Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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i live as a girl 24/7 and luv it. once i came out to the girls at work it’s been fantastic. they treat me as one of the girls and they are just so supportive. we go out for drink after work and i am truly one of the girls. and it’s so nice to be able to chat about things that i like talking about . . . . fashion, make-up, cute hair styles, and the best . . . . guys! the best part is i’ve always been petite and have always had very feminine features so i truly look like the girl i was meant to be. i hope transitioning is in my future. all my girlfriends say i should go for it!
You should totally go for it , just make sure you really , really want it as it will be a very big life change. It took me 3 year’s to transition which is quick. But if you do go
For it best wishes x.
Nicola, You are very beautiful. If I were to meet you on the street, I would never guess that you were anything but a Girl. Good Job. WOW..!!!!!
Ur super gorgeous. Id luv to take u out to electric forest or something
Wow, you are living the life I wish I could. However, I am 72 and a bit beyond the working/job scene (I’m retired). In my life I have met with almost uniform rejection and hostility; so I pretty much keep to myself. Fortunately I am single so I can be as feminine in my apt as I please and do so at all times. It’s not ideal but at least it’s something. Thank you for sharing – All the best to you. Sandra
Hi Lucille, like many others I voted ‘blend in’, but it really is both, or it may even be neither. I don’t think I ever consciously try to blend in or stand out. I try to look my very best, but I do so for me and my own satisfaction. In the process this might well make me stand out in the crowd or blend in so I don’t raise an eyebrow. Maybe it depends on how good you feel about yourself on the day that makes the difference.
When I was younger I cut a pretty chic figure; but now that I’m retired and 72 I do not go out at all but stay feminized in my apt. 24/7. It’s not ideal but it’s better than nothing. Otherwise I completely agree with your sentiments. All the best to you. Sandra
Well for me i have mostly tried to blend in not wanting to attract the wrong kind of attention but i do luv when a woman or a man compliments me there is such a wonderful feeling i get and since i dress in public all the time i have started to want more attention i am comfortable when dressed dont pass 100% but seem to not get to much negative comments or attention of course i get some weird looks sometimes but again my comfort level is high
Hi, i am a large person by anyones standards, i have lost over 4st in weight but am still in a dress size 28. I am getting smaller, but painfully slowly. I am also 57yo, so my days of mini skirts ae well passed. ( i never had them really as i was in denial of my femme side when younger)
I try and dress my age and size, to blend, but i would also like to be noticed as a woman, so i try to pass too. I am not sure what success i have. I do go out dressed and do normal things, shopping, just walking about in a skirt or dress is a fantastic feeling. I am not sure if imagine the sideways glances or if people are laughing at me behind my back. I have not had any bad experiences by yobs etc, but i also tend only to go to safe places.
I would love to hear from other large girls to hear how they cope.
Lesley
Hi…I try to stand out. I am 5′ 7″ and 145 pounds with silicone implants and I like showing them off. They are small 38A…but with some creativity, they look much larger. I try to cross monthly and stepping out is always such a joy. I no longer try to hide my implants as a male and surprisingly, no one seems to care. My work place is just the same, even when I wear a tight-fitting T-Shirt. I play golf as a male and dress in mostly gender neutral clothing…slightly feminine and even in that environment, I seem to get nothing more than an occasional boob check.
When crossed, I do get some attention from men…I find that interesting…and flattering, but still makes me a little uncomfortable in that I am straight. It is nothing more than gentle flirting, but it does support my endeavor to look feminine when crossed.
So this is a bit of a tough one because I think the honest answer is both. I want to blend in but also want men to look as they would an attractive fit woman and I want women to notice and think, I like her hair, or like that dress or those shoes! That said, this year has been fabulous for me as I am now a size 10, stand 5’8″ and blend in so well and able to also attract the attention mentioned above.
I want to blend and stand out, for now I just want to blend in, I prefer the natural look, If I can blend in naturally to look like a woman with the help of female hormones, then I will want to stand out, I love compliments
I too want both to blend in and also stand out. I wear jewelry and makeup in my male mode to stand out,
but when I dress as a woman I do so conservatively.
Paula