Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille Very good initiative you have here mdear, so thank you for the chance to join in and comment. On passing well not all women wish to be in the center of attention all the time so its the same for the TS. I think it is better to reflect the person we are INSIDE rather than try to be accepted as something we are not. So yes it is important to know all the tricks and techniques that bring the best out in a woman but its more important to laugh and smile and and accept and project our diversity. In other words mostly i don’t CARE whether others see me as male or female so long as they see me as nice, approachable, well kept and worth knowing….
Please reply directly i have an idea for an article i would like to share after discussion if that is ok. With kind regards Nat
When I was much younger and getting dressed to go out to my favorit Gay Clubs, I perfered to stand out, only because I was competing with several other girls. Now that I have gotten to a point in my life, where standing out is no longer wanted or needed in my life. I love going out to Denney’s,Fed’s, Wallmart, the Mall, Norstoms, JC Penney’s and have not be to a gay bar in years.
i like the idea of blending in most of the time, but if i was at a club on the prowl or on a date, i standing out, looking good would be my goal. i think it just depends on your circumstances
Ultimatly the only opinion that counts, is your self opinion. Sure it would be nice not to have to teach everyone what it means to be TG. Even better would to have bien born in the right gender. Well I’m not rich ether, but I love myself. My flawed unpassibal self. I think that most GG’s never get over the need to blend in. But life holds great treasure for though’s that relize that the only limitations are self impossed.
Learn to love yourself, and people will respond by loving you, and not your airbrushed photo.
It’s a theory.
Work still in progress.
I prefer to stand out,, even if not 100% passable, I want to leave them with the impression ,,Dam, she’s good looking,
Dam you are good looking. Very Passable. Trust me Love your smile and great look.
Barbara Jane Weston
When I dress I want to look good, yet be noticed but not “outed”
This pix of me was coming home from Portland where I was invited to a TG halloween party, I loved it talking to all the girls,then my 158 miles traveling on the interstate to back home . I was dressed and my mantra when dressed is “I am a woman beautiful and feminine” I had to stop for gas along the way, and i know that women get out start the gas and get back in the car, So i act that way, I want to be the woman that all women are , so I study their posture when sitting, legs angled, ankles crossed, etc. So when I am out as Robyn I am a woman who I always knew I was. Soon I will be living 95 percent as Robyn and looking forward to that day.
Now working on my Christmas outfit 🙂
Hugs, to all,
Robyn
Just blending and not standing out would be great.
I want to stand out, as long as I pass. For me (and I’m sure most TG women) passing is the most important thing. If I were a genetic woman like you Lucille, or knew I was more passable, then I’d be far more confident in standing out more, and dressing much less conserveatily. I dress conservatively, and try not to attract attention to myself because receiving the wrong kind of attention is pretty depressing, and dimoralizing, as I’ve experienced in the past. If I dress in a ‘sexy’ way, which I would like to do more often, the risk of not passing, and receiving negative attention is much higher. Sad but true, as being m to f (unlike f to m) is still stigmitized.
Take care Lucille, and thanks for all the help and encouragement. Keep up the great work you do!
Marian
Damn, she IS good looking!
Kim