What do you think of when you hear the word “ladylike?” Beauty, poise, and class? Or perhaps, outdated notions of femininity?
To me, being ladylike means being classy, gracious, and elegant. No matter what your idea of femininity might be, I’m sure we can agree that these are great traits to have.
If you’re a crossdresser or a transgender woman who wants to be perceived as a lady, there are a few things you should steer clear of.
Read on to discover 5 common mistakes that can detract from your ladylike image.
Mistake #1: Showing Too Much Skin
Being ladylike definitely doesn’t mean being a buttoned-up prude. However, good taste goes a long way when presenting yourself as a woman.
It can be tricky to know how much is too much, so here are some simple guidelines to keep in mind:
- Show off one part of your body and keep the rest covered. A little mystery is sexy, so show off your legs, breasts, or back – just not all at once.
- Flaunt the right amount of cleavage. A good rule of thumb is to reveal 20%-40% of your bust. This gives you sex appeal, while keeping it classy.
- Try the finger length test. To determine the proper skirt length, stand up straight and put your arms to your side. If your fingertips fall past the hem of your skirt, it’s too short.
Mistake #2: Not Minding Your Manners
Good manners and etiquette are dying arts in today’s world. Saying “please” and “thank you” are simple ways to elevate your ladylike status.
The rules of etiquette can be a bit more confusing. To learn more, check out my blog post on 6 modern etiquette tips for your male to female transformation.
Mistake #3: Being Sloppy With Your Grooming
Grooming can make or break your feminine image. In fact, studies show that grooming has more of an impact on your attractiveness than the physical features you were born with.
Are your grooming habits up to par? If this area needs work, be sure to see my article on 5 feminine grooming habits not to ignore.
Mistake #4: Losing Control
One of the most important qualities of a lady (and of any respectable human being) is self control – especially when you’re out in public.
In other words, no diva acts, angry outbursts, or public displays of drunkenness. It seems obvious, but if celebrity tabloids are any indication, it’s not.
Mistake #5: Poor Posture Or Body Language
Finally, don’t forget that your posture and body language communicate more about you than anything you say. Here are some major no-nos:
- Slouching
- Biting your nails or playing with your hair
- Not making eye contact
- Crossing your arms
For an even more comprehensive list, review these 27 male to female body language mistakes to avoid.
Do you aspire to be ladylike?
So what do you think of the term “ladylike,” anyway? Do you find it outdated and offensive towards women? Or a feminine quality worth aspiring to?
As always, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked these tips, you’ll love my FREE 3-part Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Thanks for the reminders. I’ve been in the public and myself for a long time now. After a decade sometime you forget things. so the reminders are very welcome.
When just dressing at home with no intent of leaving I do find that my wardrobe and makeup are a little Unladylike (Sluty) or just not age appropriate. I do make sure that every aspect of my appearance is tidy and neat but if my intentions are leaving home For any reason I definitely make every effort to assure my appearance is tidy not sloppy and age appropriate .Those two things shape my opinion of Ladylike for all ladies genetic or
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I never wanted to settle for ladylike. I just wanted to be a lady. It has to come from with in otherwise you will seem like an actor who is diligent in learning the role but has no presence. Casting rooms are filled with people like this but a talented casting agent knows that what makes a role believable is not rote memorization and refinement. It comes from something deeper. Something I think few people possess. Call it heart or imagination or genius if you prefer. If I could connect to that part of myself. That part I know is there but can never find. Well that would just be the best feeling.
Yes I agree and with the help of my mistress am working very hard to achieve this. I personally want the complete transforms also want to give birth. I believe with all the technology this can be achieved my mistress wants this badly. your friend Stella Wilson
Hi Lucille honey yes I aspire to be as ladylike as possible I know I’m not yet it is hard to change our habits after trying so very hard to hide it but I’m improving my girlfriend Linda will be helpful I’m sure the more examples I have to adjust myself to the better I get I can practice and practice on my own but having a friend to help guide us helps so much I’m fairly femme acting I haven’t had any trouble yet I pass quite well I’m still a little less ladylike than I would like 56 years is tough to undo I think I’m the only one that notices but that’s not true I’m sure its just ovre looked I guess I notice a few out there myself never say it of course I’m ok their I know what you mean we’re stuck with our own perceptions of what it is to be a lady old fashion or not it’s how we’re supposed to be some are better at it some aren’t some don’t care of course I’m just voicing my opinion but that’s why we’re here I think Love MJ ❤
You look amazing!
Walking like a “lady” and not a bimbo is a great way to have others think of you as a woman. No deliberately swiveling of hips-just great posture and the slightest “lilt” at the center of body shows womanking class and style.It gets me great kudos from both my women and TG/CROSSDRESSER friends.
I always believe in looking your best as reflected in these ladylike qualities – it negatively reflects on you and the feminine image you want others to have of our community.
I always believe in looking your best as reflected in these ladylike qualities – it negatively reflects on you and the feminine image you want others to have of our community if you don’t.
One thing I like to say, n this may be a topical head scratcher all on it’s own… But what u ask about the terminology behind “Being Lady-Like”, can be the equivalent to that of what it means to be “Manly” now a days…
IE: Dominance, Feminisation, Gay/Fag/Homosexual and/or just plane Gross/Nasty/Sickening…
To view a lil more in depth for what I mean… When I was locked up, for nothing criminal, I was portrayed as being gay or a fag, just because I spoke proper, I wasn’t one to look for trouble, I was sissy, and mostly because of the way I was raised in a white family to be proper n all, they made harassing remarks, both verbally and visually…
Now also a long with that, for the support of the Dominance, the majority of anyone in pock up with me, were in for the same thing , which is/was for abusing thier women… Not to mention all the fighting, n all that… N I had made made the remark of, “If that’s what it takes to show what it means to be a man, then I’m proud that I have my femme/sissy in me, because at its honest.” And I love that about myself, because I am not ashamed… But also at the same time, I keep her hidden in most cases, because I do believe in certain things n all that, no need to go in depth, but I kno there are those in my life that don’t accept that, and as respect to them, I keep it that way…
But to get back to my point… Even being lady like in this world isn’t what it use to be either… For example, a lot of the people with whom I grew up with kno what it meant to be ladylike, now a days, if they get with a man, he has to have the money to either support her, her n her kids, or her, her kids and her drug habits… If the money isn’t there, then the woman is gone… And the men are developing too much dominance that they are becoming fools… But the women now a days are a bit too enabling of that due to the over-exaggerated “He-Said, She-Said” rule…
All in all I say this, there is a few quotes I live by and I recommend that we at least consider them as we raze…
1. Nothing in this world is the way it ought to be… It’s harsh, n crewel… But that’s why there’s us… Champions… It doesn’t matter where we’ve come from… What we’ve done, or suffered.. Or even if we make a difference… We live as though the world we’re as it should be, to show it what it can be.
2. We are who we are for the reasons in which it should matter to only us… Who cares about what they think…
And last but not least…
3. You have to Take the Chance… To Make the Choice… If you want ANYTHING to Change…
Peace, Love and HairTies,
KaitieBug