Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Just posting an update. I’ve now been transitioning for a full 6 years, and have been tweaking all of my attributes (and non-attributes) seeking perfection. As compared to my first posts here, a great deal has changed, and for the better! *The bestest part is that I am now a nu-goth model and doing a LOT of pro-pole dancing!
The name at the top is my actual name. Nicole is my feminine name. I thought I would address that. So, that way you’re not confused.
I know that’s what not to do. I’ve got pretty good at following it the correct way. I have done this to relax. It was tricky at first, but I practiced each time I crossdress. I have felt so comfortable do it. I do love wearing a dress, but I practice this at night. I have tried other times do. I did it during the day, yesterday. On top of doing it in the morning.
From a lady, Nicole
I just figured out I’m transgender last year at 52 years old. I’m not on HRT (yet) but I’m trying to find ways to present more feminine. Articles like this definitely help.
As time goes by, I notice that my thoughts and actions have seemed to feminize naturally. It could be hormones or perhaps the letting go of the masculine persona. Now when my masculine persona comes out it catches me off guard. I can hear my voice deepen automatically and it’s disturbing. I guess old habits are hard to break. Now, when I’m dreaming, my character is usually a trans woman. It wasn’t like that before. I’m noticing more how men act like jerks, too!
Hey Laura, i liked “Being a woman is so liberating. Who gives a damn about male privilege anyway”
thanks for sharing your thoughts
Morgan, Morgan, beautiful as always! I agree that hormones do begin to change how we feel inside. And yes, men can be awful jerks. Since transitioning fully I feel beautiful and feminine inside and out. Being a woman is so liberating. Who gives a damn about male privilege anyway. They can keep it for all I care. Lol.
Blessings to all the ladies out there. XOXO.
You’re so silly!!
It’s interesting how transgendered people can be too feminine to be male and too masculine to be female. And in the pursuit of becoming one or the other, being hyper feminine or hyper masculinity becomes the result. Being who you are is always enough. Sometimes we have to stop trying to become what we’re not and start being who we are. We are unique, accept it.
So perfectly said, the real you has to live,and happiness will follow
Jill, you are a stunner! Classic beauty never goes out of style.
10 out of 10 for you young lady.
PS: I adore your handbag.
I am so lucky to be naturally graceful.
I only wish to state I am a ‘fresh’ 63, and have been rocking ‘en femme’ for 5yrs now. No surgeries yet, but they are scheduled for what counts (and is affordable I suppose). I’ve managed to tighten my skin using Perricone MD products (like no tomorrow), skin whiteners, an IPL for hair removal that has excelled beyond belief! Y’all look superb btw! Thanks for letting me stick my face in here everyone! 🙂 *I do have one distinct advantage, which is that I’m a certified MUA/MOA (Makeup and Makeover Artist) …since mid-1984. MY how things have changed!
I am honestly ‘just turned’ 63, and 5yrs ago decided I truly wanted to rock being ‘en femme’ 24/7/365 (and so I have been). I’ve got one advantage of excellence …which is being a certified MUA / MOA (Makeup/Makeover Artist) since 1984. I’ve purchased a bevy of lovely femme attire, and I tend to flit around as a Nu-Goth babe, (but tempered with colour but of course)! lol… An IPL has greatly helped rid myself of hair, and in approx 3 more months I should be hair free (top too)! HA! It’s not possible to describe life as a woman (except YES!), but I’m loving it and there’s NO chance of going back. Surgeries are now in place (scheduled) for all that I can possibly do for the most (you know) look. Y’all look superb! Thanks! **Note: When I started, I was 175lbs. Now I’m a slim & trim 127lbs, 5′ 7″, DD’s, 28″ waist, 34″ legs and size 8 feeties. It all comes together very nicely …yeah, I’m biased. 🙂 The money invested is remarkable, yet worth every last penny, with more pennies to follow I am sure! Cheers!
The supplied pic is about 2yrs old, and perhaps 15lbs heavier than now.
Thank you Miss A for the inspiration. I too am 63 and hope to be like you on my journey. You are simply gorgeous.
Candace