectives out there, the more others will hopefully begin to understand.
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Will be telling my family I am transgender just after christmas as I am starting to live full time as a woman in the new year. I just hope they will understand and be supportive. I’m sure if my mother was still alive she would understand, but I’m not too sure about my father or two brothers.
That I am a woman in heart and soul and enjoy feeling pretty
I wish people understood that the desire to dressup as a woman is perfectly normal!! It is completely harmless and it doesn’t make me any less or more of a man. It is exceptional fun!! There are very few activities that are so much fun. I am pretty sure that transvestites are fantastic lovers and understanding guys!! There ! That is my piece said!!
I’ve never really had any negative contact with anyone yet as a transgender woman in public. I must admit I am always apprehensive underneath when ever I’m in public. I think people say they accept us more now but in truth they just don’t want to identified as someone who discriminates in any way with us and they really don’t understand someone like us unless they secretly happen to be a closeted one of us and then that’s different. I have always seen myself as just me without worrying about the gender part. I like to think I feel like a woman but I don’t know how a woman feels. I know how I feel; I know I feel good about myself when a man looks at me in that way because I caught his eye. I like wearing dresses and that I walk with a sway when I walk now. I love when people see me as a woman and address me as one even at times when I’m dressed as a man. I wish I didn’t have to dress as a man. I hurt a little bit, cry a little bit every day because I can’t be or afford to be the woman I am every day. I don’t understand why a woman would want to be a man when I want to be a woman so badly. I don’t know that the average person could ever conceive of such feelings and thoughts. Consequently I don’t think they understand us at all; well maybe a few. I think you do Lucille or am I just a means to an end. It does not matter really as I know what I think, what I want to be. I can never be a real woman but maybe someday the world will see and address me as such. In the meantime I will be me and on the inside be the woman that I know I am.
I wish my wife would understand that crossdressing isn’t a perversion. I find myself more atrractive and sexy as a woman.
I often sit and think of what my life would be like if those I love in my life knew me, knew all of me. As I sit day dreaming of acceptance and understanding from those I fear would reject me the most I feel that the most confusing part would be that I am heterosexual. The way I feel when my toes look pretty and my makeup turned out just right and my dress fits perfectly looking fabulous with my kitten heels can only be described as peaceful. Just because I like to accentuate my feminine qualities and enjoy the pleasantries of a feminine appearance does not mean it is sexual and that by default I am gay. For me it is the epitome of sexiness to feel the satin and lace against my skin, the pretty colors of my makeup drawing attention to my physical features, the shape and flow of a cute dress or skirt. We put a great deal of effort into completing a look that for us projects the beauty of femininity, and to achieve that look makes all the effort worth while. I have never understood why I feel the ways I do about dressing but as time has passed I have learned that I don’t have to. When I am dressed it is truly some of the only times I feel completely relaxed and stress free and it is one of the only things I do just for me. This existence can be a lonely one but I have always found great comfort here with my sisters under the guiding hand of sweet Lucille. It’s about feeling sexy, not just about sex. Love you girls, be beautiful.
In 1987 for a local radio show in Santa Barbara I announced that I am a transvestite but this is a mistake, however, I am not a transsexual either or at least not the kind which is talked about in the medias so I don’t have a good answer for all of you.
I’d want people to know I am not a threat to anyone. I am not some type of monster or weird individual, just someone who wants to blend in with the rest of the world. I am fun-loving and humorous. I am also open-minded, I try not to judge other people as well.