What do you think of when you hear the word “ladylike?” Beauty, poise, and class? Or perhaps, outdated notions of femininity?
To me, being ladylike means being classy, gracious, and elegant. No matter what your idea of femininity might be, I’m sure we can agree that these are great traits to have.
If you’re a crossdresser or a transgender woman who wants to be perceived as a lady, there are a few things you should steer clear of.
Read on to discover 5 common mistakes that can detract from your ladylike image.
Mistake #1: Showing Too Much Skin
Being ladylike definitely doesn’t mean being a buttoned-up prude. However, good taste goes a long way when presenting yourself as a woman.
It can be tricky to know how much is too much, so here are some simple guidelines to keep in mind:
- Show off one part of your body and keep the rest covered. A little mystery is sexy, so show off your legs, breasts, or back – just not all at once.
- Flaunt the right amount of cleavage. A good rule of thumb is to reveal 20%-40% of your bust. This gives you sex appeal, while keeping it classy.
- Try the finger length test. To determine the proper skirt length, stand up straight and put your arms to your side. If your fingertips fall past the hem of your skirt, it’s too short.
Mistake #2: Not Minding Your Manners
Good manners and etiquette are dying arts in today’s world. Saying “please” and “thank you” are simple ways to elevate your ladylike status.
The rules of etiquette can be a bit more confusing. To learn more, check out my blog post on 6 modern etiquette tips for your male to female transformation.
Mistake #3: Being Sloppy With Your Grooming
Grooming can make or break your feminine image. In fact, studies show that grooming has more of an impact on your attractiveness than the physical features you were born with.
Are your grooming habits up to par? If this area needs work, be sure to see my article on 5 feminine grooming habits not to ignore.
Mistake #4: Losing Control
One of the most important qualities of a lady (and of any respectable human being) is self control – especially when you’re out in public.
In other words, no diva acts, angry outbursts, or public displays of drunkenness. It seems obvious, but if celebrity tabloids are any indication, it’s not.
Mistake #5: Poor Posture Or Body Language
Finally, don’t forget that your posture and body language communicate more about you than anything you say. Here are some major no-nos:
- Slouching
- Biting your nails or playing with your hair
- Not making eye contact
- Crossing your arms
For an even more comprehensive list, review these 27 male to female body language mistakes to avoid.
Do you aspire to be ladylike?
So what do you think of the term “ladylike,” anyway? Do you find it outdated and offensive towards women? Or a feminine quality worth aspiring to?
As always, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked these tips, you’ll love my FREE 3-part Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Love matching bra and panties,boyfriend loves them to
My deepest desire and ambition is to become a beautiful, feminine, ladylike woman!
I want to be “Female” BUT—not necessarily ladylike–
too ladylike & almost No dates-(unless you have the money to hang with rich folks-
This is me in public
To: Carla Caprosoni
Yes you look very ladylike, hot & sexy. You have great legs & your shorts & heels for sure make you look great but you are Also very attractive. Carla keep doing what your doing & “keep on keeping on.
Dear Lucille,
I found your tips helpful, I am sitting here wearing a champagne colored tank & flowing matching pants. Bought from the Pyramid Collection, also wearing white pantyhose with pink color heels. I feel so feminine,sexy & I love it. It wasn’t for you Lucille & all of your transformation MTF course(s) I would have shelved trying to be a transgendered lady. Love you Lucille for your: help, support, caring & sharing.
Thanks so much for your helpful and respectful tips! I’m not brave enough to do all of them, but do practice many in private…maybe some day.
Thanks, again!
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please tell me , am I ladylike ?
Yes girl. You are lovely. Very passable.
OMG, yes you look VERY ladylike and yes you are a fabulous lady! Gorgeous sweetie, keep it up!