Do you go out in public as a woman?
If the answer is no, you’re not alone. Nearly 75% of my readers rarely or never leave the house en femme.
While going out en femme can be exciting and empowering, it’s not the only way to express your feminine side as a crossdresser or transgender woman.
Whether you choose to go out or keep it private, both options are valid!
This is an important topic, and I’d love to know what you think.
Where do YOU present yourself as a woman?
- Strictly in the privacy of your own home?
- At select places – like nightclubs, meetups, or conferences?
- Anywhere and everywhere as a full time woman?
Please take my poll and share your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Like to get my hands on her. –Regina
It has been a very long time since I have been out dressed. But I think that will change soon since I am no “single” again.
When did I go out? Those many years ago I was meeting Mistress Brianna in Washington DC. I met her a few times and then scheduled a night out. She made me up using her clothes and equipment and we went out to a gay bar for the evening. I only remember going out with her that one time.
I had 3 other outings with the help of other people getting me ready. I am very masculine when it comes to matching fashion and a complete novice with makeup. My profile picture is from the curtesy of Mistress Alicia, a TV mistress that had her studio in Detroit, MI. We went out to Gigi’s, a TG friendly bar and I had a wonderful time. I had many pictures at one time but purged them all. My profile picture was the only one I was able to salvage from Mistress Alicia’s now defunct web site.
I am 63yo and crossdress occasionally, I have been dressing since I was about 4 or 5 years old.
I have never gone out in public fully as a woman, although I do occasionally enjoy going out wearing feminine clothing (a blouse etc…) under male garments, after I’ve driven a short distance away from my home in my car, I remove / discard the male garments and drive while in feminine attire.
P. S. to my original comment…
I enjoy presenting myself En femme at home alone and/or occasionally in front of/with ‘select’ friends (private parties).
Also when I’m on an outing while I travel ~ in my car.
I’ve been crossdressing for a while but just within the last 2 years, I came out of the closet at which I’ve been hiding. I usually have a female present with me when I go shopping. Lately I’ve been going out on my own, to different areas especially in my 5 inch heel height, but the flats and wedges are the choices that I pick to wear, not because I’m thinking what pair will make me appear as a woman.
So, I’ve been walking around outside, in my neighborhood, parks, and inside other people houses. Some people may not like it, some may not notice the shoe difference, some may not care about the type of shoes they are, yet alone, won’t care if I got shoes on or I don’t.
Have I been out presenting myself to other as a female and living life to the fullest as a woman? Yes, everyday is some type of clothing that I wear when I go out and its it’s usually the tight jeans and tshirt with women’s shoes. Presentation of being a woman has been a little bit poor cause I try as hard as possible to stay away from all makeup.
Hi again Morgan
Well, I know where your coming from girlfriend!, we all have confidence issues, it’s part of being a girl!, Now I don’t worry as much, at my age you don’t draw that much attention, also I find with age comes confidence, there is an element of caring less about the opinion of strangers, and just being you, the time recently when I was most nervous was in a local store looking for makeup, a lot of places I would usually go are closed because of covid 19, so I am having to shop around and go to places which are new to me, and that causes anxiety in itself.
I am still getting to grips with finding what works for my style, but it’s very difficult now there are no samples to test colours, of course with the risk of infection it’s perfectly understandable, but it does make it harder to find your match, especially in a different brand, and I have found asking for help is difficult, in my usual shopping haunts I either know what I’m buying or I can ask a friendly assistant who I have dealt with before, so now I’m feeling a bit like a fish out of water!
So don’t worry, we all do, the first few times I went out to buy panties or any feminine clothes I was petrified!, looking back I wonder what I was fussing about, the ladies who sell feminine attire are so used to meeting us they are quite blase about it.
So long as your nice and polite they are just pleased to see you as any nice customer, in one of our largest chains of department stores they have a trans friendly policy, I have shopped there for years, even had a bra fitting, some really lovely ladies work there, and policy or no policy I don’t think it would make a difference to them
Similarly, when I’m out shopping for groceries, I really don’t have any problems, no one is nasty, or threatening, everyone just seems to be ok with it, I know I don’t “pass” but I do make an effort and always try to be well dressed, and smart, I find that does wonders for my confidence too, I never go too casual, certainly not dowdy, I want to look as presentable as I can, and I often get some nice comments and smiles from people, especially other women…
Im in my early 20’s subtly dress full time in only women’s jeans and leggings, due to the tomboyish skater look my shoes are unisex vans, women’s tshirts but when it comes to my skirts and dresses and dressing fully fem it’s usually only when I’m shopping for girl clothes or going to the salon.
I identify as transgender, non-binary. I am dressed 80% to 90% of the time when I leave my house. The rest of the time when I present as my male self, it is usually a matter of convenience. There isn’t much point when the errand takes much less time than getting ready and doing makeup. Also, makeup is expensive!
Since I retired 4 years ago, I have been a board member, treasurer and digital media coordinator for various transgender and LGBT-related organizations. Currently I am the Volunteer Coordinator for Palm Springs Pride. The vast majority of people here know me as DeeAnn and have never met my male self. In addition to local social and political events, I’ve also done a few speaking engagements, traveled to the Bay Area for architectural events and did 2900 miles as part of the MINI Takes The States event in 2018, all as DeeAnn. It is Me.
Where ever I go, I am ALWAYS nicely dressed; rarely “in style” but always “stylish”.
Hi DeeAnn
Love your comment not in style, but always stylish!, I couldn’t have put it better myself, there is no style worth having but your own…
Love Julie
I just dress like how I always dress. Look like how I always look. I’m more the t-shirt and shorts type. Maybe makeup, maybe not. I don’t really go many places. Grocery store. Occasionally clothes shopping.
You are absolutely gorgeous
Wish I could be with you
Hi Morgan
As I have said before, you should have no confidence issues out in public, I just wish I looked as good! even with the makeup!
Love Julie
Thanks Julie. I do have confidence issues and social anxiety. However, I don’t think appearances or gender are primarily the root cause.