Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I try to blend in, but, yes, sometimes you can’t help but stand out. I love cute clothes, girly shoes, and being a lady. Unfortunately the better you look, the more other girls notice and admire. I guess the secret is to work with what you have and carry yourself in confidence. Show off your advantages and hide your problem areas. Take my word for it. I live as a woman 24/7 & drive a truck over the road. Been to every state east of the Mississippi and don’t get harrassed. Take my word for it,confidence is the key, and work within your limits. You’ll never blend in all the time and be happy,too. But Eventually,you will wanna be noticed. You’ll know when your ready to ‘stand out’,but it’s never the same for any two girls. Be patient and be confident.
When out in public if I feel right in myself then I do not worry. I know that once made up my face is feminine. So I ensure dress for where I am going , smart, and don’t have a problem. It’s all in the mind.
Depends on what I’m doing. If doing daily running around I prefer to blend in. Over dressing in store can get you unwanted attentions. Evening I like to get dressed up. Most women can spot a trans women to many tell signs to hide. But I really don’t care if I’m read or not. I’ just happy to be myself and I have learned to smile at everybody. I do get a some compliments at times. Women appreciate the effort into looking good.
Deedra, you have great style! Beautiful!
I am in complete agreement Deedra, I follow the same principles. I love looking good when going out somewhere special.
Hi Lucille honey your so wonderful sweetie your blogs are always right on time you make us feel more like the women we are and speak to our feminine side so elegantly your so insightful no other place on the web is like yours honey in my opinion at least Love ya sweetie Love M.J.
I’m doing my best to blend in but I find it hard any tips would be appreciatedxxsandi
Hi Sandi 🙂
Here is a wonderful online booklet called “Passing Glances” by Melinda Green. It is fun and full of wisdom – I think you will find a lot of helpful things here!
http://superliminal.com/melinda/passingglances.htm
wow thank you brettany ive got so many tips from this mwah thank youxx
I have no problem blending in in public I wear clothes that most woman do. When I’m home I dress in outfits that make me stand out for selfies
I started going out as a gal. But I kept my face covered with piece of soft clothes as I don’t do make up. Covering face is normal here…so no one notices. Also when I walk out, all guys looks at my b breast which I filled with clothes. Also they look at my legs n hips. I feel great in it….
Now I m roaming with one of my friend as his gf…lots of fun….
After a gradual, gentle move through androgyny, people around me finally decided “she must be a woman.” It was when I realized this that I started to become sensitive to female pronouns, and *intentionally* wanted to blend-in. AND I have learned learned this well enough that I can fully change arm-to-arm with other women in our fitness center, and nobody realizes I am transgender…
…Possibly part of my success with this has been that I while I am interested in being aesthetically pleasing, I have avoiding trying to be sexually attractive…
…BUT now, after living for a few years, something odd is happening: I am beginning to want to be attractive to others, even if that means sexually attractive. So, I am trying new clothes that I would not have thought “appropriate” before, and I am embracing makeup beyond the minimal to none that I normally wear. As an asexual person, I am even coming to recognize flirting, and to learn to enjoy doing this a bit myself.
I don’t know why this is happening – maybe I am over the “hump” where all the urgent transition things are concerned, and I can simply be a woman now? It’s odd too, because many people know that I’m trans because circumstances mean that I need to be out more than my appearance and manner would suggest. I’m almost in my fourth year of my second puberty, and maybe my body is “far enough” along and hormones have turned my female brain into a woman’s brain, and maybe that’s why?
BUT it’s *such a joy* to be living as myself, a woman…I gladly accept my losses and difficulties for this joy.
(These pics are my spouse and I on our third honeymoon recently – we are into our 26th year of marriage.)
Hey Brettany, It’s always nice to read your post. Even better to see pictures of you and your lovely wife. You two are an inspiration. Love and prayers of forever happiness.
You’re *so kind*!! Blessings!! 🙂