Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
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I think the only other things I go by are to make sure if you’re buying in store that it’s a welcoming environment and also not to be afraid to ask for the sales associates opinion on what they think will work for you.
I have always loved slips! 🙂
I love bra .i feel confedent after wearing bars and my bra size is 32b it’s so cool añd nice. I have 40 bras .but I can’t wear it during day time I ashemed and my boobs luck like girl on my school times. I bought bra to my mom from shops I interested in bar and wearing thàt
I love wearing lingerie I feel so comfortable it would be nice if I could go out but I am still nervous
Go for it Girl!
Hi girls, just wanted to share a recent photo of me trying on lingerie at Victoria Secrets! Yes, it can be done! Here I am in a VS dressing room. Was treated just like any other lady. So much fun!
Suzy, you look fabulous, and just the thought of trying on things at VS is so sexy. That may be your prettiest, happiest smile yet!
xoxo
Amber
Totally female now! All those years seeing and observing all the confident attractive women, it was actually you ~ you were the girl of your dreams!
Wow ! Just beautiful lady
….love your look!
I also have always preferred OBGs and garter belts with 100% nylon stockings. I also wear petticoats lot. I have started putting my corset 6 strap garters Over my petticoats to the stockings…sending a pic. Works well with flared dresses…heels.
Pics for your evaluation…
Get back to me.
Dr.Dr. T J.
Luv the retro bra, you make a great pinup girl!
Hi Lucille
I wholly agree. The blog is jam-packed with tip-top advice. I have 3 bras. I find that this serves to prevent excessive and premature stress/wear & tear to individual bras (as I rotate)
Richard
One other rule is: “match thy lingerie to the occasion.”
No sensible woman is going to wear garters and stockings on a camping trip, and she probably shouldn’t wear her standby Grandma-style cotton comfies underneath her finest clubwear.
I have seen t-girls that have just started leaving home and going out wincing in pain because they’re finding out for the first time that their heels may be great for prancing around the house, but they’re not so good at a half-mile hike to get somewhere, and standing in them for extended periods is an exercise in self-torture. Like us all, they’ll live and learn.
I’ve started wearing bras/panties/breast forms along with going on low/no carb diet. I own at least 100 pairs of panties and about 30 bras. Love love love wearing them!!! Once weather cools down I want to wear them all the time underneath my clothes as well start wearing women’s clothe as my guy clothes are slowly being purged. Love how bras/panties women’s clothing fit and feel as it’s more comfortable then my guy clothes. I’m going to ask my friend to give me feminine arched eyebrows as well. Most women my age are married with kids and I’m not and girls I know have put me in friend zone. It’s not if I come out to them but when. If they are true friends they will accept this.