If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, then you know what can impact clothes, hair, and makeup can have on your appearance.
But let’s not forget about the little details, like your hands!
While you can’t change the structure of your hands, the good news is that there are simple ways to help minimize their size and create a more feminine look.
In this blog post on how to get feminine hands, I share 4 dos and don’ts for feminizing your hands. Let’s dive in!
DO Invest In The Right Grooming Tools
Since we’re constantly using our hands, they’re a natural magnet for attention. That means that neatly groomed hands and nails are a must.
Good grooming doesn’t have to take much time – especially when you use the right tools. Here are a few items you should have in your arsenal:
- Nail brush – This is an essential tool for cleaning under the fingernails.
- Glass nail file – A glass nail file is gentler on the nails, so it’s a better option than an emery board or metal nail file.
- Nail buffer – Use a nail buffer to give your nails a natural shine without having to use polish.
- Hand cream – Hand creams are thicker than body lotions, so they offer extra hydration for hands and nails.
DON’T Make These Manicure Mistakes
Whether you go to a salon or do it yourself, getting a manicure is a great way to polish your feminine look.
That said, there are a couple mistakes you’ll want to avoid:
- Avoid nails that are too long or too short. Both of these extremes tend to make the fingers look larger and thus, more masculine. The most flattering nail length is about 1/8″-1/4″ past your fingertips.
- Avoid dark nail polish colors. If your hands aren’t your strong point, avoid dark colors and stick with neutral tones that blend into your hands. Flattering color choices are soft pink, nude, or ivory.
DON’T Forget Hairy Knuckles
This seems obvious, but it still needs to be stated: If you have hairy knuckles, don’t forget to shave them when presenting yourself as a woman.
No need for such a simple detail to run an otherwise impeccable feminine image!
DO Use Jewelry To Your Advantage
Rings and bracelets can definitely make your hands look prettier, but there are a couple important rules to follow:
- Avoid dainty jewelry. If you have larger hands, they can overpower delicate jewelry. Instead, look for chunkier jewelry styles that suit the proportions of your hands.
- Keep it low key. Flashy rings and bracelets call attention to an area you may want to downplay. That means one or two simple pieces is all you need. Instead, keep the focus on your face with a statement necklace or beautiful earrings.
In conclusion
Even if your hands aren’t your favorite feature, they don’t have to detract from a feminine look. Apply these tips and your hands will blend in beautifully.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts. How do you feel about your hands? Do you have any additional suggestions to add to this list? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. Hands are just one important detail of many. To evaluate your full feminine image, download my free Flawless Feminine Image Checklist below!
One day at the nail salon, the girl who was doing my nails suggested that the best way not to show large hands/fingers, is to keep them close together. Not in fist fashion but straight out. If driving a car, keep fingers together, no distancing between them. In every thing you do with your hands, keep your fingers together as much as possible.
Yes..I agree. (Sigh) Hands can be a definite give away. Large, hairy, rough, with big knuckles. Tell me about it! Some of us have ravaged hands from years as mechanics or construction workers. I wish there was a cure. (Sigh) I so admire a woman with beautiful hands and feet. Thank you Lucille for your expert feminine advice for dealing with areas such as this.
Yes..I agree. (Sigh) Hands can be a definite give away. Large, hairy, rough, with big knuckles. Tell me about it! Some of us have ravaged hands from years as mechanics or construction workers. I wish there was a cure. (Sigh) I so admire a woman with beautiful hands and feet. Thank you Lucille for your expert feminine advice for dealing with areas such as this.
I am a woman but I have the exact same problem: large, chunky, not feminine at all hands 🙁 When I was younger ans skinnier they were not such a problem, but now I really hate them. I have few rings that I love but on my hands they look awful, so I don’t wear them at all. The only things that help are few large bracelets and a rectangular medium size watch. Nude colours for nails also helps, and surprisingly, 3/4 or rolled up sleeves. Long sleeves make the hands look even bigger.
Oh dear, you’re not alone. I am a pretty woman but same problem with hands..:( Mine are so huge and not nice..
Hello Lucille thanks for the advice.
I wear a stainless steel skull ring because I’m an Athiest. The one i bought sort of looks like a pearl ring with 2 little flowers.
I’m thinking of getting one of my eat lives pierced, again stainless steel and I only prefer to wear meaningful jewelry, I’ll be having a CZ earring because my birthday’s in April.
The hands can be huge Red Flag if they give off the wrong signals…Man!!
I was glad LU did the blog…needed, for sure.
I do, & always done, the suggestions given.
How did I do? ?
Enjoy Being You!
Darling, I think your hands look wonderful! The rings and bracelets top it off very nicely.
x
Cynthia
Cynthia…
Thanks so much for your compliments,always means a lot.
It takes a lot of work to be” acceptable”.
i live in Bahrain, where i am not allowed to be transgendered at all! i live here because of my family setting up a school in Riyadh and a school in Manama. i do not know what to do! i was back in New Zealand for a holiday for a short time meeting all of my transgendered friends at tranzform, but now i am back in a prejudiced country that wont let me be who i really am. i am completely cut off from any moral support here. it upsets me greatly: i know that i would make a beautiful woman, but my family is not very supportive of me. My father, mother and sister just say that i look like and walk like a “gay man” when i dress as a woman. They also want to force me to continue working at the Multinational School and seeing the man that i love (who will never love me back. i really need to change in order to find my own man.) at work, with me dressed as a man. i really, really do not want to do that. i don’t want to go out tomorrow for my birthday, either. i will be forced to dress as a man if i go outside. No one in my family sympathizes with me at all! i have mild Aspergers, so it does have an effect on my independance and social skills. But i want to go to the UK to fix that, by going to the Priory group to help me with my OCD, depression, anxiety and autism. i also want to try TMS to help erradicate some of my Aspergers if possible. i can’t do either of those things in Bahrain. My last pyschiatrist was a lunatic! She told all my secrets to my maid, gave bad advice and said that i did not need medication.
i am hoping that i will be able to start living in New Zealand and taking hormones by December this year. But my mother does not like the idea and both her and my father refuse to think of me as their daughter. One moment they promise to help me pay for my hormones and surgery and the next they are saying i should pay for it all. They are a bunch of liars. And both of them keep on calling me by my male name and using male pronouns, even when i am dressed as a woman! My father says he is liberal, but he does not apply that to the transgender issue. He also ignores the fact that i told both him and mother multiple times that i am a woman in a man’s body. Mother does, too! i always used to play with Barbie dolls as a child, i loved girly things, i loved being the princess in a play, i used to wear girl’s clothes, i would wear my mother’s makeup, i would wear my sister’s makeup and i hated the sight of my genitals. i still do. i can’t do anything that i want to do in this body. i also used to be forced fo line up in the boy’s line at school and i hated that. Another thing i did was to erase my name on my workbook and write a girl’s name there instead. i also loved being thought of as a girl by others.
i can’t wait for the day i can wear Manolo Blahnik shoes, Chanel clothes and Fendi fur coats. i can’t wait for the day i can have a handsome boyfriend, who will one day be my handsome husband. i hope to one day be thought of as a woman and hang out with the other girls fully as a girl. i want to be loved and made to feel beautiful. This bigoted country prevents me from doing that. i hate the Middle East and i hate islam! Because of it, i can’t be who i really am. And my parents have very few qualms about the lack of rights i have! They don’t believe i am trans at all! They keep on accusing me of being a gay man, when i am not attracted ro gay men and i don’t like the idea of anal intercourse! i am alone and afraid. What can i do to make my family see the light?
You sound young. How old are you? If you
I have no idea what you are going through, but my heart goes out to you. You seem like a very independent woman, and it is shameful of your family for them to ignore your rights and personality. Unfortunately, some people’s opinions will never change. If you are unhappy, something needs to change. Where do you truly want to go? Tell your family where that is, and tell them you are going. Ask them to support you in this, because you are going either way (if that is an option for you). If they won’t, then good riddance, because you can’t wait around for others to approve of you. It’s your life, and if you let them they will smother you. I hope I helped, and wish you the best of luck.
Hi Lucille,
Among other features hands are tricky for most of us since our hands are typically much larger than a genetic female. But I find we can show them off.
What works for me is slightly larger bracelets, rings and watch. I try to have fun with matching to a gold or silver theme and then matching the earing and necklace with similar theme.
I love to show off my hands with feminine gestures. With wrists bent back and gentle movements mirroring an S shape. Take a look at the window displays of a retail apparel store and see the positioning of their hands.
Jamie
Thanks for the great tip, Jamie! Will be looking at store mannequins in detail from now on…
x
Cynthia