Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are trans-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
ove,
Lucille
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As appealing as wearing sexy, lacy panties is, it’s more important to me to present feminine hips and a booty, so padded panties win out.
I know what you mean. When I’m underdressing, it’s my ‘Wild Blooms’ lingerie all the way, but when dressed, I HAVE to have padded panties over the top to give me those femme hips and bottom x
My problem is getting bras to fit comfortably.. I’m too embarrassed to get fitted in an upper scale department store. I have ordered bras for men online, but they’re not that much better than what you buy in the store. Now panties are a different story for I have over a dozen pairs and they all fit just right, except the .tucking kind. I have shapely thighs and love wearing my short skirts. Now if I can just find my dream bra that fits like a glove.
Best regards,
Gary
Wacoal lingerie is very high quality, reasonably priced, bought either dept. stores or directly on line. Front hooks much easier to fasten, and many great styles for all ages. As my breasts have developed and become more sensitive, I’ve occasionly spent more days with thinner inserts, side tissue gathered up, OCCASIONALLY taped into place, looking and feeling more naturally feminine, especially with topical applied progesterone cream. 36B TO 38 c , DEPENDING ON MOOD, and type of top. Smaller for everyday T SHIRTS.
I buy one size fits all bras. I deal with one company, so I developed a relationship with them. I don’t wear a bra all the time and I like to see them sway and rattle with pokey nixxles.
It’s fun to experiment with all of the different styles, and colors. Try a thrift store, and look for a variety of sexy things, at an affordable price!
Love these tips, Lucille, thank you.
I wear knickers full time and after a few false starts, came across some from Marks & Spencer – Wild Bloom (I believe they’ve recently changed their name to ‘Amelia’). High legged knickers. So comfortable, but feel amazing and have that great combo of comfort, but also looking so good, with nice lace detailing on the front, with a cute little bow too. They’re well made too.
Several matching bras with these- definitely agree with that rule!
I chose 38C bra size and have some breast forms that provide me with a full, but not over-sized, cleavage. I recently bought a silicon over-the-head breast plate, if that’s the proper name. Only came in one size and it’s just too big for any of my bras, tops or dresses. More like a DD/E cup size, which isn’t me at all. Such a waste really, but I really loved the idea of being able to wear lower cut dresses, which show off a more realistic cleavage.