Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I like showing off my assets, even though I’m older….mid 50’s….. I still enjoy being looked at. Getting the occasional whistle doesn’t bother me….lol
I’m comfortable and confident in my own skin.
Heck, I spent a lot of $$ on a pair of assests…..I love wearing pretty clothes that compliment them well….
I like to blend in as I am still young in my HRT , but I don’t really try to blend in . I love sexy clothes and tight mini skirts with some gorgeous platform pumps to show off my sexy tan muscular legs that I have worked so hard on . I do strive to look as womanly as possible , but not plain Jane . There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking sexy each and every time you get dressed . I say “Look the way you feel !”.
It all depends on where I am going and with whom. Last night a group of us got dressed up as witches and saw Wicked. All positive attention from both the cast and the audience. Today, like most Sunday’s, I had lunch with my mom. Dressed to blend. After lunch, went to the driving range and hit a couple of buckets where I spoke with a doctor. Then watched a father help his daughter. Amazing young golfer. She consistently hit her drivers over 200 yards. Better than most of the guys out there. Turns out she has been playing for four years, is 12 years old and has a tournament tomorrow.
I like to blend in and stand out, I love just being me.
hi I’m new at this I’m 62 wating for hormone therapy .iv known for yrs I was fighting my identy now iv comme out as a 62 yr old trangeder male to female I’m more at ease now its in the open I got nothing to hid anymore ,my pratnures drs are happy for me,jennefer g.ty
Hi Lucille honey I haven’t been out in public in about 2 years but the last time I was I blended in I guess no one said a thing to me or who I was with this was at Olive Garden and right before that I went to see a therapist not a gender therapist though and no one said a thing I was treated as a woman every where that day if any body knew I wasn’t a woman I never knew it and I was in shorts and a tank top my therapist was a little shocked when I walked in as I had been there before in male mode I was pretty confident that day and otherwise I didn’t really care if any one knew my wife was with me which helped maybe I’m about to that point again where I just don’t care who knows I’m tired of being in male mode I’m trying to hold off until I move out on my own but it’s really beginning to be a struggle Love M.J.
Hi,
It really depends on what is happening or what occasion I am in.
If at a day to day routine such as shopping for groceries, running errands, etc. blend in.
But if I am going on a date, dance or party, I wish to stand out!
Why is it so difficult to post a photo on this site? Glad I don’t have this much trouble being dressed in public.
It has been my observation (I’m an old queen.Circa 1945) that some of us should dress to “blend in”.
Regretfully, not all of us are blessed with lady like fingers, figures, feet or other non-feminine eye catching features; deep voice, huge body parts and a masculine walk. We swager, yes we do. Yet inside, we’re all alike, desiring to dress up to go out. And Crossdressing as you well know does not discriminate, or take prisoners.Blue collar, White collar or No collar at all, we dress!
I agree with Madam Sorella. Dressing up to blend in is so anticlimactic and after a while, down-right boring. I for one am an adrenalin junkie (still) and need the “rush”.
Living in the Southwest, dressing up consists of flip-flops, cut-off shorts, a tank top and hair pushed up on top of the head. Boring! However, with a little attitude, a decent wig, cute cut-offs and a bra with a strap or two glistening in the sun and one can sail right through any Mall without conjecture. Same Mall with tight dress, hose, big hair and powerful make-up and teenagers will eat you alive.Yeah, the teens with hormones banging around inside their bodies and heads who are trying to figure out who and what they are, Yeah, alive!
My point is; use your environment to your advantage. Go with the flow, just jazz it up,Laydes.
And that’s my 2 cents.
Dorothy
PS Leave the door open for those who will come after you.