Choosing the right words to describe your gender identity can feel tricky. For transgender and non-binary people, finding a label that fits is personal and important.
Using respectful language matters. Outdated or offensive terms can hurt, so it’s okay to set boundaries about how others address you.
At the same time, you are more than a label. What matters most is how you choose to define yourself, no matter where you are on the gender spectrum.
Do you have a label that feels right – like crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary, or something else?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
That’s tricky I went to a drag show and the drag queens were more butch than I. They were bigger, stronger and hairyer but they could easily lipsic better than I. After the show they wore pants with winter jacket. while I wore a little black long sleeve dress, ultra sheer panty hose matching thong panties sexy boots with a winter jacket. Despite the snow feeling cozy in hosery cover silky smooth legs who needs pants except the women in my building they though it was too cold to wear mini dresses.
I really don’t want to put a label on myself. I’m fully aware of my biological birth gender but I don’t feel it’s necessary to label myself to express myself in a feminine manner. Society is far too hung up with attaching labels to every human feature. We are all just being humans.
I am a transgender woman that identifies as female. I want to be know known as Julie Elizabeth Rafferty. So a legal name change has to be done.
Wer würde nicht gerne ohne Verzögerung loslegen eintauchen?
I am a woman in a man’s body. I started as a heterosexual male crossdresser, but it was never enough. I kept having the need and desire to be a woman full time. With lots of therapy I am on my way to transitioning to a woman. I suppressed my feelings for many years and when I released those feelings I also discovered that I am really a heterosexual female. The truth has been liberating for me!
In an ongoing transition I have been encouraged to use a transwomen ID and since I love my cisgender women partner I am apparently a trans-lesbian.
Hi. This started off as a difficult journey. At the start I was put on medication for a male problem. This medication has changed my whole life, giving me real breasts, less body hair, beautiful nails and more besides. Three years ago I would never have thought things would change so dramatically. I am awaiting an appointment at a transgender clinic to see what my options are. In my mind I am female. My body is gradually reshaping and I really enjoy lingerie. So my gender is to me, not as defined so I would class myself as gender confused and perhaps non-binary. Thank you for to your support and the blogs you post.
For a long time, I wasn’t sure how to “label” myself. My mind and appearance aren’t always agreeing, so non-binary probably is the best fit. Which has led to many purges, anxiety and bouts of dysphoria. Like a tug-of-war. I’ve been on hrt for 6.5 years. It has helped calm my head. I had hoped that the gender struggle was over for me, but apparently not, as my male side again has the need to re-emerge and dominate. I’ve stopped hrt and I have the option of starting again but at this time, I have no plan. Thank you, Lucille for your help and advice. And thank you gang for your kind comments. Aloha.
Morgan,
Thank you for your post. I would also describe myself as nonbinary, and it was a struggle with many issues to find comfort in this
Hi Morgan, thank you for sharing. I think it’s great if you can embrace the fluidity – there is good on both sides!