There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille, I agree with you whole heartedly, yes women do talk alot more than men, because they have more to talk about I assumed but what you said about why they.( you ) talk so much never entered my mind but now that I have read it, I do understand it and I will in the future practice this way of communicating with others, I may get good it as I can talk especially when I know what I’m talking about. Always smile Lucille, it’s good for the body and by the way, please address me as Billie ( there’s a story behind that name I will tell you sometime soon)
Your information has helped alot I have tried everything you have suggested from walking to sitting from styles to posture all helpful however dont know how much the speaking is going to help considering i am around women all the time they are all around me and not one of the girls I see in life or most of the TV or movies talk this way most of them talk the way men do if not worse the only time I hear women speak that way on tv is if it is a film made for women and most of them don’t talk this way either so not sure if this article will help me any
I enjoyed this blog. Through the examples I see how women are more relationship oriented and men want to get to the point fast. I loved your tips on working on this.
It sure would be great to have this communication tip under control. I wish I could afford the voice coaching also.
Womanly talk is built up on DETAILS, women are more romantic than philosofic,they can listen and speak in the same time,they master the colourful intonation of enticement ..they invented the language.
I agree in that the feminine way of communicating is vastly different from the masculine. It takes effort to remember when to speak and when you do to express yourself well. Thank you Lucille for this blog and the website, I enjoy visiting feminizationsecrets.com
It’s no secret, I live for these moments
well I’m a little of both trying to get it more feminine then it is just to use more words then I already do for me it sometimes hard the words are in my thoughts but its getting them out is the hard part for me getting more out then I do but I’m working on it with my therapist as one of my goals in my transition but its allot better then it was hope to get it better sooner then later
Hi Christy, that’s great that this is one of the goals in your transition. Communication is a learned art, but it’s so powerful to be able to express yourself freely and articulate for what you want and need. You go, girl! 😉
Excellent piece, it’s spot on what you say – women are so much more personable on the whole.
I will say one thing though. Young women (even my age 27) especially in my experience may say more, but what they say can be nonsense. Don’t you find that celebrity culture and low brow culture of many different areas is dumbing women down; even extremely intelligent women? I’m worried about this, same happens to guy’s and it’s getting worse, but it’s directed more at women and I am not sure they realise what it’s doing. I talk to my female friends regularly about this.
Despite this I certainly enjoy a conversation more with girls on the whole, men’s actions baffle me – the words they use, how aggressive they speak (and I don’t mean always violent)
I really do talk a lot, I’m not a fan of one word answers, I’d say my vocab is diverse and I love talking. many men especially seem to find talking to me a ‘bit odd’ I don’t have many ‘male’ friends a lot of trans girls but one or two best male friends too. When i talk to them, sometimes I can’t relate, despite this I love them.
I’m transgendered but don’t feel entirely sure where I stand – I’m just myself and that changes. Maybe I have the best of the male side, and i can see the little discrepancies in both sexes?
Even though i may talk in a more feminine manner than a lot of males, my voice is still male and my accent is quite strong – I’m finding it hard to find my female voice.
Maybe it’s the world that’s just changing for the worst and the intelligence gap widening? I also think there’s a huge difference in the way Women on the whole talk in America, and elsewhere. x
I love your posts, always thought provoking…
Keep trying, you have the looks to over come this obstacle