Clothing can be a powerful way to affirm your gender as a trans woman or crossdresser.
While there are guidelines for achieving a fashionable and feminine look, this doesn’t mean you should be a slave to the “rules.”
Many so-called fashion rules are outdated or just plain wrong!
Are you following these 5 male to female fashion rules? If so, it might be time to break them!
Rule #1: Dress As Feminine As Possible
Nobody pulls off the feminine look quite like transgender celeb, Gigi Gorgeous. But that doesn’t mean everybody needs to dress this way!
The beauty of fashion is that you can express yourself however you want.
Whether your style is tomboyish, androgynous, or ultra feminine – anything goes. So, enjoy your individuality and dress however you want!
Rule #2: Don’t Go Without Shapewear
Shaping your body with breast forms, a corset, and hip pads can create a stunning hourglass silhouette.
When you want to feel like a bombshell, shapewear is a girl’s best friend!
But remember, you don’t have to wear all these pieces every time you dress up. Comfort can also be a priority.
Wear what makes you feel fantastic, and don’t hesitate to skip the rest.
Rule #3: Always Wear High Heels
While high heels are undoubtedly sexy and feminine, there’s no rule that says you must wear them all the time.
Flats can be equally alluring if you want to be comfy, or if you’re on the tall side and don’t want to accentuate your height.
Love the look of heels but don’t want to go all out? A kitten heel (1″-2″ tall) looks elegant and can help feminize your walk – without the pain of stilettos.
Rule #4: Dress Like The Women In Your Area
I often talk about how helpful it is to observe cisgender (genetic) women. If your goal is to blend in, it’s a good idea to adhere to the style norms in your area.
However, you might have noticed that many women dress sloppily or put little effort into their appearances. If that’s not your style, don’t feel obliged to follow suit.
Look as fabulous as you want… and maybe they will start to follow your lead!
Rule #5: You Must Always Match
There are so many choices in women’s clothing that putting outfits together can be daunting.
While you should always look coordinated, forget about old fashioned rules that say you must match from head to toe. Not only is this boring, it tends to look costumey and dated.
Need a little help with your outfit skills? Check out out article on Transgender / Crossdressing Outfits: How to Put the Perfect Outfit Together.
Let’s talk fashion!
Now I’d love to hear from you on this topic! Are there any other fashion rules you think should be broken?
I’d also love to see a pic of you in your current favorite outfit. 🙂 Please share by commenting and uploading an image below!
Love,
Lucille
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Some guidelines are good- but, there are no “rules”. I used to follow them, but, after years of full time girl- I dress for comfort mainly, but, with style. Find your own look, and embrace it!!
This is definitely my favorite feminine girly outfit that I really love wearing when I go out in public. I tend to wear this outfit a lot. I’m also wearing black pantyhose and black high heels. I honestly feel so much more happier and confident when I dress femininely and girly. My smile is very genuine. I really love wearing my favorite purple skirt.
This is how I went out a couple of weeks ago. A bit nerve wracking since I’m fairly new to going out cross dressed. With time the nerves will calm down. lol.
Very nice look! It gets easier each time out!
Women where I live wear pants predominately. I wonder if this is done to conceal rather than expose proudly because of lack of fitness or personal care. Or, is it because women don’t want to stand out from the crowd or that it may attract unwanted looks from men? Anyhow, we all like the female form which is why we desire to emulate the dress that accentuates this ideal.
I look at it this way. Most men are not much into style. Many women just don’t care. The ones that do care, usually have their hair nicely done and even if they wear pants, they usually are well coordinated with the rest of their outfit. A trans-male friend always looks nice and enjoys being a guy as much as I enjoy being a gal.
Fun fact about heels. Heels were originally a men’s fashion piece when they first came on to the scene in the early renaissance. They were used to accentuate the masculine form or the calf muscle. When they were adopted as a women’s item it was to the effect of masculilnizing the female form. A lot of people would be surprised at the number of things that are nowadays thought of as feminine that in actuality have a masculinizing effect on the body when used as they were originally designed.
Lucille,
I love your wonder site and great tips. Sadly I must agree with your comment in #4 Dress like the women in your area. The women in my area don’t even try. They either look like yoga instructors, or unmade beds. I went shopping wearing a nice dress, hosiery and flats. Nothing over the top. When I was checking out, the sales lady said “Wow, don’t you look good today!” I really did not know how to respond. “Thank you” was all I said. What I enjoy about dressing is a change to embrace my female side. I love it! Too many cisgender ladies have lost what us crossdressers want. To be a passable attractive woman.
Thanks again,
Brenda Raven
Oh you are so right Brenda. I don’t know what it is but women seem to have lost any desire to look good any more. I first started going OUT when I met a very pretty transgender female who has been full time for over 6 years, and has it all together. She gave me the confidence to step out into the real world and we started going out to dinner, downtown shopping, movies, together. I had a tendency to dress to the 9s, maybe even 10s, I love dresses, skirts, stockings and stiletto heels, usually 4-5″, and I quickly learned that I stood out, not because of being transgender but because I was the best dressed woman there. Even going to nice restaurants most women today just don’t dress up. I had to learn to tone it down a bit, although I still always wear a skirt or dress, stockings and stilettos. Cis women might not care about looking great any more, but I sure still do. And it’s quite nice when I have women come up to me all the time asking how I walk around all evening in stiletto heels. It seems that most can’t wear them any more.
Hugs,
Jennifer
I believe that women
and crossdressers should wear
silky and lace trim slips
as underwear,
or even outerwear
to look feminine and fashionable.
Shadowline Lingerie Company
is trying to promote it
on their website,
with their new gorgeous
Rochelle shiny satin and lace trim
slips.
Also, doesn’t it seem that
cis women dress sloppy
to hide their feminine curves,
so men don’t oogle at them?
I wish women dressed up
attractive and feminine,
like years ago,
and even let a little faux pas
flirty silky and pretty lace trim show from under their dress hems
to get attention.
Maybe why more men crossdress
today, because many women
dress like men.
I agree with you fully
on what you said.
Doesn’t it seem that women
are not wanting to look feminine
anymore, except for pretty
women tv newscasters.
I like when they
are fully dressed up,
and wearing shiny satin clothing too.
I used to wear worn out faded jeans. Everyone told me I looked like a hobo so I bought new jeans. Then worn out faded jeans became the fashion. They told me I should get rid of my old clunker car, now it’s a valuable classic. Women with tattoos or wearing army boots was once something they laughed at. Now worn by hot models. I figure, if I wait long enough, the fashion cycle will come around and I’ll be in fashion once again without even trying. 🙂
Morgan you always look beautiful!!!
My favorite advice is to dress like women in my area
They like to wear puff kerchifs and long fur coats with fur high boots. On the legs warm tights with angora 250-300 den. This is the typical clothes for winter season.