Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
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Lingerie, it’s what makes me feel super HOT, SEXY, and FEM!!! I can’t get enough of it…Babydolls, corsets, and Garters are my Fav. 😉
Love your look! And your shoes!!!
Okay, maybe someone help, what if I looking for example costume/cosplay and while bust/waist/hip is okay-or between, its wrong with heigh, so Should I choose it, even if heigh is too small? Cause If I would choose bigger then costume would “fly”
Second for looking “lingerie” how to choose if we have “bump” in pants and lingerie can’t fit. Third maybe someone know how to prevent erection so clothes would fit fine, or tucking working good. But maybe its impossible
I venture all us girls love lingerie. My Lingerie Rules: Sexy lingerie never leaves the house. Great tips on good fitting bras and body shapers. They are a must for a good appearance, BUT as much as I love garters and stockings, I never wear them when I go out. But lingerie is just so fun!
As always thanks Lucille
Have fun
Barbara Jane
I simply love wearing beautiful lingerie. I prefer pin up style lingerie and wear everyday. I like nothing better than to wear matching bra, panties, Open Bottom Girdle (to keep my shape and feeling nice and secure), waist slip, 10 denier stockings. My lingerie in the main is satin with lace trim (so feminine and sexy) in an array of different colours but whatever I choose to wear it has to match at all times.
A girl can’t have enough lingerie!
Love Davina x
Such a well put together outfit!
Thank you so much for your kind words. The dress I am wearing is an Ian Stuart creation – one of my favourite dresses. I am wearing a white ensemble of beautiful and stylish lingerie: satin and lace balcony bra; matching panties; six strap open bottom girdle to cinch my waist and give me an hour glass figure; natural gloss lace top 7 denier stockings; white satin waist slip and 5 inch silver heels from ItalianHeels.com. I feel so feminine when I am all dressed up.
Thank you for your message. D x
DAVINA;
You look soooooo beautiful!!
I am also a ” mature ” lady. At 73 in October, it gets tougher every year to maintain my GIRLISH FIGURE and compete with the young Foxes!!!
Anyway. I will continue to get out and about with girlfriends for lunch and shopping. We chat about CDing and Music, business & our common elements.
Been out in public since the 1960’s. I like 50’s and 60’s flared dresses with petticoats and stockings with heels.
Here are some pics for your evaluation…
Look forward to chatting with you..
Here is a glimpse of stockings, and petticoats as lingerie choices. I am wearing a corset and bringing my 6 straps over the petticoat to fasten to the stockings welt…ENJOY Being You!
Dr. T.J
Hello,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I have been dressing since I was 12 years old but it has taken me many years to understand my femme said and wear the style of lingerie and clothes that make me feel so good and feminine.
I like your style of dress. It really suits you. I also love to wear flared skirts with petticoats. I have several outfits which I bought from Viviens of Holloway in London. You look so feminine and sexy.
It is so lovely to hear from you. Enjoy being you! Love Davina x
I love your styles, especially the first one.
I totally agree. I always make sure to wear matching bra and panties and for good measure add a suspender belt in the same colour.I wear a suspender belt and stockings daily. Satin, silk and lace are firm favourites. I just love to wear something lacy and feel extremely sexy if a little bit of lace peeps out somewhere.I think that a little lace around the cleavage draws just enough attention if you so desire.
I so love being smooth bodied and wearing sexy feminine things.
I have been wearing panties for about 3 years now except when i go on vacation. also my bras don t fit right but i don t have the money to buy breast forms yet. As for lingerie i love all of it but still not enough money to buy them from any websites and most of the stores here don t sell the kind i like ( satin or silks ). There are some sex shops but still shy to go into them. although i have been to one a couple of times. They do not always have what i would like to buy either so i just have to wait till i can afford what i have to buy.
I can relate, Jessica!