Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille; I am a big girl and have trouble passing in public. Do you have any pointers that you can give me? Love Nicole
Since I only want my own breasts, I know that I am unable to blend in due to facial structure, I would stand out. I don’t worry about it. If people don’t like it, oh well, it is their problem to deal with it.
Having my own breasts is my feminine desire. I am happy and thrilled with them, although I would like them more developed!
I definitely want to blend in completely.
I can’t see throwing “my cares about this to the wind ” and just allowing my feminine personality to express who/what I am without the whole “transition package” being in place. Most of it ( transition & blending in) is subject to where one lays in the transgender spectrum, confidence, and self acceptance (acceptance from others proceeds from acceptance of ones self)
So naturally, those of us with profound gender dysphoria, who can’t stand our maleness, blending is a non-negoitable.
It’s imparitive.
ditto that Summer!
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To make it short: ideally stand out but blend in is already good
When grocery shopping, doing errands, out for dinner with other passing cd’s, or thrift shopping with my wife, I want to totally blend. GONE are the days when I would wear anything that sets me apart from cisgender females when under those conditions. BUT, when clubbing, the more risqué fashions, vertiginous heels, heavy night-look makeup, sheer bra with large nipples easily noticeable through my outer wear, skimpy skirts & tight, form-fitting blouses, eye-catching leg-wear, & spray-painted looking wigs are what I’ll be wearing.
I go out for both types of occasions, but you’ll never see me wearing a prom dress or tutu while buying onions, nor would I EVER be caught DEAD wearing day-wear at a club where the goal is to SEE & BE SEEN.
I have been on my journey for about twenty-eight years. I,absolutely, love blending in and being accepted as a woman. I love the treatment I receive and being part of the group. I don’t know how well I pass but I have had nothing but positive responses and,sometimes, get identified as female even if I am in “guy mode”. Thanks for all you do for us. Hugs. Janet
I guess for me it is a bit of both, when ‘out & about’ in public. I want to blend in, so I don’t look obviously out of place, but I also want to look and feel as feminine as possible so always wear a skirt or a dress and do my make up as nicely as possible without going overboard as it is daytime.
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Hi, this is all about confidence. Initially it is important to blend in and just be accepted as a woman, able to use the appropriate rest room without worry. Passing without any problems is always very important to all of us girls. Then as the confidence and femininity develops you will feel really good when you start to receive complements about your hair, nails or a really nice dress. And wow do you feel good…….
Wendy
I agree Wendy. Thank you.
I totally agree with you. It is wonderful to have others complament you on your dress and shoes when you feel relaxed being yourself.