Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Passing was and is very important to me. In most situations it’s best just to blend in. On a typical Saturday of running errands and shopping, how many girls/women are going to be perfectly coiffed, expertly made up, and in heels and a dress? Though you may look good, great even, you’re going to stand out, this is going to prey on your mind and come across in your expressions and will lead people to say/think “hmmm.”
personally i want to stand out the way so many of my fem role models do. we can’t hide our light under a basket much longer.the world knows we are here. so why not be ourselves. if you reconize the icon i hope you can understand why i altered it. i’m not gay so the upside down consentraition camp sign for homosexual does not apply to me. the red is for the blood that runs through your viens. we are not genetic freaks or one offs we aren’t mental cases that need treatiment.we are we who we are. passing is good but the devine femine in us is so strong we have to respond to it. so respond to it in the most posative way you can
As a TG M2F I want to be the best I can be. I have my good days and bad ones, just like any other GG, we’re only human. But I enjoy being myself and Female and the friendships and attention that goes with it. What more can a girl ask for.—Blessings, Elynn
Hi Lucille
I used to be Gemma but have decided to change my name to Alana as that is my first name of my male self & the A is my middle initial.
I like to blend with my clothes I wear nothing to bright that would stand out in a crowd, I don’t wear make up a lot of the time but do tend to trim my eye browse have a close shave & style my hair in a feminine way currently in a curly pixie style, when I don’t wear make up this makes me stand out as & a guy wearing fem clothes & breast forms or is it as a hairy woman haven’t yet decided. I do get glances from other people which I like but at the same time make me a little nervous, when I want want to be real girly I wear make up but am not to good at the eye liner mascara & lip stick yet don’t have chances to practise all that much.
just adding some pics but also would like to say, when I go out sometimes I wear trouser & a fem top other times I wear them with a dress, have only been out locally a couple of times just wearing a dress tights & top to cover up my shoulders & arms but always wear decent lingerie & breast forms, I have been to the cinema/movies as a female on more than 1 occasion gone to the ladies & done my make up then into watch the film in a dress tights short sleeved top & good lingerie.
girls of today like to stand out not just in what they wear but in how they behave to, it seems like a lot of girls are just showing of but the way they are dressed & how they behave like getting drunk like lads do, it all comes down to personality if your out going, shy, reserved or flamboyant, I was shy to go out when I was younger plus living at home I thought I couldn’t go out dressed but the last 3 years or so I have been going out dressed up not so much that it would be noticeable in the town where I live but more so in my neighbouring towns I would consider myself as a reserved character & that shows in the way I dress, my dad is indifferent to it but I think my mum has become more accepting to my dressing as I sometimes wear fem clothes when around & the fact that we have rare conversations about the subject of dressing in women’s clothes when not working I always wear fem panties sometimes a bra & depending on how tired I am when I go to bed for sleep I will put on a nighty, pjs or something else feminine.
what you wear & what you do is down to you the individual just be who you are not what’s expected of you be true to yourself I am, I don’t worry about make up probable because I tend to think badly done make is worse than no make up at all a little foundation & blusher is the most I usually do I would love to be competent at doing the rest but I am not.
so just be you when your out as your female self.
i really have a hard time trying to blend in so i tend to just try and be myself and dress conservative all the time. i’m 6′ 2″ , so i always stand out in a crowd anyways. i wear tight tops, skin type women strech pants, and yes sometimes i do like my heels, but usually flat type shoes. And on special outings i like to wear my dresses at the place’s i go, my friends say i look good, do my own makeup, some of lucille sorella’s make up tips and yes i’m a full time pre-op ts and love my new life. i own my own semi truck and trailer and travel all over the US always trying to just be myself.
Charlene Clair
I have found that i dont blend in or stand out i tend to just reelax and be me yes looks are everythng so i dress approiate for the time and place mostly found just being myself i fit in and am happy may every one be happy and thier wishes and dreams be fullfilled huggsss Jenelle
Depends on what I am doing, if I am doing everyday things I blend in, but when I am doing drag, I want to be noticed, and I do get noticed LOL.
i love to just blend in in most cases but then i tried to stand out wearing a cute mini sky high heels and large breast forms under my tight top as i walked along the street a bus went by and i received several whistles and cat calls about being sexy it made me realize that if i wanted to blend in i might as well dress as a guy :)~ i love being noticed now