Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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I really enjoy your articles, thank you for doing this. It help a lot.
Hope
Hi Lucily,
The tips given are great and wonderful.
Would like to add here a small thing.
While waiting at public places, (say Metro station or mall ), for some one, keep legs as close as possible and not distance apart.
I hope this is an important note.
Love you.
By
If you are really brave, a good cure for keeping your knees apart is to not wear underwear. You tend to stay really conscious of that condition, and keep those knees together. It’s kinda thrilling, too… Of course, if you do it too much, you might forget sometimes. Not a good idea!
I wish I was more confident to go out in public. I’ve done it but feel self conscious. I want to go out in public every day as my female self but don’t quite have the courage. Maybe I will try to do it more often and just go with it……
Here’s a couple more recent pics
May I add, that a lady should always keep her toes polished or buffed, and please make sure to not have big ugly callouses on your heels, if your going to wear open back shoes. Just saying….
Hey Hon, great legs!! Love your pics! 🙂
With such gorgeous looks, I’m sure it cannot take much time for you to build up your self-esteem and confidence!!
Thank you for the kind words and compliments……thinking of taking things public this week.
Thank you for all the great comments and yes I am safe….it’s always a work in progress
Christina III,
Thank you and I understand….it takes time patience and learning to love yourself forvwho you are…..society can be cruel. Keep smiling!!!
You are very Pretty, Be safe and the best of luck. Being out is a freedom I doubt I will ever truly experience. The more society accepts us the safer it will be, but from where I live , staying private is my wheelhouse for now. I’m still hoping Lucille will start a activity board for places and activities for us Gurls.
Christina III
You’re incredible! You look so pretty, so perfect… You should come out with your feminine side and be happy with yourself, because you are really good looking woman! Best wishes! xxx
Wow Makayla this is Petra you look hot in those picture. Hope you keep sending those beautiful picture. Petra
Hi MJ,
Thank you for the kind words. I’m deeply touched to read this. I’m so blessed to be part of this wonderful community!
Hugs,
Lucille
We’re the ones who are blessed by you Lucille honey you mean more to us than you know at least as far as I’m concerned I really can’t speak for all the rest but I’ll bet they feel much as I do honey Love MJ
Hi Lucille honey I’m just trying to get you a better pic maybe this one is better love MJ
Hi Lucille honey I finally getting you a photo I took it didn’t turn out very good
I too have sinned on several of the 27 but I have to work at correction constantly.
One you didn’t refer to is the “man stand” ! like a footballer posing for a photograph ! Feet apart and splayed out , the pose kills any femine look immediately.
Deportment classes at our meeting using a dance studio mirror might be the answer.
Jeanette, Learned that if one swallows 1 tablespoon of olive oil it will soften ones’ voice for 3-5 hours as every one is different. Also don’t drink or eat or it will wash away the effect. It will make your voice more feminine. I also find that Dolman Sleeve style of the 80’s which is coming back now has a drop under arm which will slenderize one’s torso. Let me know what you think about this. Joy
What do you mean waiting for moderation?