Do you feel like you don’t fit into traditional gender norms?
Whether you’re a crossdresser, a transgender woman, or someone who embraces a different gender identity, one thing is clear: society still has a lot to learn about gender non-conforming people.
Do you agree? If so, let’s talk about it!
What do you wish people understood about you?
Whether it’s the people closest to you or the world at large, what message would you like to share?
The more voices and perspectives out there, the more others will hopefully begin to understand.
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
I’m 58 and still don’t know exactly why I feel I was meant to be a female. I struggle with it every single day of my life. I try and explain this feeling that has been in my heart and soul all these years, but it’s hard form most to understand why, but there are more and more not being caught up in why but are accepting me for me. I’m so grateful I have a select few who while not really understanding, respect me and accept me for being brave enough to be different and stand up and be counted.
I just pray that the violence stops and we can all be who we want to be without hate and judgement entering into the picture.
I just don’t want to be a victim of ignorance and hate as a result of my feminine expression. I know it challenges the gender norms accepted by the “majority.” We’ve come to accept so many different kinds of people but crossdressing is still freakish? Women do it all the time and it’s more acceptable, but when a man does it, it’s disgusting?
I have been hiding from the true me for over 20 yrs. I am so afraid of being judged that I won’t share myself with the outside world. I wish that people would be understanding enough that I could feel comfortable expressing my true self. I am transgender Mtf. When will I allow myself to be me? When will I except that I should not care for others judgments. I would like to share who I am!
Well I’m still in the closet but have some close calls in getting caught. One day I will get discovered and if I do I hope my family and friends will understand and are willing to accept me. I’m glad more people are accepting transgender and crossdressers. Maybe one day it will be easy to express who you are and how you want to live your life.
I wish I had had the courage when I was younger to more fully explore the woman I believe I truly am.
I think 2015 has come a very long way. With Katelyn coming out, there are more and more you-tube channels and more people coming out of the closet to be accepted. I have found that many aren’t afraid to express who they are. We are coming into the era where transgender people are accepted but still not understood by most.
There are many different reasons why someone may want to cross-dress, both male and female. I came out to my wife, accidentally(got caught dressing), a few years ago and it’s an ongoing conversation with us as to “why”. She just doesn’t get why I like dressing as a woman and how I am still in love with her very much. Some male cross-dressers may want to be with guys as their partners, but there are many who still want to be with a woman; like myself. She fears that I will leave her for a man and that is far from the truth. Just because I like dressing as a woman doesn’t mean that I am going to prefer men. I am actually not attracted to men at all, but she doesn’t get it.
I wish for more education to the physiological aspects of why we like dressing as women and evidence that it doesn’t change who we love, just who we are gender wise.
That cross dressing should be taken as a fun way to meet ones sexual desires. That it is normal.we all have male and female tendencies.it would be great if when expressing my love of cross dressing with the makeup and accessories it would be viewed with acceptance.currently it would not be accepted at least on the outside although down deep I believe many do accept it.the better educated the general public comes their ability to overcome unfounded fears and expand their thought process is needed.so I want to have some fun dress up and express my sexualitu this way should be readily accepted.
I wish that people would realize that being transgendered is not something you choose to be and that you are born this way just like you are born with the color of your hair or the color of your eyes , it is not something you get to choose. People are so narrow minded and dont have a clue as to what transgendered is all about. I have been living with this since I was 4 years old !!
Tammi, your comment is succinct and so reflects me and so many others like us. I wish people would understand that being transgender is definitely NOT A CHOICE! We are not men who simply want to dress like women. WE ARE WOMEN! People have tremendous difficulty understanding that about us, much less accepting us as who we are. I don’t dress because I simply want to, but because that is who I am.
Like so many others, I have been living with this contradiction between what I was born as and who I really am. It has been confusing, frustrating, and so difficult to come to terms with. And then we have to deal with those who neither understand nor accept us. Despite all of the difficulties I have come to accept myself and would not change who I am. I AM TRANS, AND I AM A WOMAN!
Tammi, you said it all, i feel exactly as you do and have been this way for over 60 yrs. it is part of life itself and i don’t plan on changing after all these years.