Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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We often tend to get too hung up on how we are being perceived rather than just enjoying being who we really are and trying to emulate the the whole female package is very difficult especially after fear of being publicly humiliated if we look or act to feminine .So I do make a conscious effort to change my everyday mannerisms although it takes lots of mental conditioning to make these changes and to make them look and feel natural.I guess my point is looking and acting the part are only 50 % of my focus because I feel it is equally important to just enjoy being me life is to short not to enjoy yourself.some of us get an earlier start or just have a more feminine body type but none of us are getting younger so enjoy TODAY!
Well, to be honest, I also enjoy the ‘looking and acting’ part myself even though I agree it requires some re-conditioning on the mannerisms. Some of them, however, are actually very beneficial: standing or sitting straight (as opposed to slouching, bending down, and so forth), for instance, benefits one’s posture, no matter what gender one is.
I am constantly crossing arms. Ill make sure tobwork on that!
This past Tuesday I finally began hormones. So excited for the future. Currently I’m learning to style my hair and trying to lean away from using my wigs. Here is me after my salon appt the other night. Felt amazing.
Thanks,
Ayva
You look Great, I’m trying to find a place for a makeover and a/ or salon that’s safer and not right in the middle of a mall or cost $$$$$ amounts of money.
Christina III
you have got great hair sweetie, and you look great. lauralynn
Awww thanks hun, you’re so sweet. I’m so excited for the future now.
Thanks,
Ayva
You are looking good Ayva. Hair looks nice.
hi from tom
i whont to be a woman how can i change my male body into a female body i that i’m a woman on insaid
tom
Depends on what country you live in and just how feminine you already are.
look into it do your research and make calls to professionals or talk to your (girl) friends to help you out. best of luck 🙂
I am mostly guilty of not smiling enough. After so many years of cringing everytime I looked at or thought about myself, it is difficult. I do most everything else and have been ma’amed a lot. I get more stares because I am dressed up when they are not. It is the way I was raised.
Go out in public, always try to be presentable.
Like Marilyn Monroe said, ‘A smile is the best makeup a girl could wear’ 🙂 She was right: it completely transforms one’s face.
I noticed the picture you have of the lady at the top of this post has her hands on her hip and the purse draped over her arm – I would imagine that this isn’t the best feminine pose in the world – just curious. Not sure about the other arm position ( maybe that is covered by – resting your chin on your hands and elbows )
Its been terribly difficult to flow free of 60 years of stiff male movement. Something that helps me tremendously when walking is to play a song like “The Girl From Ipanema” in my head.
me too. i have too many years of male stiffness. i tend to watch very attractive natural cis women walk and then kind of pretend in my head that j am that person. it helps. my worst enemy is my voice, even when im out and ppl call me ma’am .. the second i open my mouth i either sound like a gay male or just male. its horrible. i tend to talk without voicing at times to try to avoid the sir after openung ny trap. anyhu .. lauralynn fr now
I haven’t really thought about it. But sure I have alot of bad one. I am just starting to understand what it has been living as the wrong sex. I am so much happier when I am dressed as a woman. So I will start dressing more and learning how to do makeup right. Thank billy