When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
I have been asked at the nursing home where I take care visit my mom ” are yoy her son?” I say I am both the son and daughter. I am a transexual. I am going to change my sex to my brain mapped gender as soon as the hormones I am on have worked thier thing and as soon as I get facial feminization surgery. For some reason I have yet to figure out is that since I have very small male genitals from HRT therapy (2 yrs) that I am sometimes not comfortable in wearing female underpants and bra. I think for me that I need to have a reason other than identifying with the female gender to wear their clothing in public since this is for me not being totally truthful as I am trying to be I am not male but I am not totally female either. Now with the surgery if I can afford it its all female makeup the whole thing. I am just me though and these are just my feelings right now. Maybe after more time transitioning will make me change my mind for more than one woman has said “lady when are you going to wear a bra?” and I am not getting any smaller anywhere maybe in the waistline only and it seems my feet are smaller now although all medical people say impossible I can prove it; I am 4″ shorter and my feet are 2 sizes smaller since I started and many have commented on me being the incredible shrinking woman! I usually don’t like being pigeonholed as a trans- anything but if it helps the general public understand that we are decent human beings then so be it no matter what the name. It took me a while for me to figure out what the boys meant when they said “here comes a beaver” lol,
Kindly with love, Linda
Hi Lucille,
First I would like to thank you for your support. So happy I came accross this website. I am really enjoying the emails and will purchase your ebook as soon as I add an external hard drive to this notebook I work from..only wish I could buy a hardcover copy of “Flat to Fem” as I would have done so months ago.
To answer your question about labels I feel that they are best used for material things..which we are not. We are individuals with feelings that by choice are explored or denied. I have chosen to explore and started NBE late December ’10. Making some progress there and feel a calm when I wear the the beautiful things under my cloths..need a second job to support my needs in that area!
So,..not a label..but some feelings..such as special,lucky,or even fortunate? I think we all do the best we can given our individual situations..mine happens to be discreet.
Lucille,
I guess for the sake of identification, I’d go with Trangendered. I prefer to be referred to as a Woman. God plays some cruel jokes and I use to angish over what am. Now I just love being a Woman…
After much thought about this, I came to the conclusion that none of the terms fully fit me. So, I came up with my own, BI-GENDERED. I’m neither 100% male or female. I think I’m like 60-40. Maybe 70-30. I do enjoy expressing my fem side, which I think I have developed very well. But still having to work for a living, the male side is more suitable. Maybe someday, if I live long enough to retire, I can go full time. Oh well, a girl can dream.
Marie
WELL YOU ASKED,IT IS HARD TO TELL SOMEONE WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU ARE YOU GAY OR WHAT? SO I JUST SAY TRANSGENDER GOT A COMPUTER LOOK IT UP.I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE YOU A SEX ED COARCE.AND AT 63 I DON’T NEED A NAME CHANGE TO MAKE ME FEEL LIKE I NEED TO FEEL SOMETIMES I WISH I COULD WAKE UP IN THE RIGHT BODY BUT IT NOT GOING TO WORK THAT WAY SO I CHANGE WHAT I CAN AND LIVE WITH IT. THANKS FOR YOUR HELP –TIM
I think of myself as a misplaced soul. But labels are attached by others, so I suppose transgendered would be acceptable.
Misplaced Soul. Good answer! I hope you can find the strength to love yourself as you are, so others can love you too. Being able to share both sides of life makes us very special. Embrace that.
Ole
Being a baptist minister I am use to labels. What I do is for enjoyment and release of stress. I know nothing that feels better to me than a nice dress hem line below the knee with a nice slip and bra and nylon panties on. I dress like this when at home. From a child I have enjoyed ladies clothing. I wear a size 14 and 36C bra. I have naturally large breast for a man. When mowing I have to wear a bra. to keep them from hurting from all the bouncing. My breast are very sensitive an therefore I also wear one on a long trip because of the seat belt. Yes, I would like very much to go out shopping or traveling as such but my wife will not support me in this. I wear very nice nylon night gowns in the evenings and to bed.
Lucille,
I hate labels except the ones I find in my clothes, and some of those I dislike. I am first and foremost a woman. That is the only label that is necessary. If, however, there is a need to expand on that, I prefer to be labeled Woman; Transgender. I realize that all women carry a “subtitle” after Woman. For example, white, black, bitch, teaser, bimbo, etc. We are stuck with a “sub-sub-title” but I ignore it all and accept the fact that most men have a need to classify women according to some system that we cannot comprehend. For me, Woman is enough, all that other stuff is one of the prices of Womanhood!